snowgirl Posted December 2, 2003 Share Posted December 2, 2003 Today I found out after 5 years my boyfriend has been cheating on me since day one. Anyone ever go through this, and if so do you know if it's difficult to ever trust someone again? Link to post Share on other sites
camcutie Posted December 2, 2003 Share Posted December 2, 2003 Hello, sorry to hear the awful news. I to have been cheated on, lied to, and in other ways abused for the past 4 years of a 4 1/2 yr relationship. It's never easy but for me I guess because I've always had suspicions it didn't really surprise me when it was thrown in my face. I almost felt relef, like never again do I have to wonder if he was lying. At that point I new the truth and the truth was I had no feelings left for him at all. I've found and falling for someone very very quickly, the way I see it is I can't spend the rest of my life not trusting other people in my life for something one person put me through. I decided I would take everyone I meet and get to know them without holding against them, what I've been put through by someone else. I will bet though I will probably never again be so quick to push away my first gut feelings of a situation. GOOD LUCK......... Link to post Share on other sites
Java Posted December 2, 2003 Share Posted December 2, 2003 Yes, it is difficult to trust again after being intimately betrayed. But... what helps is reminding yourself that there just aren't any guarantees and no matter what happens you WILL be OK. Be nice if you could hook up with someone and be dead sure they'll never hurt you, in anyway, but that's not reality. People are ultimately going to do whatever it is they're going to do... be it that they're fully committed to you and treating you like the princess you are forever and a day or straying, from day one, or at year 3. NO guarantees. All you can do is take it one day at a time and make sure you're treating yourself with dignity and respect. Link to post Share on other sites
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