trueblue72ny Posted October 26, 2009 Share Posted October 26, 2009 (edited) good post paperchase. i think that more or less fits the shoe most of the time when it comes to attempts at reconciliation. things die quick after not too long because whatever caused the break up in the first place, prevents reconciliation. like a breach of trust for example. at least from what i have seen in life. but like i said, if it does work out for someone, than my hats off to them. i think that is great. i just dont think it works out for the long term the majority of the time. maybe i am living in a weird part of the country. Edited October 26, 2009 by trueblue72ny Link to post Share on other sites
stace79 Posted October 26, 2009 Share Posted October 26, 2009 Ha, I got mine back, and boy am I sorry. Brief story: when I met him, he was still hung up on his ex of four years. He dated me casually and still talked to her. She never wanted anything serious (as usual). He started dating me exclusively, and then she came on to him full force. After three months of dating he broke up with me to "figure things out with her once and for all." Like a fool, I stuck around for the whole thing. He still talked with me frequently and hung out with me. After four months apart, she again told him she didn't want anything serious with him. She "didn't want him, but didn't want anyone else to have him" (her words). He came back to me and we lived together for two years. I dealt with him staying his ex's "friend", talking over Internet, phone, texts but never seeing each other (my rule). We got engaged in May, and I've regretted it, and we finally broke up on Thursday. Only now I am three months pregnant with his child, which caused even more arguing over what to do about the pregnancy. He finally ceded all his rights to the child to me as of yesterday, so I can do whatever I want (likely an open adoption with family). But we hate each other and will likely never speak, a child has been unfairly brought in to the equation, and I have had many hours of pure misery and hell. If someone breaks up with you, or if you feel the need to break up with someone, just go with your gut. It is likely right. And in all honesty, if we each date 10 people in our life time and only marry/stick with one, that's a 90% failure rate. Yet we all each continue acting like every relationship we enter into is going to be the be all/end all. Weird, isn't it? Link to post Share on other sites
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