EricaH329 Posted October 13, 2009 Share Posted October 13, 2009 I've actually been to LA before also. Did the tourist thing like you did. Ran into a bunch of trees while staring down at the stars on the sidewalk... you know... the usual. So going to Cali won't be too different, but i'll be going to a different part of Cali this time. All the same, i'm looking forward to it. Are you originally from Aus? If you aren't, I would personally think that being isolated in Australia would be awesome! Not used to having absolutely nothing around me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author logitech Posted October 13, 2009 Author Share Posted October 13, 2009 Yeah. Born and lived here for pretty much my whole life. Lived in Japan for nearly a year. That was a great eye opener. Travel is going to be hard again since I used to share it with someone. So to do it purely for me will be a bit of a new thing. That being said, at least now I have no-one holding me back but myself. Keen to get in and do the things I wouldn't have done before. Hoping to get to La Tomatina (tomato festival) in Spain next year for one. Unfortunately being an Aussie, it can be easy to get sick of Aussies. Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH329 Posted October 13, 2009 Share Posted October 13, 2009 Yeah. Born and lived here for pretty much my whole life. Lived in Japan for nearly a year. That was a great eye opener. Travel is going to be hard again since I used to share it with someone. So to do it purely for me will be a bit of a new thing. That being said, at least now I have no-one holding me back but myself. Keen to get in and do the things I wouldn't have done before. Hoping to get to La Tomatina (tomato festival) in Spain next year for one. Unfortunately being an Aussie, it can be easy to get sick of Aussies. Traveling with someone else is always nice, but I feel like traveling alone (even though I haven't traveled alone outside of the US) is very empowering. It makes you feel much more like an individual, to me at least. I wish I had the money to travel like that. I'm not fortunate enough. But I do plan on visiting a lot of places before I get old. Sick of aussies? No way! Link to post Share on other sites
Author logitech Posted October 13, 2009 Author Share Posted October 13, 2009 What line of work are you in... If you don't mind me asking?? Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH329 Posted October 13, 2009 Share Posted October 13, 2009 Well, right now i'm a cocktail waitress. Definitely not planning on making that a career though. Once I get out of school (which i'm planning on starting in Jan.) I should be able to get a job pretty much anywhere. Maybe i'll live overseas for a little while? Link to post Share on other sites
Author logitech Posted October 13, 2009 Author Share Posted October 13, 2009 Well it's all a means to an end. That sounds a lot more enjoyable than sweeping and cleaning warehouses or gardening (uni jobs). At least it puts you out there. I can totally recommend living overseas. The only thing that is stopping me is that I have a pretty good job now... Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH329 Posted October 13, 2009 Share Posted October 13, 2009 Oh I don't mind it for now, being around people helps me get my mind off of other things. Especially drunk people. And even more so, drunk people trying to dance. No matter what mood I am in when getting there, I leave extremely entertained! I always wanted to live in England. I'm not too sure why, I just love the idea of it. It sucks you can't live overseas with the job you have, there isn't any way you could transfer? Just a thought. Wow, we really took this thread to a new level huh? Hopefully it got your mind off of the OP for a little while! Link to post Share on other sites
Author logitech Posted October 13, 2009 Author Share Posted October 13, 2009 Heh yeah, nothing like turning a public forum into a chat room I hope anyone who reads this enjoys. I have certainly enjoyed the chat!! Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH329 Posted October 13, 2009 Share Posted October 13, 2009 Haha! I hope so as well!! I have also enjoyed it! Link to post Share on other sites
Broseph Posted October 13, 2009 Share Posted October 13, 2009 Hey guys, What did i miss? Link to post Share on other sites
Broseph Posted October 13, 2009 Share Posted October 13, 2009 Anyways I am a Canuck living in Oz for the past 4 and half years and have to admit that I love living over here atm. After my last break up (old old ex) I had my freedom and decided to come over here. Anyways after me and my ex here (present time) split I had this sudden urge to go home but then i sat and thought about and decided I am just gonna do what I want. I think this thread is a good example of the benefits of being single, I mean you guys are talking about cool stuff and its always nice to dream. This thread really makes me smile. Every door that shuts a new one opens right? I first backpacked a few years before that and although I left with friends I really liked being alone. I think it forces yourself to go out and meet people on your own, but this is all personal preference and thepoint your at in life. Nowadays, I want to travel somewhere cool again but this time I want to do it with a girl. I think this experience would be amazing with the right person. So yeah i need a girl first but not really keen on the rebound thing. Maryland must also be a beautiful place too though, one day i want to do the campervan across the states thing. Erica its also good to know there are some good girls out there too. I love what someone else told me in a thread... they said well now that you have found the wrong girl twice and your overdue to find the right one. This time will come, not ready yet but I still desire that feeling to Love. Finally and sorry for long post, anyone else reading this should realize that two months ago here were 3 people who were completely heart broken who I think have turned the corner. We obviously have our days but from what I get from these guys is that they are we are longer pondering the what ifs and what have beens. We have decided to move on through our own will (and cant speak for them) but with kind words from strangers. Sure there will be tough days ahead but there is light now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author logitech Posted October 13, 2009 Author Share Posted October 13, 2009 Couldn't have said it better myself Broseph. Where are you from originally?? I'd love to do the van across the US some time too. I also want to do a trek through the middle of Asia like Vietnam and Cambodia. Maybe one day... And to follow up on your last point. I was engaged barely 3 months ago until she split. So yeah it is a good sign for the three of us to be where we are at now finding the brighter side of life Link to post Share on other sites
GrayClouds Posted October 13, 2009 Share Posted October 13, 2009 . Still dissapointed but tryin to be optomistic now. For some reason I like that statement. Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH329 Posted October 13, 2009 Share Posted October 13, 2009 Amen Broseph!! Maryland has it's nice parts, I personally think the best part of living in Maryland is the fact we are so close to Washington D.C. It's beautiful there (in the right areas). I completely agree when you said that this is a perfect example of us looking forward to great things in life. I know how you feel, longing to love someone and be loved in return, but since that can't be forced, we are going to have to be happy now. No need to deprive ourselves of that, right! Backpacking sounds really cool! I'm going to check into that! Link to post Share on other sites
Author logitech Posted October 13, 2009 Author Share Posted October 13, 2009 Heh just re-read my post. Broseph I thought I deleted the part where I asked where you were from since you said you were a Canuck, typing/posting fail. Link to post Share on other sites
JaggedRoad Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 BTW NSW, sorry to hear about your dog Erica it's funny how you mention about wondering who you are. I think it is like a new quarter-life crisis. I think it was a big part of why my ex left me (she was going through it). I feel as though I was going through one at the start of this year and I hit up my sports and hockey really hard. In turn it probably started to push her away. I think what happens is because we all have so many choices in life these days we hit a point where we are nearing the end of our young years and start to think that we have to make some big choices soon to define who we are. It's just a pity that for some people they decide they have to push others away to "find" themselves. That being said, from all of this I have definitely re-discovered the social side of myself. I was and still am going through my own quarter-life crisis. My ex is going through hers right now as well. It sucks how we met each other so early in life:lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH329 Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 I was and still am going through my own quarter-life crisis. My ex is going through hers right now as well. It sucks how we met each other so early in life:lmao: For some reason, reading your post made me think of how everyone always says (which is true) that if you get a bunch of girls to hang out with eachother and be around eachother long enough, they'll all start their period at the same time . It's sort of like that, with the exception that we all came here because of our crisis, but... if we stick together long enough... we will all get better together. Sure beats doing it alone if you ask me Link to post Share on other sites
JaggedRoad Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 *holds up a glass* To getting better =) Link to post Share on other sites
Author logitech Posted October 14, 2009 Author Share Posted October 14, 2009 I'm with you on that one Erica. I have to say my daily habits have changed over time to deal with all this. I no longer visit the Breaking Up or Second Chances section of these forums since I feel as though going there will just take me backwards. I think I will be sticking with the coping section and I love it how we are getting some positive vibes out of all this now. Everything is just a matter of time, all we can do is help make things happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Author logitech Posted October 14, 2009 Author Share Posted October 14, 2009 Olfactory senses be damned!! I went down to the shops to get some food and smelt perfume that was a reminder of my past. I wanted to hang around there for a bit to check out some shops but that was enough to make me want to escape. Here I am again!! Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH329 Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 Olfactory senses be damned!! I went down to the shops to get some food and smelt perfume that was a reminder of my past. I wanted to hang around there for a bit to check out some shops but that was enough to make me want to escape. Here I am again!! My sweet logitech, I am so sorry for your pain. I fell asleep fairly early tonight with the t.v. on, and I woke up about 20 minutes ago to something on t.v. that reminded me of him. Since then, my mind has been racing with thoughts of him. We need to stay strong! Keep reminding yourself that you are a person outside of her, a better person outside of her. She will no longer control your emotions. She will no longer control your state of mind in any way, what so ever. Do not let her consume your thoughts. She is not worth that. I need to keep repeating those words to myself as well. Remind yourself of the rollercoaster. This is going to pass. As much as it hurts right now, it will go away. Don't allow yourself to backslide. Know that these are just thoughts, and as with any other thoughts we have, they will be replaced with other thoughts soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Author logitech Posted October 14, 2009 Author Share Posted October 14, 2009 Cheers Erica, You've been a great support through this. Fortunately this afternoon I had squash to play and it got me moving again. I actually play with her sister's fiancee (who's wedding I am going to in Nov). Anyway, I talked to him for a bit afterwards and it sounds like she is going off the rails a little with her family as well. I've kept out of the nitty gritty details but it has helped me to know it's not just me that found things strange. Anyway, I ran home after squash and again it was great to get out and active. I guess for you as well the thought will come and go. Generally I am at the stage now where they don't really hold me down. I think I am able to get through without getting too upset. Know the most I get from it is a type of lull in general enthusiasm for things. BTW didn't your parents ever tell you it isn't good to fall asleep in front of the TV?? Although I did it on Monday Link to post Share on other sites
Broseph Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 I'm with you on that one Erica. I have to say my daily habits have changed over time to deal with all this. I no longer visit the Breaking Up or Second Chances section of these forums since I feel as though going there will just take me backwards. I think I will be sticking with the coping section and I love it how we are getting some positive vibes out of all this now. Everything is just a matter of time, all we can do is help make things happen. That is so funny how you mention the visiting the second chances section, I mean all my first posts were directed there and that was the first place I checked and now I just look to help someone out here or there. Had a long day at work but yeah I like the good vibes too by y'all and actually kinda was looking forward to seeing what people posted. Its nice 2 other champions , jagged road and gray clouds. Oh and hey gray clouds every time I see your name I think of this 311 song called beyond the gray sky which amazingly is about getting over a relationship. Fancy that!!! Its a good song you tube if you can. Another cloud related song that will make anyone smile is 'Into Yesterday' by Sugar Ray. Listen and thank me after for making you smile;) Oh and I am from the prairies of Alberta which is much different than the sunny shores of NSW. Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH329 Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 Cheers Erica, You've been a great support through this. Fortunately this afternoon I had squash to play and it got me moving again. I actually play with her sister's fiancee (who's wedding I am going to in Nov). Anyway, I talked to him for a bit afterwards and it sounds like she is going off the rails a little with her family as well. I've kept out of the nitty gritty details but it has helped me to know it's not just me that found things strange. Anyway, I ran home after squash and again it was great to get out and active. I guess for you as well the thought will come and go. Generally I am at the stage now where they don't really hold me down. I think I am able to get through without getting too upset. Know the most I get from it is a type of lull in general enthusiasm for things. BTW didn't your parents ever tell you it isn't good to fall asleep in front of the TV?? Although I did it on Monday I am so glad to hear that you got out and had a good time!! Sometimes, when i'm not in a down mood thinking about him, I realize how far i've come since the beginning. And I think about how much better it's going to get from here. It's a comforting thought. You know, I never used to sleep in front of the t.v. I couldn't sleep with any type of noise at all. Since the break up, i've been sleeping on the couch in front of the t.v. Since the only time I really think about things I shouldn't be is at night, I figured that if I had the t.v. on to distract me, i'd be able to fall asleep quicker. It works. But I think it's time for me to move out of the living room and back into my bedroom. Link to post Share on other sites
JaggedRoad Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 I've been sleeping on the couch since my break-up as well. It's only once a week or so, but my reason isn't as clean xP Other than that, I'm feeling quite okay today. The fall weather is starting to be a downer though =( Link to post Share on other sites
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