musicfan876 Posted October 10, 2009 Share Posted October 10, 2009 Don't you think it is interesting that men always marry down? Men will marry poor women. Men will marry disabled women. But women will not do that as often as men. And if they do they will resent the man. And men have to provide too. Which means women get more times with their families, less stress, more fulfilling careers, longer lifespans and no risk of alimony. Men earn more yet women spend more. Damn us women have all the power. Other women know it too. The only you have to do is : Believe they are NOT out of your league. Better yet, know that YOU are above thier league and they'll believe THAT. And right or wrong, thats what they want. You are not out of their league. And to make it easier for you...men are even more insecure than women regarding the whole league thing, so its not hard for them to assume you are the golden ring...AND men, to me, seem less interested in "dating up" than women. Women add many more things to their considerations regarding "dating up" than men do. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2426919#post2426919 Link to post Share on other sites
libertygirl Posted November 16, 2009 Share Posted November 16, 2009 This old stand by...what you wrote is so untrue. Woman are the ones who mary the Funny guy, the Cool guy, the Romantic guy..and all of these guys can be chubby, somewhat dense, or whatever...if a man has a quality they really want, woman are willing to look over a lot!!! You think men have it easy? Ha! Woman work, cook, clean, help kids with homework, drive them here and there, have to keep up with aging parents, be the main communicator between both sides of the family etc etc. Men only do one of those things - go to work. You have a 1950s way of seeing the world - PLEASE step into REALITY. We are freaking women married to very sub par "supermen";may have been super a long time ago...but not so much today. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Don't you think it is interesting that men always marry down? Men will marry poor women. Men will marry disabled women. They will?!!! Not the ones I know. They want educated, healthy and goodlooking wives. Where do you live? Link to post Share on other sites
StalledGirl Posted November 21, 2009 Share Posted November 21, 2009 Total Tripe! If anything it's women who are willing to marry down. Men always have silly expectations and are less forgiving than women. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted November 21, 2009 Share Posted November 21, 2009 Depends on the culture, religion, and even the government sometimes. With that said, get off the "which gender is superior in marital bliss" and realize that Humans in general make some Humdingers of choices based on the most illogical of reasoning. Love has no rationale to it. A marriage counselor once told a couple before there blessed wedding day, see that person for who they are and what they can become, then make it happen!!! A genuine marriage takes BOTH to encourage and flourish each others dreams. Shortcomings are a human trait. I about fell off my chair when I read that a woman marries down if the man is handicapped. My Grand Dad was Cripple since childhood polio. He accomplished the following in his life- six kids fed and educated, Became a County official for 20 years, Worked on the Church board, Worked on Political campaigns, Donated time and money to two important charities, And that to some is Marrying DOWN because some just saw his handicap?? The handicap is the onlooker who cant see beyond the leg braces. I'm so glad that my Grandma saw the person he could be. And I know for a fact My GrandDad, if the tables would have turned, would have cared for my Grandma, thats just the kind of loving relationship they had. Link to post Share on other sites
Thornton Posted November 21, 2009 Share Posted November 21, 2009 Don't you think it is interesting that men always marry down? Men will marry poor women. Men will marry disabled women. ... and women will marry ugly men if they have other redeeming qualities such as a nice personality and a good career. Men (especially successful and wealthy men) rarely want to marry ugly women. A man doesn't care so much about a woman's staus as long as she's beautiful and smart (or sometimes just beautiful!) while women don't care so much about a man's looks as long as he's high status and has a good career. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 21, 2009 Share Posted November 21, 2009 ... and women will marry ugly men if they have other redeeming qualities such as a nice personality and a good career. Men (especially successful and wealthy men) rarely want to marry ugly women. A man doesn't care so much about a woman's staus as long as she's beautiful and smart (or sometimes just beautiful!) while women don't care so much about a man's looks as long as he's high status and has a good career. Yeah Thornton, and why is that? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 21, 2009 Share Posted November 21, 2009 Depends on the culture, religion, and even the government sometimes. With that said, get off the "which gender is superior in marital bliss" and realize that Humans in general make some Humdingers of choices based on the most illogical of reasoning. Love has no rationale to it. A marriage counselor once told a couple before there blessed wedding day, see that person for who they are and what they can become, then make it happen!!! A genuine marriage takes BOTH to encourage and flourish each others dreams. Shortcomings are a human trait. I about fell off my chair when I read that a woman marries down if the man is handicapped. My Grand Dad was Cripple since childhood polio. He accomplished the following in his life- six kids fed and educated, Became a County official for 20 years, Worked on the Church board, Worked on Political campaigns, Donated time and money to two important charities, And that to some is Marrying DOWN because some just saw his handicap?? The handicap is the onlooker who cant see beyond the leg braces. I'm so glad that my Grandma saw the person he could be. And I know for a fact My GrandDad, if the tables would have turned, would have cared for my Grandma, thats just the kind of loving relationship they had. Your Grandpa sounds like one wonderful man. More men should be like him. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted November 21, 2009 Share Posted November 21, 2009 Well, I've only seen one woman's marriage behavior, that of my stbx, and I'd prefer not to stereotype a whole gender based on one marriage Every individual and every dynamic is unique. Part of the beauty of life is being open to all possibilities. Enjoy Link to post Share on other sites
Thornton Posted November 22, 2009 Share Posted November 22, 2009 Yeah Thornton, and why is that? At a guess I'd say that men and women have different primary criteria when looking for a mate. Men are more visually oriented, plus many men would expect to be the main breadwinner while the woman raises his children, so he places less importance on her wealth and status and more on her attractiveness and suitability as a wife and mother. A woman, on the other hand, knows that her man is probably going to be the main breadwinner while she raises children, so if she wants to raise them comfortably and securely she has to choose a financially stable and protective man; she's less concerned what he looks like and more concerned about his ability to provide for a family. Although this is not true of every man or woman, I believe it's pretty accurate for those of childbearing age who want children. For older people and people who don't want children, I guess attraction probably trumps stability and security. Link to post Share on other sites
Debbie_Hawk Posted November 23, 2009 Share Posted November 23, 2009 I think it is the opposite as well. I think women marry down and could do better well more then men. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted November 24, 2009 Share Posted November 24, 2009 Thorton wrote (In part) "so if she wants to raise them comfortably and securely she has to choose a financially stable and protective man; she's less concerned what he looks like and more concerned about his ability to provide for a family. " Now where were you with that theory when I got hitched! Gosh... I married a handsome , well educated man that accomplished much. He even made it clear that I pursue my own career! Not because of our children but that I have something to be proud of and contribute to society wise. We divorced due to my foolish mistakes, but I sure as heck didnt follow the norm as most here theorize upon. I married for love and really did beleive he was a wonderful friend in my life! Yeah he was handsome and yeah I knew we would struggle for him to make it thru school, but I also knew he supported my goals. Money and stability were No where in our cards and I am grateful they werent! I learned more from struggling then I did from any rich well to do'er. Weird as it sounds, we both married "down" and brought each other up in a way that only married persons could understand Link to post Share on other sites
Malenfant Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 Don't you think it is interesting that men always marry down? Men will marry poor women. Men will marry disabled women. But women will not do that as often as men. And if they do they will resent the man. And men have to provide too. Which means women get more times with their families, less stress, more fulfilling careers, longer lifespans and no risk of alimony. Men earn more yet women spend more. Damn us women have all the power. Other women know it too. its views like this that give women a bad name. Link to post Share on other sites
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