boldjack Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 OP, you're problems are with your wife. If she is behaving in such a way as to show remorse and absolute transparency, and NC with her AP, then you are on the right track. The race of the AP is of no consequence. The stereotypes that Lizzie and others are ignorant enough to believe aren't true and have been proven false by numerous studies, by reputable medical establishments, so you need not worry on that account. I would suggest that you don't believe myths, and don't believe your wife, without proof. You are the judge of her motives, not the posters here. They are more concerned with arguing among themselves, than helping you. Link to post Share on other sites
Blindsidedagainalive Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 I am a betrayed man, 2 years since D-day. Affair recovery is very difficult. If you decide to reconcile, go about it the right way. For one, you are posting, so you are looking for support and info. Go purchase the book 'Not Just Friends', which is sort of a gold standard for affair recovery. Take care of yourself. Get exercise, eat well, sleep well. Go to IC Don't beat yourself up...our egos get bashed after an affair. Remember, this had NOTHING to do with you. This had NOTHING to do with any deficits you have. This is your wife's issue. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony Posted October 20, 2009 Senior Moderators Share Posted October 20, 2009 OK, I think we've worked this subject over just fine. Thanks everybody! Link to post Share on other sites
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