Kayla19 Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 My boyfriend does little things now and again to hurt me and make me feel bad about myself or jealous of him. we're both 20. I'm starting to hate myself, i look in the mirror and see faults, my self esteem has fallen beyond belief! These are some examples: - He jokes about my "tiny breasts" (im a slim girl, im proportionate.) - He then tells me that he watches porn to look at all the gorgeous model women with "amazing massive breasts!!" and says how hot a big chest is, he says it to my face, when he knows im smaller chested. - He's a big fan of a certain porn model and has photos of her all over his room. He looked at one of the posters today and infront of me, he said "god, she's so beautiful!!". I felt so ugly, standing there listening to that. - He also "jokes" about me having breast implants - When he sees women with large breasts when we're out, he stares. Why is he doing this? Am I being paranoid? It's starting to make me feel so jealous and self concious, i look at my body in the mirror everyday and nver feel like im good enough. Link to post Share on other sites
gopher Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 He's a moron...why in the world would you put up with this stuff. If he's this immature, what about him makes him attractive to you? You deserve better!! Link to post Share on other sites
Bejita463 Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 If he wants a woman with bigger breasts so bad, help him along. Kick him to the curb where he can try to get one. Link to post Share on other sites
Dark-Farmer Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 Yeah that's bull. My girlfriend isn't small but she isn't large and i would never say that to her. Very inconsiderate and immature. Not all men love massive porn star about to burst breats, i'm sure you can find one of them. Side note is it just me or is it weird to have a porn star photo's all over your room? if not at the very least tacky? Link to post Share on other sites
SophieA Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 Tell him that you enjoy BIG MASSIVE pen1s and "joke" about how he should get an implant. Seriously sweetie, don't let him make you feel bad about yourself! Get rid of this jerk! There are TONS of guys out there who will worship your body EXACTLY how you are. Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 He's not going to change. You should leave him so you can look in the mirror and be happy again. Link to post Share on other sites
PandorasBox Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 He's an idiot, think better of yourself! You wont be able to do that as long as he is around, thats for sure! Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 My boyfriend does little things now and again to hurt me and make me feel bad about myself or jealous of him. we're both 20. I'm starting to hate myself, i look in the mirror and see faults, my self esteem has fallen beyond belief! These are some examples: - He jokes about my "tiny breasts" (im a slim girl, im proportionate.) - He then tells me that he watches porn to look at all the gorgeous model women with "amazing massive breasts!!" and says how hot a big chest is, he says it to my face, when he knows im smaller chested. - He's a big fan of a certain porn model and has photos of her all over his room. He looked at one of the posters today and infront of me, he said "god, she's so beautiful!!". I felt so ugly, standing there listening to that. - He also "jokes" about me having breast implants - When he sees women with large breasts when we're out, he stares. Why is he doing this? Am I being paranoid? It's starting to make me feel so jealous and self concious, i look at my body in the mirror everyday and nver feel like im good enough. That's messed up! I would never waste my time on someone who does not accept me the way I am. Why is this guy worth your time? Link to post Share on other sites
MichiganMan222 Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 I had a coworker who was manipulated to think she was horrible, worthless, unworthy, etc. The guy was such a loser, he had to find easy targets and destroy their self-esteem to keep them. Most of the girls he dealt with were strong and told him to go get bent. But my coworker was not and ended up with a miserable, abusive life for many years. So be strong and get rid of this scumbag, or be weak, become his emotional slave and live miserably. Let us know which you pick. Link to post Share on other sites
tryagaintoday Posted October 9, 2009 Share Posted October 9, 2009 I always advocate open communication. Talk to him about your unhappiness. If things don't improve. Leave. Simple. Link to post Share on other sites
Hkizzle Posted October 9, 2009 Share Posted October 9, 2009 Start bringing up the 4 insecurities of men and dig it in real hard. 1) Does he have any hair loss? If so tell him he is very handsom, but it's a pity he's losing his hair....... 2) Does he have a small penis or is his dick bent? If so tell him you love him even though his dick is too small or deformed. 3) Is he below 5"10? If so tell him you love him even though he's below average height. 4) Does he have a decent job? If no, then tell him it's ok that he has a crap job and he's career is going nowhere. The economy isn't that good anyway. Or you could just dump him, but really, don't put up with this crap. Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted October 9, 2009 Share Posted October 9, 2009 Start bringing up the 4 insecurities of men and dig it in real hard. 1) Does he have any hair loss? If so tell him he is very handsom, but it's a pity he's losing his hair....... 2) Does he have a small penis or is his dick bent? If so tell him you love him even though his dick is too small or deformed. 3) Is he below 5"10? If so tell him you love him even though he's below average height. 4) Does he have a decent job? If no, then tell him it's ok that he has a crap job and he's career is going nowhere. The economy isn't that good anyway. Or you could just dump him, but really, don't put up with this crap. These would be good revenge, but you should still leave the guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted October 9, 2009 Share Posted October 9, 2009 Start bringing up the 4 insecurities of men and dig it in real hard. 1) Does he have any hair loss? If so tell him he is very handsom, but it's a pity he's losing his hair....... 2) Does he have a small penis or is his dick bent? If so tell him you love him even though his dick is too small or deformed. 3) Is he below 5"10? If so tell him you love him even though he's below average height. 4) Does he have a decent job? If no, then tell him it's ok that he has a crap job and he's career is going nowhere. The economy isn't that good anyway. Or you could just dump him, but really, don't put up with this crap. That would be sinking to his level.. Kayla if your boyfriend wants a girl who is big breasted than tell him to go find one. You don't need that! Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted October 9, 2009 Share Posted October 9, 2009 Yeah Kayla, why would you stay with him? Tell him to stop or your leaving. Link to post Share on other sites
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 9, 2009 Share Posted October 9, 2009 My boyfriend does little things now and again to hurt me and make me feel bad about myself or jealous of him. we're both 20. I'm starting to hate myself, i look in the mirror and see faults, my self esteem has fallen beyond belief! These are some examples: - He jokes about my "tiny breasts" (im a slim girl, im proportionate.) - He then tells me that he watches porn to look at all the gorgeous model women with "amazing massive breasts!!" and says how hot a big chest is, he says it to my face, when he knows im smaller chested. - He's a big fan of a certain porn model and has photos of her all over his room. He looked at one of the posters today and infront of me, he said "god, she's so beautiful!!". I felt so ugly, standing there listening to that. - He also "jokes" about me having breast implants - When he sees women with large breasts when we're out, he stares. Why is he doing this? Am I being paranoid? It's starting to make me feel so jealous and self concious, i look at my body in the mirror everyday and nver feel like im good enough. No, you're not being paranoid. He's manipulating you with backhanded comments, and it's cruel. It's my opinion that he doesn't appreciate what he has. And if he's acting like this all the time it's a big problem. If he's conciously trying to make you feel insecure, it's far from a healthy relationship. I think you should stand up for yourself, that might be the best thing to do aside from dumping him. Link to post Share on other sites
JustLooking123 Posted October 9, 2009 Share Posted October 9, 2009 I think that you should either: 1. Break up with him immediately for being a rude, insensitive jerk, or 2. Tell him that you feel disrespected and hurt when he makes negative comments about your body, and that you will leave him if it keeps up. Then stick to your word. Link to post Share on other sites
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