lillymountain Posted October 7, 2009 Share Posted October 7, 2009 Hi, i think, i need some advice seems that i'm going through almost every possible emotional stage in my LDR. At the moment it's pretty bad - i'm pretty busy studying and i started to work again a week ago (in the same position i already worked 4 years). it's pretty well paid and i kind of need the money, but i'm basically busy 6 days a week. We knew that from the start - our plan was, that he would look for a job and earn money and then come over for a few months again. but it turned out to be more difficult than we thought he is still looking for work and so we have no definite plans for the the next months to come. I try to compensate by flying over as often as i can, in two weeks ill be there for one day. ...and i started looking for something more flexible even if i get paid less. i just feel so trapped a t the moment - i had to try hard not to start crying at work today - it almost feels like im on the edge of getting really depressed. I know he is busy looking for work, but cant he come just one weekend?? he goes on tiny weekendtrips with his friends as well (well, at least he plans to).. we talk every day, i know he misses me a lot and that he is struggling too, but its hard at these days. i told him yesterday, how i feel and he said, maybe it would be better if i didn't live as much in his life but concentrated on mine, so he hurts less. and if it would be good for me to talk every day. I dont want to ask him to come, it doesnt feel rigth to me. maybe its affecting me as well, that im not very happy with my work, it feels like going backwards in my life. We talk more than ever, but he doesnt suggest,that he could come as well and he doesnt really talk about moving here anymore. its just sit and wait and feeling trapped.... i hope this post was not too long... Link to post Share on other sites
Thebob Posted October 11, 2009 Share Posted October 11, 2009 If you guys love each other, and care about each other then nothing will break your bond. Nothing feels better knowing that someone is out their that cares for you. Don't feel depressed because this is just a step in the bonding process and once you two get to see each other a lot more then everything will be tremendously great. Tough it out! Link to post Share on other sites
kimflute26 Posted October 11, 2009 Share Posted October 11, 2009 Wait, is there some reason why he doesn't come to see you? If he goes on other weekend trips and can't squeeze in one for you then that's questionable... Link to post Share on other sites
Author lillymountain Posted October 12, 2009 Author Share Posted October 12, 2009 thank you guys for your replies. i actually feel a lot better already,.... this weekend trip i was worried about was that he thought it would be one of the weekends, when i'm superbusy studying, and his friends had already planned this trip, so he thought he might join them. i think it is sometimes more a communication problem - and he is very "guyish" and often tries to solve problems in silence, whereas i want to talk about them to feel better. tnx again Link to post Share on other sites
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