CanadianBornCutie Posted December 3, 2003 Share Posted December 3, 2003 My boyfriend and I broke up a month ago.( I'm 19 he's 25 )We had the best relationship, we never fought, we were the perfect couple, though we only saw each other weekends, he was the sweetest thing ever! Emails me everyday calls me everyday, but once he moved out with his brother (which is another story in itself) and he got his new job he was getting tired more, and he was extremely busy. it seemed like he had trouble prioritizing his life He was still sweet and everything, but he started forget to call me and such I don't expect much just to hear that he's okay sometimes. He is also a wrestler, he loves wrestling and it had sort of consumed him. He really wants to make it big to the WWE, our first arguement was that he was considering cancelling our one year anniversary weekend to go wrestle some small city in the north. our second arguement that started the demise would have to be that i asked him what he wanted out of life, he said plainy just to wrestle. I was hurt, i had been with him through his ups and downs we've talked about getting married one day etc and i was no where in the picture. I am a very emotional person so i began to cry, cause he started saying how wrestling came first in his life and so it is number one.......it was hurtful to say...... needless to say that he said he needed a break to figure things out, for two weeks.....i gave him that and he said that he felt extremely guilty for hurting me so much and that he loved me alot, it was just he was scared about what his life was turning into, he wanted to wrestle and has to give it 100% to see if he can do it. He says he wanted to slow our relationship down alot, break up but still casually date he said hopefully when he's done figuring out his life that hopefully i'll be there in the end but he doesnt' expect it. I love him to death! we still talk regularly and when we do go out together we act like a couple. He says it's not about seeing other people, he just has to see if i'm the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with....... there is much more detail i could go into....however i will not, i love him and and i know he loves me, he believes in the cliche "if you love something let it go if it comes back it's meant to be" Is it worth waiting for? He has very many issues with dealing with guilt, he says he just doens't have time to be committed seriously...... Link to post Share on other sites
Author CanadianBornCutie Posted December 3, 2003 Author Share Posted December 3, 2003 More things to add, we always try to make plans if he's busy he always re-schedules for me we have plans this friday, my friends say we're a couple in denial? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 4, 2003 Share Posted December 4, 2003 You can wait for him if you want, but sometimes these guys who get focused on careers do so for a LONG time. If he's the most wonderful man you could ever imagine meeting, then set a time limit beyond which you'll wait no longer. Link to post Share on other sites
berrysun Posted December 4, 2003 Share Posted December 4, 2003 I have to make a comment on the whole idea of the letting it go and if it comes back it's meant to be. Right now I have 2 ex boyfriends trying to get me back. These are both relationships from about 4 and 5 years ago. We have remained friends. One I'm closer to than the other, but they both pretty much said if I said the word they would marry me tomorrow. I don't know why this is happening or what the hell either of them are thinking!! The truth is I like them both very much but I just don't see myself with either of them. I just don't feel a connection to them anymore. I guess I just wanted to add this in the forum so you can see even if they come back it may not always be meant to be in the sense of love or commitment. It can't be meant to be with both of them can it? Oh, just so everyone knows, they both know how I feel and I am not stringing them along. Link to post Share on other sites
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