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Im glad your feeling better...happy you didnt txt back?! Try not to worry or think about him going away!

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yes im glad i didnt answer him, it feels kind of empowering! im still wondering if he is goign away with them, he prob be doing drugs and having sex with other people wich makes me kidna mad but the thought doesnt make me as mad as it used to lol. i just decided that im gonna punish him by not talkin to him or be freinds with him ever..that should sting him alot, or so i hope!

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I think im going to second your choice on that and do the same!! Hence why im DEF not txting him on his birthday hes going to want and expect me to...so no im not!

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Good job guys! Stay strong! I have wanted to contact my ex sooooo many times over the past month. To show him my sister's Halloween costume because he loves Star Wars, to comment on the Phillies (he is a fan), to tell him about what was going on with my ex-husband (he was who I turned to when I needed to talk and a hug)...but I didn't! And I won't! I want him to wonder how I am doing and wonder if I care about him anymore and wonder if I am seeing someone else. He doesn't get to be part of my life anymore, he made that decision. So part of my life he won't be. And you know what? I'll move on from this, maybe find someone soooo much better and look back and say "what was I thinking?" Why did I put so much energy into being sad about HIM?

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rick i agree with you!, mine still wanted to be part of my life and he told me that! but if they dont want us and picked others over us, or for whatever reason they dont wanna work things out, why should we be part of their lives, the let us go! I dont intend on seeing me ex or anthing unless he says he wants to work somethign out wich i doubt he will...i wonder how he feels since i didnt answer his text the other morning.. mabey he finally gets that im serious now. I hope he is somewhat sad that we are not talking i know he didnt want that. let them know what it really feels like to not have us around!

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Right i think i need some more uplifting words girls. I made a massive mistake of leaving my mob at work..so got my old one out to use instead and it had all these old msgs on...well there about a month old. All about him telling me how things will get better for us, he loves me, wants me, im more exiting then any drug. I know your right though...i also know that im being a massive fool getting upset. Ive not txt him though...although as i write that i realise my phones at work anyway haha!! Grrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!! help! lol

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dont text him if they are that old, you will just feel worse ignoring them and rejecting them puts the power back in your hands! i was thinking earlier another thing my ex said when he wanted to not work things out was he just felt like nothing new was happening in our relationship whatever that ment..

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Ok,that's good your phone is at work. That will help you rethink what you might do impulsively. I just accidentally clicked on the exes profile on the dating site where we met and it sends a notification to them...ugh! Oh well, it's done now but at least there was no contact made. I don't feel upset though.

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Yeah..im the worst at just reacting and not thinking things through! So good thing i left it and i dont want to txt him. I determined to adapt without him!

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its starting to bother me alittle again, i think he went away with those people who knows though... they all do drugs, do you think he is doing it with them rick or should i belive what he says when he says he just hangs out wiht them but he just doesnt do drugs with them... you think its a lie..i am stuck between thinking that he wanted to leave me and take a break from me to do drugs or that i just wasnt good enough... i cant figure it out

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no reason to wonder... no reason to figure it out. you'll never figure out the truth - it's designed so you will (may) never know. you are still letting him drag you down with your constant need to know.

 

spend your energy on positive influences in your daily life. it's better that way. ;)

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i agree sunny im starting to think the same that ill never know why. i just hope it wasnt me but i think drugs must have some part in it. it makes me mad to think that he might be out havign sex with other people right now when im the one that wants him. can he actully do this and not think about me at all or feel bad about it. i dont understand, when i go out and talk to other guys i like them but i always think of him and wish it was him i was with. sunny why do u think he text me the other morning sayin he hoped all was well with me?

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I know what you mean....when i talk to guys or anything im so aware there not my ex. It still bothers me how hes finding this all so easy...well i guess he is cause ive not heard a peep out him! The thought of him being with someone else is horrible...specially when hes got someone who loves him. Cause no other girl will put up with him lol...i know that!!

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same thing from mine i barley hear a peep out of him. you think he would ever said i miss you, or somting like that nope, not at all... today i feel mad again and i dont know why.. im just angery that he could toss me aside like this i just dont know why he is doing this! did he really fall out of love with me is it the drugs. even when some of his family told him we should get back he said to me "there not the ones in a relationship with you, they dont know how u are" what does that mean its pretty mean.. i just will never be his freind cause he wants that, so long as i live i wont talk to him. what do u think about that? if he doesnt wanna be with me im not even gonna be his freind

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Just like Sunny said stop trying to figure it out. Does it really matter why? Is he treating you like you deserve and want to be treated? It doesn't sound like it.

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I dont think me and my ex will be friends. I cant do that...i have done with other ex's i have one of them is even one of my closests mates but this one is different. The only way i can get past and over him is to not speak, look and hear from him. As long as there nothing around me of his and i dont hear from him i can do ok. Friends though would just be too hard!!

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I really miss him today and I have no idea...it's been 5 weeks tomorrow since we broke and coming up to three weeks no contact! Confused have you heard anymore from him?

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its been five weeks of nc for me also, hes prob to busy away with those guys now than to bother contacting me, he prob out having sex and doing drugs with some one else

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See I miss him but for making me feel like this I would never take him back...he makes me angry what I'm think I'm going through because he's so selfish. Is your ex still away?

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not sure i havent talked to him lol so i dont know where or what and i like it like that! im really starting to get over him, im not going to be his codependent... read this adivce i got, i wrote this woman an email and she answered it... its same story i posted here

 

http://gettingpastyourpast.wordpress.com/2009/11/08/mail-we-get-mail-when-they-were-or-are-a-drug-addict/#more-4624

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well i found out the jerk still went away, and he had the F-ing nerve to text me last week before he did... what a jerk

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I read the link...and it helped! Thank you! Can't believe he actually went bearing in mind he txt you and everything! I can't be bothered to be upset anymore I'm def doing better then I was! I just want to completely move on now...screw them their not worth this!!

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ya wtf he text me a day before he went away what the hell did he do that for!? today i kinda feel upset again not that bad though.. but mad and kinda miss him.. i had a dream about him last night.. i just cant understand why he is putting me threw all this. i never did anything wrong to him to be discarded like this..

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I know the feeling...i was nothing but good to him prob even when he didnt deserve it. Speically near the end...things were so good with us which means this makes even LESS sense! I can imagine us two just never really knowing why this happened...which is hard!

It is a *****ty thing to do...txting you and then going away...he must of known you were upset about him going!! I dont get these two...just letting the drugs over rule everything...when they have so much to loose as well. I still miss my ex specially if i dream about him but when i think about it i wouldnt want him back...now now, not after hes put me through all this rubbish and what for!? drugs! brilliant! Nah i dont think i could go back there now! Even if i wanted to!

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