rocketsh1p Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 I took a break with my bf of 3 years because I felt he started to act like a jerk to me but after 2 weeks he started begging me to talk to him and give him another chance so I did and things were going fine. Then one day he told me he was going out to a club with his friend and I new sxomething was going on since for 3 years he always refused to ever go with me! When I was texting him he didn't reply all night so the next day I was asking him to tell me the truth about what was going on. He insisted he wasn't lying. But I new he was. Finaly he goes " you wanna kno the truth? Okie here it is I went to a club a bday party of that slutty girl you hate and I was in vip taking shots all night and my night was amazing! Oohh and me and u r over I never wanna talk to you again!" He lied to me and then broke up with ME! Saying I did this to myself by hasseling the truth outa him!wtf? And then the next day he writes to me saying if I don't want my stuff. To get someone else to pick it up or he's going to thro everything out. He refers to me on facebook as.. "that bi***" I don't understand he lied to me! He dumped me! Y is he acting this way? I haven't eve bothered him I brocked him from calling me and blocked him n his friends on facebook! Honestly I'm so heartbrocken I wanted to be with him he's never been this way its like he came back into my life just to hurt me. He told one day you the closest person to me I don't wanna ever loose u ur the girl I wanna marry and then the next day he lies to my face and then breaks up with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Turista Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 He knew it was over and milked you for sex until he found someone else... You've been played, move on and come up with an endearing pet name for him as well... And raise your standards in the meantime... Link to post Share on other sites
Confused728 Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 Im kind of going threw same thing read my post about the drugs, I caught my bf doing drugs about year and half ago, and then he started hanging out again with people who are big time users so i decided to break up with him cause i thought he was going down a slippery path to using drugs, then i decided to forgive him and he said he didnt want to be with me because i could never trust him with drugs. lol so he was one doing somting wrong and doesnt want to work it out with me Link to post Share on other sites
ADF Posted October 20, 2009 Share Posted October 20, 2009 Forgive me, but this is very simple: he played you. He's trash. Move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Angel1111 Posted October 21, 2009 Share Posted October 21, 2009 He probably did more than 'shots' at the club and he knows it's just a matter of time before you find out. Breaking up with you was just a pre-emptive strike. He did it before you had the chance to. He knew it was all over with. He was probably seeing someone else when the two of you were broken up. Don't be surprised if he tries to weave himself back into your life in a few weeks. He may try to use this as shock value so that if he contacts you again, you'll be so happy to hear from him that you won't ask questions. Don't go there. He was doing a LOT of lying about that night, and perhaps other nights, and you can't ever trust him again. This is a true ass at work. Link to post Share on other sites
hellothar Posted October 21, 2009 Share Posted October 21, 2009 He used you, and you can't be for sure how long. You are better than this and deserve more. He is garbage, plain and simple. You don't know if he had been cheating on you so an STD test might be a smart move if you two had been having unprotected sex. This new person he wants will use him like he used you and he will come back professing his unending love and how sorry he is for making that mistake. At that point you can kindly, with grace, ask him to leave and remind him to excercise great care to not let the door hit his posterior on the way out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rocketsh1p Posted October 21, 2009 Author Share Posted October 21, 2009 He used to always interigate me about everything who calls who I see where I go every moment of everyday and now I think he was so insecure because he saw how ez it was to cheat or lie to my face and get away with it. He's cut! I feel like all the love I had for him is menifesting into hate....and I don't ever wanna talk to himm again I KNOW he will come back and I'm going to break his heart like he broke mine! THANK YOU EVERY ONE! Ur posts made it easier to move on! Link to post Share on other sites
PQ13 Posted October 22, 2009 Share Posted October 22, 2009 (edited) He started begging me to talk to him and give him another chance so I did... This trick never fails! . Edited October 22, 2009 by PQ13 Link to post Share on other sites
littlebittle Posted October 22, 2009 Share Posted October 22, 2009 That sucks. My first boyfriend and I had sort of a similar nasty breakup. He didn't lie, but after two years of dating, he just started acting like a real douchebag. Things weren't going well, we were arguing more about stupid things. But I still really cared about him and wanted to be with him. In a lot of ways I just had the wool pulled over my eyes about who he'd become and what our relationship had turned into. The final straw was at a party, he was acting really obnoxious and rude to me. I finally called him out on it, and told him he was being a jerk. He got SO MAD and dumped me the next day. It was awful. I was shocked and at the time I felt like I shouldn't have been so hard on him. I wanted him back and I felt like I had made this big mistake. It took a long time to get over him, but eventually I realized, why was I in a relationship with such an a-hole to begin with? He was immature and insensitive and totally wrong for me. We had some really lovely times together, but in hindsight, I'm glad things ended when they did. Someone who cheats on you or manipulates you or treats you badly is just toxic for you. He broke up with you, but it actually is his loss. He might have good qualities, but the way he treated you is not an indication of a good guy who you want to spend the rest of your life with. It sucks that he dumped you, and in such a traumatic way. But in my experience, you'll ultimately come to be thankful that you got out of this negative situation when you did. And hopefully you'll have learned more about who you are, what you want, and what you deserve in the process. Link to post Share on other sites
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