TheDonny Posted December 4, 2003 Share Posted December 4, 2003 I've been going out with my girlfriend for almost 3 months now. We don't have too much in common but we almost always have a good time together. But lately I have been feeling like I want to break up with her. I noticed that she always checks out other guys and makes comments about them. She even does this when it is just her and I talking; She'll comment about some other boy she thinks is "hott". I absolutely cannot stand this. She knows it makes me furious but she just says it is me being "jealous", which I am not. She never compliments me and it is just demolishing my self- esteem. She is also very depressed. And I have also just recently fallen into a deep depression that I difficultly keep to my self. Her home-life is absolute hell, but she thinks she is the only person who has problems in this world. I know you must be thinking that we can help each other out with our problems and get through it together, but in reality it is only me helping her and mine just getting worse. I keep it away from her but I don't know if I can much longer with her sadness constantly looming. But she seems to be getting better. I almost told her a few nights ago that I was breaking up with her. She even thought I was going too and actually said that I was the only good thing in her life right now. To make matters worse I really love this girl. It is just mentally and emotionally destroying me to be with her. I need advice. Is it her or my fault? Should I break up with her? Link to post Share on other sites
somersetlady Posted December 4, 2003 Share Posted December 4, 2003 If someone is miserable they will make everyone around them miserable, too. Keep this in mind and ask yourself if this is something worth dealing with. If she cant help but not care even though she's upsetting you, then you need to discuss that if she continues, you'll walk out the door. If you are not clear about your feelings, she'll never know. She may even love this attention you are giving her. Keep in mind, there are "many fishes in the sea". Hope that helps. Obviously, you are looking for someone to make you feel good about yourself and if she isnt the one, its a good thing you know now, rather than further down the line. Take this as a red flag and beware... Link to post Share on other sites
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