cyberface Posted December 4, 2003 Share Posted December 4, 2003 I’m French so please bare with my poor English writing skills, thank you in advance for your kind words! Been with her 10 years (married 4) but in February of this year I left my pregnant wife and my beautiful 4 yr old daughter after I cheated. I moved out of the house and continued the relationship with this new girlfriend (co-worker, now no longer with the company). Working on the road made it almost impossible to see my daughter and girlfriend on the weekends, my kids are like the oxygen that I breathe (I couldn’t live without them) So I broke up with the girlfriend and moved back into the house (spare bedroom) only to call her a few days later because I missed having her in my life and then moved out again. I did this 3 times and after 9 months I broke it off for the last time. My wife and I have been talking and seeing each other every weekend for the past two months. But every day I think about her (girlfriend) and what we shared together, everywhere I go something makes me think about her, I have dreams about her and I feel like I need to know how she’s doing! It’s driving me insane, the other day I drove by her place, last night I called her office just to see if she still worked there! I don’t know what to think anymore, my emotions are fighting constantly… I feel like I’m cheating all over again!!! I have so many mind-bending thoughts that it’s affecting my work, my life in general. Oh I forgot to tell you, throughout this entire nightmare a beautiful baby boy was born, he’s the greatest! txs for listening ps there is so much more I could share but I would probably need a week to compose it! Link to post Share on other sites
bark Posted December 4, 2003 Share Posted December 4, 2003 my kids are like the oxygen that I breathe (I couldn’t live without them) From your post, I believe your obsessive fixation on your girlfriend is the oxygen in your life--not your children, not your girlfriend and especially not your wife. You are obsessed with your girlfriend and I don't believe anything that anyone will post here will change that basic fact. Think about it: you have sacrificed your family, your wife's dignity (and sanity) and your mental health for the sake of this woman. What is to be done? Throw your wife and kids off your merry-go-round of passion and decide whether to fish or cut bait. This means that if you believe you want to re-start your affair, get a divorce first. You've put everyone through hell with your backing and forthing: wife, kids, girlfriend. All need a break from your obsessive behavior and indecision. You are hurting those closest to you--all in the name of some grand obsessive passion. Stop it. Get counseling, go on meds --treat your obsessive disorder. Stay with your wife, and raise your children. End everything with the long suffering girlfriend. If you cannot, or will not , do that, get a divorce so that your long suffering wife is free to find a stable, loving and faithful husband. Your family is a billion times more important than your erotic obsessions. Link to post Share on other sites
lostforwords Posted December 4, 2003 Share Posted December 4, 2003 ) So I broke up with the girlfriend and moved back into the house (spare bedroom) only to call her a few days later because I missed having her in my life and then moved out again. I did this 3 times and after 9 months I broke it off for the last time. I so strongly agree with bark.... please do something to fix this.... im assuming you have inflicted so much pain on your family..... your infatuated with this other girl..... and you truly need help.... my heart goes out to your wife and children.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author cyberface Posted January 23, 2004 Author Share Posted January 23, 2004 Sorry it took so long to reply, but I have been recovering from a serious car accident. Thank you for all your advice, I'm doing very well and moving foreward with my good decisions. Again thank you, your advice was helpful. "Life is what you make of it" "Nothing is good or bad, but thinking makes it so!" Link to post Share on other sites
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