Author terminus1256 Posted October 15, 2009 Author Share Posted October 15, 2009 I know I need to go NC but... it's driving me insane. I don't know how you people just stop all contact like that... it's all I think about Link to post Share on other sites
NopeNah Posted October 15, 2009 Share Posted October 15, 2009 I know I need to go NC but... it's driving me insane. I don't know how you people just stop all contact like that... it's all I think about That's what NC is for.. After a while it's(she) not all you'll think about. It's not easy at all but, it's the best thing to help you heal and begin to live your life for you again. That's the only choice she left you with when she ended it. Don't let her have that control over you anymore. She's gone as of now and possibly for ever. The sooner you accept that and begin to move on the better off you'll be..in a much faster time also. Link to post Share on other sites
Leveller Posted October 15, 2009 Share Posted October 15, 2009 I still love my ex eight months after we split. I got treated like crap and came back for more like Pavlov's dog. Still NC was about the hardest thing I have ever done; IME worse than any bereavement but it has made me miss her less, get my feelings back in check, take stock. The power she had over me by staying in contact and fighting for her time and affection was counter-productive. It not only pushed her away, I lowered my self-respect and self-esteem to the point where I had lost all sense of who I was. I do a bit of pblic speaking and all I could think about was her the whole time. I doormatted myself and her respect for me has been virtually non-existant at points. She could pick me up and drop me. Speak to me like I was retarded and still I came back. Yes, I got FWB but she is still with the guy she effectively left me for and is now 'in love' but even tonight (8 months later) she contacts me. Please, please do not do what I did. Link to post Share on other sites
Turista Posted October 15, 2009 Share Posted October 15, 2009 2 out of my 3 major previous partners came back looking for me a year or so after the split... In both cases, I had moved on... Currently, I broke up 2 months ago with a lunatic (check my previous posts). She had a new dude within a few weeks. He's rich. That's what she's looking for the most. Nothing else really matters. Her right to have all her material needs met by her friends and especially her lover were all she went on about in the final days. That said, my ex has been in one rebound relationship after another since her 20s because she doesn't like to be alone. And with jumbo C cup foobies like hers, she need not be. What's my point? I'm expecting her to attempt a comeback sometime late in 2010 to early 2011. Tic tic tock says the biological clock. And she knows I want to settle down and have kids. By then, I expect I'll have found something much better. Even jumbo C cup foobies can't make overripe fruit look good so she needs to settle down before she's ready to be the main attraction in a box of raisin bran and I'm the natural remedy alas. Link to post Share on other sites
Leveller Posted October 15, 2009 Share Posted October 15, 2009 2 out of my 3 major previous partners came back looking for me a year or so after the split... In both cases, I had moved on... Currently, I broke up 2 months ago with a lunatic (check my previous posts). She had a new dude within a few weeks. He's rich. That's what she's looking for the most. Nothing else really matters. Her right to have all her material needs met by her friends and especially her lover were all she went on about in the final days. That said, my ex has been in one rebound relationship after another since her 20s because she doesn't like to be alone. And with jumbo C cup foobies like hers, she need not be. What's my point? I'm expecting her to attempt a comeback sometime late in 2010 to early 2011. Tic tic tock says the biological clock. And she knows I want to settle down and have kids. By then, I expect I'll have found something much better. Even jumbo C cup foobies can't make overripe fruit look good so she needs to settle down before she's ready to be the main attraction in a box of raisin bran and I'm the natural remedy alas. My ex also has jumbo d cup foobies and I'm expecting a Feb 2010 re-entry date. Tick-tock...she also has never really been out of a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Turista Posted October 15, 2009 Share Posted October 15, 2009 My ex also has jumbo d cup foobies and I'm expecting a Feb 2010 re-entry date. Tick-tock...she also has never really been out of a relationship. If I had known when I was married, the power of foobies, I would not have discouraged my genius (seriously) wife at the time from getting them. She was a low B cup. They were beautiful on her body. But if she had upgraded to Jumbo C cup foobies, I expect she'd rule Silicon Valley by now. I wouldn't have believed this before dating the butjob, but I sure do now. I have seen men worth tens of millions of dollars reduced to drooling sycophants by this nonsense... At the end, I am appalled and yet fascinated by the power of funbags... Link to post Share on other sites
Leveller Posted October 16, 2009 Share Posted October 16, 2009 We should start a seperate thread on the power of foobies lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Author terminus1256 Posted October 16, 2009 Author Share Posted October 16, 2009 I've been NC for 5 days and already I've heard she's been regretting her rebound and misses me. Still going on strong. Link to post Share on other sites
NopeNah Posted October 16, 2009 Share Posted October 16, 2009 I've been NC for 5 days and already I've heard she's been regretting her rebound and misses me. Still going on strong. Just a heads up here.. My ex did the same thing but, after about 3wks of NC. She then "wanted to try again"..That only lasted a week before she went back to the other guy. I again went NC..2 months later she was back again. I broke it off after a week.. because she hadn't changed and I could tell she was only using me to have some/anybody there and i'm worth more than that. Not trying to break your "hope" but, once they leave, You need to make them work their ass off to prove they're even worth the risk again. The words they say don't mean sh*t, only their actions. Those "actions" can be misleading/lies also...Goodluck! But, it's a lot easier for them to leave the 2nd time because in their mind "they did try"..haha! Link to post Share on other sites
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