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Why are men more tolerant of jealousy?


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Ok I know its a generalization and doesn't apply all the time, but from my experience men have a much easier time putting up with jealousy and insecurity. Why do you think this is the case?

 

From a guys perspective, yeah it can be annoying if your gf constantly harps about this, but its actually a little flattering and strokes the ego as well so I really don't think its a big deal at all and try to be reassuring when it happens. However whenever I express any concern about her meeting with guys or having girls night out or whatever its "OMG! you don't trust me" or "you're smothering me" or "I can see whoever I want" or "I just want to feel sexy" blah blah blah when all I'm looking for is a little reassurance sometimes. These reactions only make it worse I think.

 

I think the reason is that outside validation / flirtation from other men isn't so innocent as a lot of women make it out to be (even if its just on a subconcious level) and when we call you out on it its a defense mechanism to cover up any bad intentions. I'm sure I'll take some flak on this one, just curious what other people's opinions are. Ok perhaps I have a bit of a jealousy issue.

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Ok I know its a generalization and doesn't apply all the time, but from my experience men have a much easier time putting up with jealousy and insecurity. Why do you think this is the case?

 

Actually, I think this has a fairly simple answer. No, seriously.

 

Psychologists have known for a while that men pretty consistently rank loyalty as the most important virtue in a woman. If a woman is conspicuously jealous, that suggests, at least on a naive level, that she's concerned about keeping the relationship intact.

 

I think that's pretty much it.

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