nobmagnet Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 awwwwww if you need a bloke to batter........mine could do with a shake!! bless you xx Link to post Share on other sites
GoodDad Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 Geez, You did the right thing holding it together for your daughter man. That is one of my fears if it doesn't work out with the wife. Who she would bring around as an influence in her life. Would she start up with the OM again, etc. I know the main focus has to be trying to work through our crap while we are still together, but its ok to have some fears and insecurities too. I still think having won custody of your little girl and being divorced, getting into a physical altercation with this dude, while maybe feeling good for the moment, wouldn't help in the long run. But it sucks man....truly...you have my sympathies and support. Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 MMI Thank you for adding me, that kid is awesome, your X must be loco for not wanting to be around that child every day. I was thinking maybe you and nobmagnet could do a little foreign relations exchange, you could go over there and work off your frustration, a quick smack or two when nobody is looking and be gone. And nob could show you how to use her cricket bat. I think in cricket they swing upwards, the perfect stroked for the BBBB, or would that be the CBBB. Hang tuff my friend, that kid needs you. And enjoy Christmas with the kid, something I was never able to do Your friend Gallon Link to post Share on other sites
PWSX3 Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 Go to the gym & take it out on a punching bag!!! Merry Christmas my friend, sounds like you are taking the high road & that's all we can do. Your daughter will see it & appreciate it in the end. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted December 24, 2009 Author Share Posted December 24, 2009 awwwwww if you need a bloke to batter........mine could do with a shake!! bless you xx that could be arranged. haha! i couldn't hold my tongue anymore. she was working to hard trying to have a family christmas with me and mine. i'm not letting it happen. it's time she feels the sting of loneliness. she hasn't yet. i personally don't care anymore if she ever gets to feel it. i told her that it's time for her to not be part of my life. she has chosen someone to move forward with, whether she knows it or not, and it's high time she started doing just that. i'll cross the bridge of a new guy in my kid's life when i get there. i need my little girl to grow up knowing everyone aren't snakes. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 It's a hard road MayI, but she needs to suffer the consequences and know that she can't just fade in and out of your life as she sees fit. Either shes in or shes out. Enjoy your Holiday with that dear little girl and give the rest a break TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted December 24, 2009 Author Share Posted December 24, 2009 i'm trying t, i really am. we really had a row today, though. i had to put my thumb down about who has custody and how tomorrow has to play out. she didn't like what i had to say about anything, and it's really fair for everyone. i truly must be done. it's all smiles for my little girl, but i can no longer allow the "family" things to happen. as i told the ex, it's just not healthy for me, and i factor in too. i'm looking at it now as it's all about DD still, but in a different light. i don't want her to feel the sting of divorce, but that's just what's happened. sad as it is, we're no longer family. It's a hard road MayI, but she needs to suffer the consequences and know that she can't just fade in and out of your life as she sees fit. Either shes in or shes out. Enjoy your Holiday with that dear little girl and give the rest a break TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 Well, seems the ex moved a bit fast. You can't just jump right back into family after all the damage she did. Let her see the other side for awhile and then if you want to give it a try at your own pace you can, but she needs to see a little of what you've been going through. TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
LisaUk Posted December 25, 2009 Share Posted December 25, 2009 i'm trying t, i really am. we really had a row today, though. i had to put my thumb down about who has custody and how tomorrow has to play out. she didn't like what i had to say about anything, and it's really fair for everyone. i truly must be done. it's all smiles for my little girl, but i can no longer allow the "family" things to happen. as i told the ex, it's just not healthy for me, and i factor in too. i'm looking at it now as it's all about DD still, but in a different light. i don't want her to feel the sting of divorce, but that's just what's happened. sad as it is, we're no longer family. Kids can sense things anyway MayI, you need to make sure you're loked after, to look after her. You're doing the right thing. Hope you have a good day tomorrow. Merry Christmas! Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted December 25, 2009 Share Posted December 25, 2009 Glad to read you're done. It's no longer her choice, it's yours, you've decided and now you can finally heal. What a trip you've been on. Hoping only the best for you and DD here on out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrMayI Posted December 25, 2009 Author Share Posted December 25, 2009 and in walks lisa!!!! it's a christmas miracle, haha!! i think i'm making the right decisions here. i feel bad for head on confronting the man situation today, but oh well. i needed her to know that i can't go through anymore phony bull****. Link to post Share on other sites
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