rozziebaby Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 I have met and fallen for a younger man I am 41 he is 27. We have been seeing each other for about 6 months now and it has been a bumpy ride. It seems he has quite a few skeletons in the closet. We have been through the "Baby Mamma Drama" Ex Girfriend still calling drama, and a few other things, but no matter what the situation, he still ends up with me. We break up, and cannot stay apart. I am struggling through a bad marriage coming to an end, which doesnt help. He is struggling with a crazed Ex, who wants nothing more than to destroy him and anyone in his life. Through it all we find happiness with each other. It sounds crazy, but when we are together, life is good for both of us. There is more, but lets start here, and I will open up more as we go along. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 Yes.. it can be real.. especially in your case.. it's not that big age gap.. 14 years... this is average for me.. My last ex (I lived 5 yrs with him, common-law) was 12 years younger.. he wanted to marry me to prove I was his soulmate.. I was 45 when we met.. he had just turned 33. I can see where it could be a problem, long term.. when the age difference is 18+ and that goes for both gender.. but then again... I don't believe in long term for anyone.. age gap or not.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rozziebaby Posted October 14, 2009 Author Share Posted October 14, 2009 Well, I was trying to start a journal, this is all new to me this loveshack thing. I like it though, the people are brutally honest. I wanted you all to come with me on this journey. I guess I should have started from the beginning, but starting from today I will write what is going on in my life, and if anyone is interested, they can comment. It isnt boring I can tell you that. well as you read, I am married, unhappily. I have been seeing my younger man since April. He is un employed presently, I am basically living between his apartment and my house. My husband has not confronted me about an affair, but he is starting to feel my absence from home. Amazing, because he goes out every freaking night and doesn't get home until 3, 4 sometimes 5 6 in the morning. We argued again last night, seems he feels that I should service him when he gets home. Yes!! service him, like this is a drive through jiffy lube or something. I can't stand him to even touch me, let alone service him. But I am not yet ready to walk away from what I have helped build. So I deal with him and his rude manner. My younger man, helps me in this area, he is sooo sweet and loving and gentle with me. While hubby is just arrogant and rough talking. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 Just be careful though... I've dated much much younger men.. some like 20+ years younger.. still am... and one I can think of .. had a few odd jobs to help him pay his car... he was living at his parents... do I want to support him... NOOOOOO.... I don't mind the sex.. but they have to pull their strength... if not.. they,re out.. I dumped this guy.. and he was a hottie.. one of the most beautiful guy I've been with in my entire life.. So .. you got to be careful with this young man.. he can show you lotssss of gentle stuff.. blablabla.. just so you will support him financially.. (apartment, etc.)... Are you working.. are you financially independant from your husband.. Link to post Share on other sites
boldjack Posted October 14, 2009 Share Posted October 14, 2009 Roz, I was in just this situation, years ago. I met and fell hard for an older woman. She 40, me 24. I had just ended an Ltr, and she had just gotten divorced. We had immediate sparks. I have rarely felt so much love for a woman, as I did for her, and I still feel it sometimes when I think of her. In every way , we were compatible, sexually it was paradise. But over time, our interests diverged, our arguments increased, and the drama became so intense, that all that was left was our desire. It's not enough!! Your BF WILL want more from you than you will be willing to give, and as he begins to look at other , younger women, your jealousy will increase. This is the nature of older/younger relationships. You must be willing to accept this. Short-term, you will have an amazing amount of happiness, but long-term, this will turn to devastating sorrow. You must be prepared. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rozziebaby Posted October 14, 2009 Author Share Posted October 14, 2009 That just about hits it on the head. You are soo right. He is wonderful and I do believe he loves me deeply. He has asked me to marry him multiple times. On the contrary, he is very independent. He does support himself and does little things my husband never did. He buys me flowers for no reason at all, just because. Always roses. I think he may be different. Just slightly. Link to post Share on other sites
sandrawg Posted November 7, 2009 Share Posted November 7, 2009 How can you say, her relationship will DEFINITELY end in sorrow, just because yours did? Everyone is different. I'm 42 and with a 25 yr old. We have had a rocky relationship and still have our share of issues, but somehow we keep working it out. We've been together off and on for 2+ years. I have no idea what the future will bring but I prefer not to think "it'll end in sorrow." Roz, I was in just this situation, years ago. I met and fell hard for an older woman. She 40, me 24. I had just ended an Ltr, and she had just gotten divorced. We had immediate sparks. I have rarely felt so much love for a woman, as I did for her, and I still feel it sometimes when I think of her. In every way , we were compatible, sexually it was paradise. But over time, our interests diverged, our arguments increased, and the drama became so intense, that all that was left was our desire. It's not enough!! Your BF WILL want more from you than you will be willing to give, and as he begins to look at other , younger women, your jealousy will increase. This is the nature of older/younger relationships. You must be willing to accept this. Short-term, you will have an amazing amount of happiness, but long-term, this will turn to devastating sorrow. You must be prepared. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted November 7, 2009 Share Posted November 7, 2009 Its an epidemic Im starting to think everyone under 50 is too young for me Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted November 7, 2009 Share Posted November 7, 2009 Maybe when I start working in that nursing home next week I can meet some chicks Link to post Share on other sites
A O Posted November 7, 2009 Share Posted November 7, 2009 Through it all we find happiness with each other. It sounds crazy, but when we are together, life is good for both of us. There is more, but lets start here, and I will open up more as we go along. The common denominator here is dysfunction, both of you coming from poor relationship backgrounds. Age is not the primary issue here, the need for drama in your lives is. To that end, you're both perfectly suited to each other. If things end, it won't be because of age issues, it'll be because of something dramatic, something drama fueled, either too much of it or not enough of it (strangely enough). . Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted November 7, 2009 Share Posted November 7, 2009 Maybe when I start working in that nursing home next week I can meet some chicks I tried it....Sadly they had a different interperetation than mine as to what a "Gummy Bear" was...ROFLMAO! Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted November 7, 2009 Share Posted November 7, 2009 rozziebaby In twenty years from now when you are 61 and OM is 47 where do you think OM will be. Now no woman his age wants him because he's a out of work bum. So he'll bang what ever he can. When your 61 the OM will be gone because he'll be looking for another younger MILF. This OM will not want a GMILF, grand mom ..... Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted November 9, 2009 Share Posted November 9, 2009 Yes.. it can be real.. especially in your case.. it's not that big age gap.. 14 years not yet, until she gets to be about 55. the gap is the same, but the physical aspects start to pronounce the gap. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted November 9, 2009 Share Posted November 9, 2009 not yet, until she gets to be about 55. the gap is the same, but the physical aspects start to pronounce the gap. You obviously don't know any couple with an age gap... 55 is the new 45.. especially for women.. At 55, he'd be 41.. gosh.. that's nothing.. I'm older than that.. and men in their 40's are 'currency' in my case.. Link to post Share on other sites
traderho Posted November 9, 2009 Share Posted November 9, 2009 Agree with Dexter, the only people who think 55 is the new 45 are 55 yr olds! I use to always think it was hot to date older women, until I hit 30 then not so much! Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted November 9, 2009 Share Posted November 9, 2009 You obviously don't know any couple with an age gap... 55 is the new 45.. especially for women.. nope, know quite a bit. when one is pushing 60 and the other is still in their 40s, one starts not to look so hot while the other is reasonably still young looking. of course there are the exceptions of people that look 40 when close to 60, but its few and far between. and then there is also plastic surgery. I'm 40 and the last thing I want is a woman almost 15 years younger than me. What am I gonna do at 60 with someone still 45 and attractive, when I am starting to look like a grandad? No thanks, I want someone I can grow old with and relate to. Link to post Share on other sites
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