newbie Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 Please help me! I am feeling like I am sick. This breakup has left me feeling emotionally & physically drained. I wanted be normal again. I barely eat & my sleeping habits is off. I wake up feeling like i have panic attacks. I walk around like a human zombie. And I don't know what I can do to feel normal again. I am getting scared. I've lost almost 20 lbs in 3 months. Do you have any suggestions? I am even thinking about starting drugs...Paxil or etc. But I want to be normal again with out the drugs. Please help me! Link to post Share on other sites
Girlinterrupted Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 I understand how you feel, I felt this way after my breakup. I couldn't enjoy anything, all I did was work, come home and sleep the days where going by like minutes and I hardly noticed. I found it so hard to enjoy life or get by with out him but then I started to think that I don't deserve to be that way, I realized that I lived and loved before him and I live now and will love again. I started to surround my self with my freinds and family again and that's what got me out of that depression. The biggest mistake I made was to drown my self in surrow and shut everyone out, once I let everyone back in I started to feel alive again. It's really hard but you have to remember that before this person came into your life you where doing just fine and you will be fine now. I suggest you surround your self with family and freinds and suck up all the support you can get. It's hard but you will survive, I promise. Link to post Share on other sites
lost_in_chgo Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 Not eating aggravates you emotional condition. Eat. Drink juices if you cant eat. Try exercise to deal with the stress. See your doctor. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 Newbie, I went thru that crap last Christmas and I tell you what.....I totally feel for you!! Probably most of the people who post on here will tell you the same thing. However,We all got thru it and you will too....but it won't happen overnight. During that time I joined an internet support group and we literally talked our way thru our heartache. Without that, I guess I would've found another way to cope. Maybe some anti-depressant meds wouldn't be a bad idea at this particular time. It's not as though you have to take them forever....you just need the help for now. A breakup is like a death...and you need to give yourself a mourning period. Eventually you'll get to the point of knowing that the only person who can pull your life back together is you. The sun will shine again, you will breathe without pain....and you'll find your old smile. Till then, post, hang out with friends, take an extra job...do what you need to do in order to fill the void. I promise...it WILL get better!!!! Arabess PS: GirlInterrupted....I like the new pic you posted! Link to post Share on other sites
Girlie Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 Anti-depressants are not a bad thing in and of themselves and if you feel you are REALLY bad off right now, you may want to consider them. When I was having trouble with panic attacks and the like (for a different reason - work and school), I went to a doctor to at least discuss the options and learn more. I recommend it. Even if you choose not to take anything, it's good to keep informed about what's out there. And like I said, if you're really bad off, don't feel like it's taboo and you can't consider it. As long as you understand it's a temporary solution to a deeper problem and you work on yourself at the same time, I think it's generally ok. Just make sure you make an educated decision. We've all been through heartache. I know it's hard - but keep in mind that this, too shall pass. You want to feel better and that's a great start. Now you need to do something about it. Visit your doctor. Find a good group of people or a person you can talk to - either amongst your friends, over the internet, etc. Eat. Go out and do something nice for yourself and remind yourself that you're worth it. Take care of yourself, in general. Link to post Share on other sites
Caddy Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 Getting on meds might not be a bad thing for you, but you definetly need to see a professional before you start any medications. Even those over the counter meds for mood swings, depression, whatever. I feel for you because I have gone through a similar experience with one of my exes. It takes a while to get over the hurt, pain and frustration that comes with the break up. Time does heal all wounds. You will get over this. The bad thing about it is that it's not an instant fix. You do have to take the time to heal. Make sure you seek some help with a professional about your problems because not eating and sleeping can have a big effect on your health too! Link to post Share on other sites
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