justwantlove Posted October 15, 2009 Share Posted October 15, 2009 Well we went to vegas and had a really great time. We did alot of talking about how our relationship went from being open and accepted by everyone to having to sneak around and hide. He sticks firm to his love for me an want of us to have a future together.We talked about the steps we need to take on our own to be in a good place to move forward with a relationship. I knew i wanted to go nc befor i left for the trip. Being with him again and knowing that he loves me and he wants things to go well is going to give me what i need to stay away, for the most part. My plan is tie my loose ends, we both agree that our loose ends are whats getting in the way. Knock out mine and thats a smaller herdal for us. The first part will take anywere from 2-4 months. Nc till i get that stuff finished. After i have them wrapped up i plan on contacting him and letting him know that i still love him and that even though were not talking doesnt mean that im not fighting for him. And to see where his progress is in getting Child 1 taken care of. I need to have the hope of our future. When we fell in love there was nothing holding us back. The only curve ball that could come in our way hit us smak dead in the face. If he isnt making progress then so be it. I can promise him one year of my life. Wich i havent told him and wont let him know. But while i get my **** together i wont be dating, ill be holding on in my heart, doing what he needs me to do and what i need to do for myself. If at the end of me recrunstructing myself if isnt ready Ill at least be in a good place to move on and start meeting other people. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 15, 2009 Share Posted October 15, 2009 I wouldn't make ANY plans until HE figures this out with his wife, custody, finances, selling the house.. He can promise you the world right now but it means nothing because you get NO say in how this goes down at his end. Once he talks to his wife, everything could very well change, and not in your favour. He could have second thoughts about leaving his wife and kid(s). Do the NC for you, live your life and don't 'wait' for him. Not saying to go dating others, but it would be better for you to get used to not having him in your daily life. Anyway, it sounds like you know what you're doing. Link to post Share on other sites
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