Dating for a while and never says he'll call?

[SJ803]

I have a question about a guy I've been dating for 3 months. We;ve only seen eachother about 10 times. We became intimate right away and our communication is horrible. Most of the time I leave him after a date he doesn't say that he'll call. Could it be that he's not interested? He calls every once in a while and sometimes even breaks dates. He's strange because when he went away on vacation he called me twice, what's that about? He's also not very affectionate. We have never talked about where the relationship is going, we barely talk about anything serious. Everytime I leave him I feel like it's always the last time I will ever see him again. That's not healthy. It's been 4 days since I seen him last and he hasn't called, he didn't say he would though either. Should I call him or wait? And should I talk to him about this? I'm scared but I can't go on like this anymore. Any advice would be really appreicated, thanks.

[yogi-mon]

Men dont call women for a few reasons usually.

First reason, typically, is because we dont really care.

Second reason, can be because we have alot of pride,

want the woman to always call US.

 

I have alot of guy friends who refuse to call there girl

friends, not because they dont like them, but because

they feel that its not important, IE that she will do those

things and make things work.

 

Men like to feel in control, by not calling, and having

the girl "go out on a limb and show need" it gives

us strength.

 

But, you have to becareful, if the guy is just using

you for sex, he might just not call because he

doest really care, and hes not even paying attention

to the fact that hes been screwing you.

 

I would suggest you ask him about it.

[Reckless]

I would suggest you stop calling him. Don't ask him squat, just don't contact him.

 

If he calls and asks you for sex but refuses to talk to you or take you on a 'date' you know what kind of relationship you have.

 

If he makes zero effort to contact you never hear from him again then you'll know what kind of relationship you have and where it's going.

 

If he calls you and asks you why you haven't contacted him and if everythings alright -- then and only then you can tell him how you're feeling.

[Guest]

Reckless,

 

I'm in a similar situation. We've been friends for a few years and started a "relationship" but lately he's been pulling away, not calling as much and has become quite moody. He got REALLY mad at me last week and said that he did not want to talk to me for a while BUT sent me a text message saying to have a good Thanksgiving. That confused me even more.

 

I realize that guys love control but if it's going to be over just tell us. We're not mind readers.

[Arabess]

Originally posted by SJ803

We;ve only seen eachother about 10 times. We became intimate right away and our communication is horrible. Most of the time I leave him after a date he doesn't say that he'll call.

 

Dating Rule 101: Never be intimate with someone you don't have good communication (relationship) with...unless you want to accept the fact he may ONLY call you when he wants sex.