When bf doesn't apologize for hurting my feelings

[SouthernGal]

Things haven't been too great between me and the bf for a few weeks now. He left to go out of town to work, and never called or came by to see me (like he said he would) before leaving. I felt so hurt. I told him that I was hurt that he did this, and I never got an apology from him. He has done this a few times in the past. Also did something nice for him, and he never acknowledged it. I do have trust issues with him because he has cheated on me in the past, and he said something to me that was very hurtful. I can slowly feel myself starting to pull away from this relationship. I don't know how long he is going to be there, and when I asked him he never answered the question. I feel his actions are very disrespectful and very close to emotional and verbal abuse. I would hate to end it (by email or phone) while he is away, just at a loss right now. Any suggestions?

[JackJack]

Why are you allowing this?

 

I didn't say you caused it, BUT by you continuing to stay in this situation, you are allowing him to treat you this way.

 

*Cheated on you in the past.

*Says things that have been hurtful

*Has done this before

*Actions and words are disrespectful and close to emotional/verbal abuse.

 

 

I ask you again, why are you still with him? he provides nothing for you but hurt it seems. If you are no longer with him he can not hurt you. Get some self esteem break it off now and know you deserve better.

[Odetta Dean]

Sorry to hear that SG. How long have you two been together? He reminded me of my STBX in his early days. It will only get worse if you stay. IME, all you will be doing is wasting precious years off your life, because he was this way before you came along and whether you stay with him or not, he will never ever change. ~ Please believe me, i've learned this the hard way.

 

If they say they are GOING to change. You see slight improvements for a little while, but once you've relaxed and started getting used to the nice changes they always go back to they way they were.

[Untouchable_Fire]

I think you deserve to be treated better than that.

[SouthernGal]

I think you deserve to be treated better than that.

 

I know. I even apologized for overreacting to a situation that occurred, and now I feel so stupid for doing so.

[Odetta Dean]

I know. I even apologized for overreacting to a situation that occurred, and now I feel so stupid for doing so.

I do it too! All the time i find myself apologizing when it SHOULD be him! Don't do it anymore, you'll be doing it so long as you stay with him, and your self esteem and self worth will suffer greatly. Take it from someone who knows.