Turista Posted October 17, 2009 Share Posted October 17, 2009 I've dedicated a lot of time lately forcing myself to remember all the times my ex let me down, all the times she was clearly making less of an effort than I was, but I still miss her. I have so many reasons that I should never get back with her, but if the chance arose, I'm not sure I would be smart enough to turn her away. I'm a total fool for this girl. I wish I could say that I wouldn't want her back, then my healing would be complete. Don't ever forget them. There's a huge number of people walking around who for whatever reason go through the motions of being in relationships, but never really commit themselves to them, and this is one way to separate them from the real deals. Me and an ex from 2.5 years ago, from a relationship we thoroughly ran into the ground before giving up, frequently bemoan that all our subsequent partners have been like this. We'll never get back together, but we both know each other quite well. So I posted a list of all the awful things my abusive ex did to remind why she must never be given another chance. And I thank the gods that she couldn't keep the lid on the crazy can long enough for us to get married. I do wonder if she'll manage that with the next guy though because when she's putting on her initial show, she's a seeming absolute knockout catch, for whom I fell... hard... splat... And splat is how I felt when she broke up with me over the phone. 2 months later and even now she's not entirely cleared from my system. Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted October 17, 2009 Share Posted October 17, 2009 1) He's an alcoholic and a dry drunk 2) He's emotionally elusive and abusive 3) He's left 3 times this year 4) He has crazy mood swings 5) He critical and judgemental of everything I do 6) He claims to be moving on with someone else 7) We have nothing in common 8) We fight too much 9) We could never undo the hurt this time 10) Biggest Reason!! I DESERVE BETTER! Link to post Share on other sites
MrFun Posted October 17, 2009 Share Posted October 17, 2009 There are many reason why I wouldn't be together with my ex-gf. But these are the reason why SHE wouldn't be with ME. 1) listen to music the whole time 2) didn't trust her 3) didn't play guitar as much as I used to 4) didn't draw as much as I used to 5) I did karate the whole time 6) didn't hang with my friends as much as I used to 7) made her the most important person in my life 8) have an incurable disease 9) chronic homesickness to Australia, but live abroad 10) would sit in front of the computer too much So she walked..... Link to post Share on other sites
TheLoneSock Posted October 17, 2009 Share Posted October 17, 2009 1) True narcissist, to the bone 2) Terrible communicator, was like pulling teeth to get her to open up 3) Overral immaturity 4) I've been with hotter girls since 5) I put way too much into the relationship for her 6) She cheated on me, didn't tell me till after she broke it off. Then tried playing mind games with me for the next 8 months even though I told her not to call me anymore. 7) She would never be able to do what it would take for me to want her back again. 8) She's shaaaady 9) Very insecure with herself, needed constant compliments 10) Didn't appreciate the little things I did for her I'm sure there's others, but that's the jist of it! Link to post Share on other sites
Turista Posted October 17, 2009 Share Posted October 17, 2009 1) True narcissist, to the bone 2) Terrible communicator, was like pulling teeth to get her to open up 3) Overral immaturity 4) I've been with hotter girls since 5) I put way too much into the relationship for her 6) She cheated on me, didn't tell me till after she broke it off. Then tried playing mind games with me for the next 8 months even though I told her not to call me anymore. 7) She would never be able to do what it would take for me to want her back again. 8) She's shaaaady 9) Very insecure with herself, needed constant compliments 10) Didn't appreciate the little things I did for her I'm sure there's others, but that's the jist of it! They must be mass-producing these women... Describes my ex perfectly... Especially the shaaaady part... Link to post Share on other sites
TheLoneSock Posted October 17, 2009 Share Posted October 17, 2009 This all reminds me of a saying I once heard, and one that I've kept in mind religiously. "Behind every pretty face, there's a guy who was tired of dealing with her ****." Link to post Share on other sites
MrFun Posted October 17, 2009 Share Posted October 17, 2009 4) I've been with hotter girls since Back she still gets to ya every time, right? Link to post Share on other sites
TheLoneSock Posted October 17, 2009 Share Posted October 17, 2009 Back she still gets to ya every time, right? She used to, then I woke up. Link to post Share on other sites
NoneoftheAbove Posted October 17, 2009 Share Posted October 17, 2009 This all reminds me of a saying I once heard, and one that I've kept in mind religiously. "Behind every pretty face, there's a guy who was tired of dealing with her ****." Says it all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JaggedRoad Posted October 17, 2009 Author Share Posted October 17, 2009 There are many reason why I wouldn't be together with my ex-gf. But these are the reason why SHE wouldn't be with ME. 1) listen to music the whole time 2) didn't trust her 3) didn't play guitar as much as I used to 4) didn't draw as much as I used to 5) I did karate the whole time 6) didn't hang with my friends as much as I used to 7) made her the most important person in my life 8) have an incurable disease 9) chronic homesickness to Australia, but live abroad 10) would sit in front of the computer too much So she walked..... Hmmm I should list reasons why my ex wouldn't want me back too. 1)Stopped writing as much 2)Kept talking about depressing things 3)Didn't show enough affection 4)Didn't hang out with my friends at all 5)Slept too much 6)Stopped doing the little things 7)Have a weak immune system 8)Doesn't know what to do with my life 9)Kept talking about sex 10)Sat in front of the computer too much 11)Anger problem (although I never yelled at her) 12)Too naive Link to post Share on other sites
Author JaggedRoad Posted October 17, 2009 Author Share Posted October 17, 2009 Says it all. Haha too true But then again, we really didn't give a crap when we were in love. Link to post Share on other sites
TheLoneSock Posted October 17, 2009 Share Posted October 17, 2009 Haha too true But then again, we really didn't give a crap when we were in love. True, we didn't. But that's why in hindsight it's a good perspective to hold onto. Every relationship I've had after the one mentioned before has been better and better. It's what moving on to bigger and better things is all about. Everything is so f*ckin clear in hindsight haha.... Link to post Share on other sites
MrFun Posted October 17, 2009 Share Posted October 17, 2009 Hmmm I should list reasons why my ex wouldn't want me back too. Cool! Guess your ex is going to run into someone like me, fall in love with me, and realise that all men are the same anyways . Hell, we sit in front of the computer, on the couch, we watch sports or surf the Net when we "should" be doing something else. We are all the same. And talking about depressive stuff, yeah, sorry, that's also called "opening up". We might be primitive, but we're f**king happy about it. BTW, sometimes you just need to let s**t float on by.... Link to post Share on other sites
prayingshecomesback Posted October 17, 2009 Share Posted October 17, 2009 My ex is not coming back so I have nothing to worry about! Great 3 year relationship and she throws me away for another man. Link to post Share on other sites
Toki Posted October 17, 2009 Share Posted October 17, 2009 Every time she opens her mouth, I want to shove a screwdriver through my temple. Link to post Share on other sites
Pentel Posted November 11, 2009 Share Posted November 11, 2009 1) too much of a liar 2) she didn't tell me how she felt 3) she was afraid of me (wtf? i would NEVER hit her, shake her, or do anything like that NEVER) 4) she changed me for another guy 3 days after we broke up, then came back to me, then left me again, then again with nother guy 5) she played TOO much with my emotions 6) she was soo insecure 7) she is too much of a liar (again) 8) it would feel really akward with her 9) my family knows what she has done with me, and her family knows what i have done to her, 10) she never spoke to me about her feelings Link to post Share on other sites
tVII Posted November 11, 2009 Share Posted November 11, 2009 1. wants me to open up but when i do, Im being "emo" 2. selfish 3. bad at communicating and 4. we just don't work...maybe in another lifetime now... hmm Link to post Share on other sites
twinklecat Posted November 11, 2009 Share Posted November 11, 2009 1) Liar 2) Controlling 3) Manipulative 4) Has a HUGE Ego (really does not have the goods to back it up) 5) Lazy 6) Messy (Thank god I don't have to clean up after his ass any more) 7) Insecure 8) Sleazy 9) Has no morals 10) Has no respect for women 11) Emotionally blackmails people 12) Likes to put others down to make himself look/feel good 13) Is just a complete loser Link to post Share on other sites
Odyssey Posted November 11, 2009 Share Posted November 11, 2009 - impulsive spending - constantly complain that she's skint - lies - naive - drama queen - enjoys making a big deal out of nothing - attention seeking mind games - immaturity - cowardly...always run from problems and issues. - i don't think my car would want her back either, because she treated it like a bumper car from a fairground. Once after reversing into a shopping trolley bay, she said, "well...that's what bumpers are for":rolleyes: Link to post Share on other sites
twinklecat Posted November 11, 2009 Share Posted November 11, 2009 - impulsive spending - constantly complain that she's skint - lies - naive - drama queen - enjoys making a big deal out of nothing - attention seeking mind games - immaturity - cowardly...always run from problems and issues. - i don't think my car would want her back either, because she treated it like a bumper car from a fairground. Once after reversing into a shopping trolley bay, she said, "well...that's what bumpers are for":rolleyes: Sorry but this made me laugh so much! Link to post Share on other sites
Ilovecake Posted November 11, 2009 Share Posted November 11, 2009 I wouldn't go back to my ex because I no longer find him physically attractive. I also realized he's a complete dumbass and I'm way out of his league. Link to post Share on other sites
OneCoconut Posted November 11, 2009 Share Posted November 11, 2009 (edited) There are just so many reasons why our relationship would never work out again! 1) Different Goals in Life - I know what I want but he doesn't have a clue yet he's "supposed" to be wiser than me... so he said to me. He's still "finding" himself. 2) HUGE EGO PROBLEM - He always thinks he's better because he's older and worked much longer than me (we are both in the F&B industry) Always jealous or pissed off when I'm doing better or if I find something better. 3) Financially unstable - Seriously. You would expect a 29 year old man to actually want to have or start to save some money for his future. But what future? He had none planned! Checking account was always 0 balance and no savings account! 4) Spending Habits - Practically can be a girl on this one. He's so into buying new clothes/shoes. Can never wear the same thing twice! No money yet has to still find something to buy. Some kind of comfort thing. 5) Always disappears! - He's never there when I needed help or someone to depend on. Yet, I was always there when he lost his jobs, went into massive debt...etc. I don't know why I ever accepted this. 6) Plays the Blame Game - Whether it's me making him spend more money or how he got fired. Always someone out to get him. 7) Never Responsible - He doesn't seem to care about his own life? He doesn't have a passport, a driver's license, a yearly full-body checkup.. etc? He knows about this stuff.. but he doesn't care? He rather buy clothes? 8) Insecure - He left me telling me that I was the one who was insanely insecure when he couldn't stick up for himself in front of his cousins or family friends who are all younger than him! 9) His Family - There is no drama but they have to create drama to make themselves feel better? They also like to compete with each other for some reason. They often compared me with my ex because we were in the same industry. In the end, he chooses to go with the crazy side and start creating drama. 10) The sex sucked. Wow. Lots of red flags. Oh well.. he was my first love. I still love him and respect him. Even though he left, hurt and cheated on me.. I still hope he find someone who can help him. Might I add.. he's still incredibly mad even though he broke up with me. Apparently, a 22 year old can ruin a 29 year old's life. Edited November 11, 2009 by OneCoconut Link to post Share on other sites
hopefullove Posted November 11, 2009 Share Posted November 11, 2009 (edited) 1. unreliable, he's never there when i need him, i can never get a hold of him, he contacts me when he's good and ready, also never does things he says he'll do, "oh i'll go get a present for your mom", "oh, i'll do this for you", "oh, i'll make a roast on sunday" "oh, i'll call you tomorrow"... never, why say it then not do it. 2. lacks empathy, he's never been able to see anything from my perspective, when im sad, or hurt, he never tries to understand me, he'll try for 5 minutes and when i dont react right away, he'll get pissed off 3. conceited, everything was always about him, always talking about himself and how great he is and how i'll never find anyone like him, 4. never appreciated me, because he thinks he just deserves everything, all my efforts really meant nothing, any little thing he does, like make dinner reservations, is a HUGE deal, but i can do nothing right to him. 5. hates his mother, and i know he has a thing against women, i know psychologically there is something very unstable in him, i wanted to help but he doesnt acknowledge his problems, 6. calls me names, and hurts me as revenge, he consciously does things to hurt me, never acknowledges in his life that he has done anything to hurt me, 7. never had a deep relationship, he never asked me about me, or how my day was, or anything, after the first date, it was always very superficial, we'll talk about food, or movies, but never about each other, i feel like he never really wanted to know me. 8. lied to me. 9. on-off, on-off, on-off, on-off. ok so this would be the 5th time, 5th time is not the charm. Edited November 11, 2009 by hopefullove Link to post Share on other sites
weltrav Posted November 11, 2009 Share Posted November 11, 2009 1. She was incredibly emotionally needy and clingy despite knowing for a period of time we would have to be long distance. 2. She flirted with me back when we were friends and she had a boyfriend, so in the back of my head I always wondered if she was doing the same when we were dating. 3. Just about everything about our relationship she would tell to her best girl-friend, which is fine to have a good friend but I felt as if there was nothing private between the two of us. 4. She was horrible at sex Despite these reasons, I still miss her terribly... Link to post Share on other sites
Thebob Posted November 11, 2009 Share Posted November 11, 2009 1. She lied 2. I treated her better than she treated me 3. She constantly needs Dick and is obsessed with it 4. Is like a little princess and babied beyond belief by her parents 5. whines if something doesn't go her way 6. she thinks her sh*t smells better than most 7. her friends are sluts and immature 8. she is immature to a sense 9. She used me 10.Cause I can find someone better Thebob Link to post Share on other sites
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