Dexter Morgan Posted October 30, 2009 Share Posted October 30, 2009 little bit of disclaimer here. dex - although youre hard on me i appreciate the honesty. truth is its so harsh and off center that i dont pay a whole lot of attention to it but at times you have been known to give good advice. my whole point here is that the comments that I made about loving your children were purely in a joking matter. i have no right to comment on that or wouldnt ever consider doing so. i was just *touched* that you have a soft side somewhere in there. respectfully understood. anyone can call me anything they want, but to question my love for my children, and the love I'd still have for them if i found out after all those years, and to insinuate that I'd drop my feelings for them if I found out after all this time bonding with them that they are not mine, is unacceptable and despicable. Guess I should stop donating to St. Judes, cuz afterall, they aren't my kids, why should I care right? Someone can call me "bitter" *boo hoo*....etc. They can say whatever they want about my stance on cheaters. It is what it is. I don't care. Link to post Share on other sites
seibert253 Posted October 30, 2009 Share Posted October 30, 2009 of course he bailed. can't blame him for not wanting to stay with someone that leads him to believe his daughter is his when she is not. does he still consider her his daughter and is he still involved with her? I'm not going to blame him if he is not, but I sure couldn't turn my back on a child thats known no other father other than me for all those years. He has her every other weekend, and once or twice during the week. He's actually very civil with his XW. My bud is a stand up guy, as far as he's concerned she IS his daughter and always will be. I could only hope to be half the dad he is. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted October 30, 2009 Share Posted October 30, 2009 He has her every other weekend, and once or twice during the week. He's actually very civil with his XW. My bud is a stand up guy, as far as he's concerned she IS his daughter and always will be. I could only hope to be half the dad he is. and thats the thing some people dont understand. when you have bonded with a child over the years thinking the child is yours, those feelings just dont go away because the child did nothing wrong and you still care for the child. Now some people can walk away from that situation and grieve the loss of the parental tie, but I couldn't. I decided long before I got a paternity test that whether or not they are biologically mine, I will take care of them because I love them. 1) Because non of their mother's sordid affairs would be man enough to do it. and 2) I'm the only father they have ever known. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted October 30, 2009 Share Posted October 30, 2009 Yes he seems to placed those that cheated even if it was for example a one time kissed situations on the ''never to be accepted as human'' again bag or that there are no possibilities for them ever finding a partner. those are your words, not mine. you must not read everything I say. I have said time and time again that someone can learn from their stupid decisions and apply it to someone else in the future. So ok, not putting your ex wife as an example... say you do meet a woman, fall in love and get married... years later she admitted that she cheated on an ex when she was in high school but never did it again, never cheated on you and learned from it... So guess that would be quick call for divorce too right? I would get to the bottom of that BEFORE I ever thought about getting married. having had my experiences, I'm not leaving a stone unturned. I will find out if the person I would consider for marriage is void of scruples. And if I asked if they have ever cheated and they say no, and I find out later they lied, well the marriage be on the rocks as I would wonder what else they lie about. but then again, because of my experience, I won't be getting married again. That is s##t I don't need again. And we all know about your ex wife that cheated on you, if you want to repeat it, go on ranting forum. You can vent on it, but venting on those asking for what to do, they got nothing to do with your life nor what your ex wife did... no, but they are cut from the same mold as my x-wife and I represent what more than likely is going through the mind of the man they f####d over. Link to post Share on other sites
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