rrggww Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 Quick summary: we met in April, she moved here, we were going to get married, I pulled back from the engagement told her it wasnt working out, but tried to take it back. She moved out and started seeing a guy from work. Well she broke it off with the guy from work. She keeps telling me she's a loner. I went by to see her, she told me not to cry because she has been around enough crying lately (I think she's saying she ended it with the guy on her terms). So she says she'll let me take her to dinner last friday, I say ok. I say do you want me to call you? She says NO, I'll call you. I give her a hug and a kiss on the head. Well friday comes and goes and I dont get a call, nor has she talked to me since. What is up with her? and what should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
sarah12 Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 She probably realized she isn't ready for that yet and doesn't want to lead you on, but she should have called. You can give her a friendly call just to see what's up, and see what she says about the missed dinner. You didn't mention if you still like her, want her back? Link to post Share on other sites
Author rrggww Posted December 3, 2003 Author Share Posted December 3, 2003 I just want to go over there, and try and get her to go to dinner with me...and find out whats up with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rrggww Posted December 4, 2003 Author Share Posted December 4, 2003 I need some immediate advice. Our first date last april was a formal that I have to go to twice a year. She went and got a special dress for it. The next formal is sat. night, and I have a girl that wants to go with me already, but I also asked my ex to go...although it was in a letter on monday. When I went by last wed. she was friendly and everything...but she did stand me up and I havent heard from her since. Is she worried that Im not over her and dinner would lead me on? Should I wait for her at her place to get off work and just try and be friendly and let her know that Im cool, and not stressed? She hasnt told me yes or no on the formal for sat. night...not a good sign I know. What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted December 4, 2003 Share Posted December 4, 2003 Why don't you try sending her a note or an email letting her know you realize she is still confused.....THEREFORE, you will continue your life as planned without her in it. Then, if she contacts you....play it by ear. Link to post Share on other sites
maxmuscle Posted December 5, 2003 Share Posted December 5, 2003 rrggww, She is just feeling you out bro. Its a death trap. She wants to know where she stands. I advise you to approach this with extreme precaution. Your feeling can become very strong again for her very quickly. Then you are back to square one. Don't you see what's happening? She already have you talking aobut the situation on this forum. She has your mind and you don't even know it. I say go out with the other girl. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rrggww Posted December 5, 2003 Author Share Posted December 5, 2003 Yeah, I have a date with the other girl tomorrow night. Sat is also my ex's birthday, she wouldn't let me take her out or get her anything, she's going out with friends from work. I did go and talk to her and we had a great talk, and maybe its a good sign that she doesn't consider me one of the guys so to speak. She said to not go over to see her untill I'm invited, and that she isn't ready yet to spend alot of time with me again. Fair enough. She did ask me if I knew when her birthday was, and she asked me if I told my family how we really met. Seems like she's feeling me out. I've been too obvious with my feelings with her, I guess out of guilt and desperation. But Im officially playing the game now...and that means no more contacting her at all. Now that I know she doesn't hate me, I can go on with my own life and try to have fun without her. I do still and always will love her though, and I hope that she come's around. How do I go about turning the tables? and getting her worried about what Im doing, and her wanting to see me all the time? Link to post Share on other sites
maxmuscle Posted December 6, 2003 Share Posted December 6, 2003 There is only one way to turn the tables; Remain confident and keep you dignity. You need to toss cold water on her by showing her life goes on. You will then start to gain control. Be positive with yourself. Positive attracts positive. Just show happiness with no regrets. Do not make it a one sided communication, Stop contacting her all the time, let her email you or call. Remember this is all about survival because you are not a couple anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
mr_roggger Posted December 8, 2003 Share Posted December 8, 2003 I too believe that getting on with things and being content with the break-up is the best way to get someone abck as you appear more valuable to them that way! Link to post Share on other sites
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