Samantha0905 Posted October 27, 2009 Share Posted October 27, 2009 I have spoken with my H regarding my feelings. He is fully aware about the excitement and passion that I desire within our M. Even before the A, it was after d-day that he began to try. We have discussed it daily for the past few days and we are both making efforts to create the passion. Because the intimacy we once shared was lost a few years ago, I am concerned whether or not I can achieve the ultimate goal. I long for anyone who has experienced the lack of intimacy for years and regained it. I ended the A, I am maintaining NC, being honest, and in IC and MC. Right now, my greatest hindrance is the emotions I continue to have for my xAP. Even when those emotions subside, I will not stay if the attraction and intimacy is not better. I am looking for all suggestions because I want to put forth every effort in attempt to solve my issues. For what it's worth, it's great you are discussing everything with him and getting both IC and MC. You're way further along than I am. I hope you continue to keep us posted. Since we share similar situations I'm very interested to see how the IC and MC and communication help you. I know it must be so hard on you. It's good you are putting so much effort into it. If I make any great discoveries along the way I think help me and my husband, I'll be sure to share them with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Spoiled Posted October 27, 2009 Author Share Posted October 27, 2009 Spoiled, I hope you will keep us updated on your progress. I too am truly interested in if it is possible to wake that passion and intimacy in a marriage/relationship. Will do.......... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Spoiled Posted October 27, 2009 Author Share Posted October 27, 2009 For what it's worth, it's great you are discussing everything with him and getting both IC and MC. You're way further along than I am. I hope you continue to keep us posted. Since we share similar situations I'm very interested to see how the IC and MC and communication help you. I know it must be so hard on you. It's good you are putting so much effort into it. If I make any great discoveries along the way I think help me and my husband, I'll be sure to share them with you. So far, IC and MC have been helpful. Especially in the areas of honesty and communication. We express our needs and desires far better and spend more quality time together. Link to post Share on other sites
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