Reasons why you wouldn't go back with your ex

[JaggedRoad]

1. It'll be the thir... fourth time getting back together

2. It'll just happen again--maybe when I neglect her by going to the bathroom for 10 minutes

3. Silent treatments

4. Attempts to put her finger somewhere it doesn't belong

5. Constant criticism of other people

6. She seeks validation from others rather from herself or myself

7. Too many secrets

8. We'll never have a serious conversation without her trying to distract me with sex:bunny:

9. She gets too jealous whenever I'm around other females... including my baby cousin

 

I can't think of another reason to break 10

[angelface78]

Ok here are my 10....

 

1. He broke our ENGAGEMENT.

2. This will be third major breakup..where he has left me for 3 consecutive summers..and then always comes crawling back.

3. He has already been with someone else. (He is currently in a "relationship")

4. I saw pictures of him and the new girl in a hotel room on her birthday...therefore i know they have had sex. (too much resentment)

5. He was always so disrepectful. Would chew me out when we had arguments.

6. He was actually physically abusive. Pulled my hair slapped me a couple times and once tried to rip my dress because he was jealous.

7. He was not up for any intelligent conversation... only wanted to go out and do things. He needed outside stimulation because he has nothing intelligent to say.

8. He always fell asleep at the movies. Never ever saw the end of any movie. I might as well have been there alone.

9. He threw away our 5 years. I cared for him very much..accepted, supported, tolerated, loved, and cared for him deeply. He threw our 5 years away...and got into another relationship 1 month after our breakup.

10. I forgave and forgave and forgave time and time again. Always put my pride aside for him. He could never do that. Simply put HE DOESNT DESERVE ME!!

[delajoonal]

#1- After 14 years of marriage, my H left me for OW he met on FaceBook after a 2 week long EA.

 

That is ONLY the tip of the iceberg:sick::eek:

[lonelypiscesguy]

I don't know if I need ten, but here goes;

1)Too much bickering

2)Too many d***tease games in a LDR

3) A LITTLE too insecure

4)Demanding, high-maintenance princess, thinks she deserved to be taken

care of ALL the time

5)I think she lied about the way she used drugs/meth (think she shot up)

6)Bipolar

7)She could never forgive me enough to take ME back anyway, I said some terrible things to her after I thought she did something she may or may not have done

8)Always compared us to her past relationships, AMAZINGLY, they were just like what we were going through at that time (Damn, how many boyfriends have you had, at 42 years old?!)

9)Still wondering if she was seeing other dudes while we were doing our LDR

10)TOO MUCH DRAMA!!! MORE ISSUES THAN NATIONAL GEOGRAPHIC AND MORE BAGGAGE THAN AMERICAN AIRLINES!!!

 

Gotta admit, a part of me still cares for her, has feelings for her and misses her...thank God she drove me to therapy, because I HAVE to be able to do better!

[JaggedRoad]

American airlines lost my luggage when I visited my ex for the first time =/

[Lamak]

1.) Always is busy/always out doing something.

2.) Extreme mood swings.

3.) Selfish, at the end of the day she'll make it about her.

4.) She's chubby and unattractive to me now. I don't know what happened.

5.) Hasn't changed at all. Breakup was nearly 5 months ago.

6.) Wants me as an option in her life.

7.) Ego driven.

8.) Broke up with me during a very hard period in my life.

9.) Kept trying to force the friends thing with me.

10.) The "I'll always love you" line (as "friends") makes me angry.

[NSW768]

1) if she was with someone else

2) that fact she cant give one solitary reason for the breakup and keeps bringing up meaningless things from 2+ years ago

3) the fact her job will always be more important than me

4) the fact this has happened twice in less than a year.

5) im thinking she is the most selfish person i know.

6) the fact i lost my self respect throughout this whole thing

7) the fact she made me crazy

8) the fact she discounts my feelings

 

i think we would all go back though...

[deadboy666]

she is thinking of getting back with an ex that had been a best friend of hers.

she has hurt me in ways i cannot even imagine in the last month

[Soul Bear]

Only 1 reason now.

 

~#1. It is part of the past. The future holds greater things in store.

 

 

The future is bright!

Keep looking forward

[jessiebee]

I still think I would go back because he is a great man but these are the things I resent him for at the moment:

 

1. Wanted to postpone our wedding (Supposed to be married on Oct. 31 he tells me this on Sept. 21)

2. he told me to leave the house, but the kids could stay (i just finished school, in the process of interning which means NO MONEY)

3.He would come home from work and want to sleep right away

4.Never wanted to cuddle (I always had to ask) WTF!

5.Feels like he is giving up on our 6 yr relationship

6.Think he may be having an emotional affair with someone from his job. NOT REALLY SURE THOUGH

7.He tells me that he feels numb towards me but a week before he wanted "space" said he would never leave me.

8.Can't believe how COLD he is towards me right now.

9.Hate the fact that he is going out for his birthday this weekend without me (First time in 6 yrs.....Don't need to think abt what he is doing)

10.He could have tried to make it work TOGETHER bit instead he thinks it will make us stronger if we're apart (YEAH, OKAY!!!)

[Soul Bear]

American airlines lost my luggage when I visited my ex for the first time =/

:lmao:

[WiseOne1]

The only reason I wouldn't go back with my ex is "things that I've done to get her back" after thinking about how I begged her and tried to persuade her, I’m kind of embarrassed to look her in the face or eyes, it should mean love but to me its embarrassment.

Also maybe the fact that the only reason I was with her because I thought me and her had that fairy tale love, it was awesome, but after everything that happened it could never be the same.

Why I won't get back with the ex.

 

1. Embarrassed

2. Not worth it

[Sevenscars]

1.) Leaving me for another man without telling me.

2.) Getting back together with me while still cheating with the same man.

3.) Allowing me to buy her an engagement ring while #2 was happening.

4.) Stringing me along for weeks while with the other man, not allowing me a clean break.

5.) After stringing me along for weeks, she tells me she loves me and promises to always be with me, etc

6.) The day after #5, telling me not to call her anymore, but email is acceptable.

7.) She told me #6 over an instant message.

8.) Not responding to the email I sent asking for a short phone call the day before I was operated on.

9.) Finally breaking NC...far, far too late.

10.) Because she is my ex.

[Turista]

I don't know if I need ten, but here goes;

1)Too much bickering

2)Too many d***tease games in a LDR

3) A LITTLE too insecure

4)Demanding, high-maintenance princess, thinks she deserved to be taken

care of ALL the time

5)I think she lied about the way she used drugs/meth (think she shot up)

6)Bipolar

7)She could never forgive me enough to take ME back anyway, I said some terrible things to her after I thought she did something she may or may not have done

8)Always compared us to her past relationships, AMAZINGLY, they were just like what we were going through at that time (Damn, how many boyfriends have you had, at 42 years old?!)

9)Still wondering if she was seeing other dudes while we were doing our LDR

10)TOO MUCH DRAMA!!! MORE ISSUES THAN NATIONAL GEOGRAPHIC AND MORE BAGGAGE THAN AMERICAN AIRLINES!!!

 

Gotta admit, a part of me still cares for her, has feelings for her and misses her...thank God she drove me to therapy, because I HAVE to be able to do better!

 

42 and in CA? The Bay area? Wouldn't that just take the biscuit?

[delajoonal]

42 and in CA? The Bay area? Wouldn't that just take the biscuit?

 

 

hmmmm? i don't get it...

[Turista]

 

 

hmmmm? i don't get it...

 

My ex is 42 (well 43 now) and in the bay area and I wouldn't be at all shocked if I found out she were seeing someone else the whole time...

 

And wouldn't it be funny if it's the same woman we're referring to?

[delajoonal]

Turista... hmmm...i am in the bay area, no kidding....maybe we should compare notes?

[Ilovecake]

I have a thousand reasons I could list but they all add up to irreconcilable differences.

[Nikki Sahagin]

Sadly, each of these reasons could be overidden by one of my heartbeats:

 

These all occured during the last half of our relationship:

 

1) You would never see my fridays or saturdays. You always went clubbing with your friends instead and could not understand why week-in, week-out this made me feel neglected and insecure.

 

2) You flirted with other girls online and lied about it.

 

3) You lost your entheasiasm for things. I busted my but planning dates and holidays for you to just look bored.

 

4) You stopped having sex with me and kissing me.

 

5) You would rather watch TV/check facebook than spend quality time with me.

 

6) Never rang/texted or went on msn for me, but you did for others.

 

7) 'Were too busy' to write me anniversary cards

 

8) You don't even trust your own mother

 

9) You broke up with me at a hard time in my life with no second thought about it

 

10) You didn't want to be around me

[xpaperxcutx]

I know I'm suppose to write out a long list but then again I don't really want to write one, which only goes to say I don't need to waste my time writing things about an ex that I know I won't get back with.

 

Which is a good thing in my mind.

[CaliGuy]

1. Anyone who can walk away from me never truly loved me and therefore, they don't deserve a second chance.

 

That should be all you need to move on.

[NoneoftheAbove]

1. Anyone who can walk away from me never truly loved me and therefore, they don't deserve a second chance.

 

That should be all you need to move on.

 

Thats a weak state of mind.

[ATR]

Thats a weak state of mind.

 

Care to explain why you think that?

To me it seems very logical and wise.

[Exit]

I've dedicated a lot of time lately forcing myself to remember all the times my ex let me down, all the times she was clearly making less of an effort than I was, but I still miss her. I have so many reasons that I should never get back with her, but if the chance arose, I'm not sure I would be smart enough to turn her away. I'm a total fool for this girl. I wish I could say that I wouldn't want her back, then my healing would be complete.

[DustySaltus]

There's only two things that really stick out for me now that ive really tried to process everything:

 

1. Anything I ever did to hurt her feelings was never intentionally. Everything she did to hurt me was premeditated and vindictive. That's not love.

 

2. The second thing was that she could never trust anyone. The fact that I traveled 7000 miles and asked you to marry me wasn't enough to quell your fears. You spied on me for months, after you said yes. That's not love either.