Metal_Muffin Posted November 23, 2009 Share Posted November 23, 2009 Hi confused....just wondered how things were since the email? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused728 Posted November 23, 2009 Author Share Posted November 23, 2009 im doing fine i havent answered him.. i dont know what to do.. im not sure if i actully want him back and have to deal with this stuff again...i dont know if his intent is to get me back anyway. what do you think? I go back and fouth with how i feel about it.. Link to post Share on other sites
Metal_Muffin Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 Aw you have done well not to reply so quickly. I know I was talking to a friend the other day about my ex and I do still love him but I don't think I could back with him. After all this that he Put me through I don't know If I could forgive him for it if he then turned around and said actually I want u back, just don't think I could do it. How do u feel? Do you want to reply? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused728 Posted November 25, 2009 Author Share Posted November 25, 2009 i feel same way i dont know how i could sleep in bed with him or anthing after knowing he put me threw this.. i want to reply to give him a piece of my mind and tell him how bad he skrewed up and that i dont want him back lol i feel like telling him that and that he blew it...and he chose his freinds over me why doesnt he just go with them, cause i feel that he did chose them over me... that email was the first time he ever took responsiblity for saying he let happen what happend, i wonder why after three months he is finally admiting his wrongs? Link to post Share on other sites
Metal_Muffin Posted November 26, 2009 Share Posted November 26, 2009 I don't know why it took him so long! We did say we would expect to hear from them...just can't believe it took so long!! I don't blame you wanting to give him a piece of your mind....but I guess there's a small part of you, the part that loves him still that isn't ready to do that! It's my ex's birthdy today I said ages ago I was def going to txt him today but I'm not...we dont owe them anything! Look at what they did to us!! Why do you think he's written to you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused728 Posted November 26, 2009 Author Share Posted November 26, 2009 lol i figured i would hear from him once he got back from his trip, i said that pages ago lol i want to give hima piece of my mind and im not doing it not becuase i care but i just dont wanna get my sell all fustrated again... i been trying to figure out why he would send that email... why do you think he is doing it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused728 Posted November 26, 2009 Author Share Posted November 26, 2009 he sent me a happy thanksgiving text today.. not sure what to do Link to post Share on other sites
brokenrightnow Posted November 26, 2009 Share Posted November 26, 2009 Don't say anything. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused728 Posted November 27, 2009 Author Share Posted November 27, 2009 i feel like a jerk that i didnt answer his text and write happy thanksgiving back maybe im acting really bad.. what do u think i dont know i feel guilty about it Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused728 Posted November 28, 2009 Author Share Posted November 28, 2009 i feel so upset a freind ran into him tonight and he told my freind it was the first time he was out in months and he was out with on of his drug friends.. im like odly very upset i feel like i was kicked in the stomach i feel very hurt i dont know why.. i was told he wasnt "with" anyone else but i feel so man like i wanna call him yell at him text him or whatever... tell him that we are never gonna be freinds or anthing.. i feel so f--ing hurt. funny thing is i was gonna go to the same place, i went there i parked and decided to go meet another freind somewhere else so i left. i kinda wish i went now... so i could have had the pleasure of ignoring him so i could hurt him by doing that.. im so mad what do i do?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused728 Posted November 28, 2009 Author Share Posted November 28, 2009 i feel so angery now i wanna get even some how, i wanna make him hurt too. i hope my NC is bothering him and thats why he wrote that he had regrets i didnt even answer him when he sent happy thanksgiving.. i just feel so hateful and angery toward him right now like really bad just hate him Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 I understand how you feel hun, but when I hear about people wanting to get even or 'winning' (you didn't mention winning, but others have) or wanting to hurt the ex, what does it really achieve? It's not about getting even, that just sinks you down to their level-if the ex has wronged you in some way. I sent a hurtful text to my ex and it upset him, and that in turn upset me as I don't want to hurt or upset him, it's a horrible feeling to hurt someone else. If someone (I mean friends mostly, or family) has hurt you I think the best way to tackle it is to say you feel hurt and explain why, but without attacking them, this way you appear calm and much more rational. i feel so angery now i wanna get even some how, i wanna make him hurt too. i hope my NC is bothering him and thats why he wrote that he had regrets i didnt even answer him when he sent happy thanksgiving.. i just feel so hateful and angery toward him right now like really bad just hate him Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused728 Posted November 28, 2009 Author Share Posted November 28, 2009 ok i couldnt help it i sent a text and said that if he cared half as much as he claimed he would call instead of email... i dont know if he is gonna answer but i dont expect it Link to post Share on other sites
Metal_Muffin Posted November 29, 2009 Share Posted November 29, 2009 Oh my god I don't blame you!! I hate my ex this weekend! Did he reply to you? Try not to get in contact again now. What would you say if he called? Ex's are rubbish and this is ***** but you have been so strong and done so well just try hang on to that! You are bette then this! I'm sorry though and I hope you feel better... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused728 Posted December 1, 2009 Author Share Posted December 1, 2009 well he called lol and said he was afraid to call before becuase he didnt know if i would answer, pretty much said he was miserable without me, lost sleep over me, wanted to call me everyday and coudlnt stop thinking about me no matter what he was doing and was second guessing everthing and that he was being stuborn and that he should have been more compromising and that he shouldnt have let me walk out on him Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused728 Posted December 1, 2009 Author Share Posted December 1, 2009 oh ya he said that he relized how much he loved me and i also met up with him and we had a nice dinner and time together Link to post Share on other sites
Metal_Muffin Posted December 1, 2009 Share Posted December 1, 2009 Oohh did he? What did you say? Link to post Share on other sites
Metal_Muffin Posted December 1, 2009 Share Posted December 1, 2009 Sorry only just read the second part you put. So what's the plan now...to take things slow or....? Link to post Share on other sites
Metal_Muffin Posted December 4, 2009 Share Posted December 4, 2009 This is so stupid...I was doing well! I saw his car in the car park Friday morning and now I can't stop thinking about him =( he wasn't even in the car! I feel so stupid!! I don't want to miss him! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused728 Posted December 7, 2009 Author Share Posted December 7, 2009 How everthing going metal? I spent the weekend with mine it just doesnt seem the same, mabey im over him but id still feel depressed if i wasnt talkin with him.. I feel like its hard to find things to talk about but we were together all weekend so maybe thats normal lol... he seemed somtimes a little depressed and quite mabey a tad irritable... mabey if he was doing drugs and comming off of them these would be symptonms? does anyone know.. i hope im not jumping to conclusions again... i dont even think we concider ourselves back together yet rather that we are just hanging out and seeing what happens? anyone have any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
northstar1 Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 How everthing going metal? I spent the weekend with mine it just doesnt seem the same, mabey im over him but id still feel depressed if i wasnt talkin with him.. I feel like its hard to find things to talk about but we were together all weekend so maybe thats normal lol... he seemed somtimes a little depressed and quite mabey a tad irritable... mabey if he was doing drugs and comming off of them these would be symptonms? does anyone know.. i hope im not jumping to conclusions again... i dont even think we concider ourselves back together yet rather that we are just hanging out and seeing what happens? anyone have any advice? IT rarely ever is the same when you get back with someone. Let me ask you, are you wanting to go back to him because you are lonely, or because you truly feel he is a good partner? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused728 Posted December 7, 2009 Author Share Posted December 7, 2009 hmm i do feel lonley but i feel he is very good guy to spend time with he nice kind very good with his family, his family and i get along great, he pretty fun, i think we have a good connection... what would define what a good partner is? Link to post Share on other sites
northstar1 Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 hmm i do feel lonley but i feel he is very good guy to spend time with he nice kind very good with his family, his family and i get along great, he pretty fun, i think we have a good connection... what would define what a good partner is? great, sounds like he's fun to hang out with. but what about in a relationship? someone who puts your needs before hanging out with his buddies. someone who treats you well. and someone who doesn't get into substance abuse. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused728 Posted December 7, 2009 Author Share Posted December 7, 2009 thats a good point, ill have to see what he does. but at this point i wouldnt say we are a couple but we are acting like it its just so strange... strange status to be in.. also he had a hard time keepin an erection and kept going soft and took a long time to orgasam, do you think this had to do with drugs.. hes sex drive didnt seem nearly as up as mine.. Link to post Share on other sites
northstar1 Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 thats a good point, ill have to see what he does. but at this point i wouldnt say we are a couple but we are acting like it its just so strange... strange status to be in.. also he had a hard time keepin an erection and kept going soft and took a long time to orgasam, do you think this had to do with drugs.. hes sex drive didnt seem nearly as up as mine.. Hard to say. I've heard of something called "coke d**k" where guys have a hard time getting it up when they are using. But I have no idea. Did you look up symptoms of someone using? Link to post Share on other sites
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