moimeme Posted January 25, 2004 Share Posted January 25, 2004 Proof: This proves to me that without porn, I would probably be what my husband fantasizes about April, unless you have identical brains (and clearly you do not), this is not even close to 'proof'. However, the number of constructive ways you find to make assumptions about what your husband thinks constantly astounds me. You should take up fiction writing because your talent for creating scenarios out of zero evidence or fact is truly remarkable. I don't think you love him, and I'm sure he realizes it. I think you lost respect for him over this 'porn' issue and now you actually dislike him. Because IF you loved him, you would not assume the worst of him over and over again. Link to post Share on other sites
littlebit Posted January 26, 2004 Share Posted January 26, 2004 I guess I am different than most because it does not bother me in the least for my husband to look at porn. Men will be men, whether you approve of it or not. I know that when he looks at porn, he is not wanting to be with them, its just exciting. Then I get to reap the benefits. I have actually looked at it some also. And like someone stated, during masturbation, variety is the key factor. He knows I am ok with him looking at it, and he is ok with me looking. The key here is we don't hide it. I may not know when he actually looks at it, but know he does. And sometimes we look together. And as far as the online flirting and pic swapping, the flirting is ok, pic swapping on an individual basis, NO. But you can only flirt, and not let yourself become emotionally involved, with any of the vices that anyone uses. You are missing out on a really good experience by denying him this pleasure. Like I said Men will be men. My husband told me once, I have never cheated but I won't lie and say that there has not been a time I would not have liked too. He was honest, and I admire that. I did not take it as a threat, but simply that he was arroused, and can anyone here honestly say that they have never been arroused by someone else? I think not!!! I certainly can't say that. But I have never cheated in 20 year of marriage. And don't think I will anytime soon, cause things are too good here!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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