tojaz Posted November 26, 2009 Share Posted November 26, 2009 IIRC in another post you mentioned the ex was getting the boy on Thursday. Does the boy get to spend today with you or the ex? As to the inebriated ramble, forget it, who know what you said, maybe you got lucky and mentioned Tojaz and his tux :confused: Wouldn't that be interesting! LOL!!:laugh: TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted November 26, 2009 Share Posted November 26, 2009 BH Yes that would be interesting. Maybe you could accidently slip that in some time. Let your ex wonder WTH is a Tojaz? Back to the parade Gallon Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted November 26, 2009 Share Posted November 26, 2009 BH Yes that would be interesting. Maybe you could accidently slip that in some time. Let your ex wonder WTH is a Tojaz? Back to the parade Gallon WTH is a Tojaz anyway????? Parade? FOOTBALLS ON! GO PACK GO! Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted November 26, 2009 Share Posted November 26, 2009 (edited) WTH is a Tojaz? Maybe that should be a new thread. Parade / Football? She is a gem, she doesn't bitch about my football watching, all day Sat and Sun. The parade is on only once a year, it is her thing, (oops, now our thing). Also her stuffing is to die for, and I only get it twice a year, if I keep her happy I will get more at Christmas, and I don't want to take a chance as that is only a month away Santa will be here shortly then it will be on to the game, we already know the Packers are going to win Enjoy the game, I always do no matter who wins, Packers / Lions go back to my childhood Gallon P.S. BH maybe you can help describe what a Tojaz is The game is on, it is after noon, and I have put a shot or rum in my pepsi. To my friend Tojaz, Brokenhearted and my other LS friends. Enjoy Edited November 26, 2009 by 2.50 a gallon Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted November 26, 2009 Share Posted November 26, 2009 WTH is a Tojaz? Maybe that should be a new thread. LOL, its a dumb story that would just ruin the mystique. Think I explained it once, but long since buried. Just going to pretend it's something cool. Parade / Football? She is a gem, she doesn't bitch about my football watching, all day Sat and Sun. The parade is on only once a year, it is her thing, (oops, now our thing). Also her stuffing is to die for, and I only get it twice a year, if I keep her happy I will get more at Christmas, and I don't want to take a chance as that is only a month away Can't argue with that! Good man Gallon, good woman too, keep her happy. Santa will be here shortly then it will be on to the game, we already know the Packers are going to win Cant argue with that either! Enjoy the game, I always do no matter who wins, Packers / Lions go back to my childhood Gallon Thanks Gallon, enjoy turkey day! (sorry for talking football on your thread Broken :o) TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
Author broken hearted Posted November 26, 2009 Author Share Posted November 26, 2009 No problem Tojaz...I love football! Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted November 27, 2009 Share Posted November 27, 2009 No problem Tojaz...I love football! My kind of woman! Think I'm in love! LOL Hope turkey day treated you OK Broken! TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 Tojaz With two little ones, I'd bet she can cook too. BrokenHearted In theory there is no such thing as a 10. You do not "like" football, you "love" football. Bonus point, even if you have six toes you would still be a 10 plus. Gallon Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 Tojaz With two little ones, I'd bet she can cook too. BrokenHearted In theory there is no such thing as a 10. You do not "like" football, you "love" football. Bonus point, even if you have six toes you would still be a 10 plus. Gallon Look at Gallon playing matchmaker! LOL Cookings a plus but i can keep my belly full just fine, and dosen't much mater how many toes she has. Shes got a good heart and thats hard enough to find, everything else is just gravy. I would agree though a definite 12 on a 1 to 10. TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 Tojaz A 12 might be stretching it, she might be a Bronco fan, (sorry PW and bug lady) and even worse a Cowboy fan. Brokenhearted: How did Thanksgiving go? Gallon (a 49er fan) Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 Tojaz A 12 might be stretching it, she might be a Bronco fan, (sorry PW and bug lady) and even worse a Cowboy fan. Good point Gallon! Think I can cope with just about any team just as long there isn't a T. Brady jersey involved. :sick: TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
Author broken hearted Posted November 28, 2009 Author Share Posted November 28, 2009 Backslide # 183,938,393,455,082! So, we live in a really small town and after months of my stbxh swearing up and down that he hasn't seen the OW since I found out about them, he was seen sitting in her car waiting for her to come out of the liquor store last night. My friend's sister saw him and told me. I have been crying and shaking uncontrollably since I found this out about 2.5 hours ago. Why, I'm not sure, we're separated and divorce is pending. What hurts the most is the continued lack of respect for me, our children, our families, and all the lies. Again, why...I really believed him when he said he wasn't seeing her anymore. This pain is becoming more and more unbearable everyday instead of subsiding. I truly believe that if it weren't for me having two children who rely on me and who need me, I may have taken my own life today...that's how severe the pain was and how badly I just wanted to escape it. I believe with every ounce of who I am that I will never EVER get over this man or recover from what he's done or how everything has transpired. Link to post Share on other sites
LisaUk Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 Broken, I saw your post on anothers thread, where you asked not to be corrected, I've had it on my mind all day, now your last post, I have to say something. You are not to blame for what your H has done, you had post natal depression, it's an illness, he had no right to do what he did, he should have been a man, gritted his teeth and helped you get throught it, after all, you gave him a wonderful gift, his son. There is simply no way on earth anyone deserves to be cheated on. If he was unhappy he should have said so, worked with you to resolve it, not cheated. Cheaters will always try and justify their cheating, even to themselves, re writethe marriage, whatever it takes, so long as they come out the victim and "having to do this". You deserve so much better than him. Look at how he is STILL lying to you! You don't need or wnat this man in your life and please, please don't do anything to yourself, you do not want your children raised by this man. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 Broken, (sorry for all the flirting on your thread, just playing with you some) I know it hurts, but I also hope that it shows where his mind is at and what hes become. Earlier today I read you blaming yourself for what has happened. That made me go back and read your previous threads looking for what such a fabulous woman could have done to deserve all this mistreatment. You know what I found? NOTHING! All I saw was a loving wife and mother trying to keep her family together. Willing to accept the past for a chance at a better future, and this man abused that to no end! I even think you said it best in your first post on your first thread.... During this time, he even told me that it was all about him right then and that my feelings didn't matter to him. I think that says it all right there. This is not a man worthy of your love, your broken heart, or your tears! I know it hurts, but were all here for you. TOJAZ I think that says it all right there! Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 Honey, my heart really goes out to you, so sorry for what you are going through (((((hugs))))) Link to post Share on other sites
Author broken hearted Posted November 28, 2009 Author Share Posted November 28, 2009 If he's so not worth my tears or love than why would I still give anything I have to start over with him, start fresh, forget about everything that's happened in the past and move forward together, as a family? I CANNOT HANDLE THIS PAIN ANY LONGER...I CAN'T!!! I look at my children and my heart breaks! I am so broken emotionally, physically, psychologically...for Goodness sakes, this man is responsible for me being diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder. I want to escape this pain and I want to escape it now! I can understand with every shred of my being how my brother took his life! He couldn't bare to feel the pain any longer and by ending his life, he knew the pain would no longer go on. My children are my life and I live for them and them alone! I WANT TO BE HAPPY! I am so incredibly unhappy and I do believe that I have a huge hand in that for how I treated him. Nobody understands, he made me so happy, he was the most amazing man before all of this, he was the greatest friend, lover, husband, father, companion that anyone could ever ask for! If I can't have hiim, I don't want this life! Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 Sent you a PM Broken. All I can say is that this man is causing you pain. You say your willing to give up all to save it, and I believe you, but sadly his selfish heart isn"t in it. Why give your heart, the most precious thing you have to give, to someone who has done nothing but abuse it. TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
Author broken hearted Posted November 28, 2009 Author Share Posted November 28, 2009 Because for 11 years he did nothing but cherish it... Link to post Share on other sites
Author broken hearted Posted November 28, 2009 Author Share Posted November 28, 2009 I had an amazing man, I had it ALL! Now...someone else gets to have my all and I can't handle that! Everyone always says you never get over your first love...well, I married my first love so it makes the pain 1000x worse! Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 True, and I had the same for 13. You know how my story wound up. It still hurts everyday, but I can't let her rule me. I think I have a good heart and I'm not going to waste it on someone who would just as soon toss it away. I know you have a good heart Broken and those get rarer by the minute. I'm sure he cherished it for 11 years, but you deserve someone who will cherish it for a lifetime. We all do. TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 I had an amazing man, I had it ALL! Now...someone else gets to have my all and I can't handle that! Everyone always says you never get over your first love...well, I married my first love so it makes the pain 1000x worse! Is he STILL an amazing man? Or are your memories of him amazing? A liar, a cheater? Its easy do describe the objects of our love as some sort of devine, but they are men and women just like the rest of us. What you have now is lower then low, a man who does not value your love or his family. He was willing to risk it all! and for what? We both know the answer to that one. Link to post Share on other sites
Author broken hearted Posted November 28, 2009 Author Share Posted November 28, 2009 As much as I want my husband and for us somehow to detangle this knot and make everything work...I honestly believe I need someone to keep my mind off of him! I need to get myself out there and meet people. Maybe that will somehow ease this pain I'm feeling! Tojaz, I know you keep trying to convince me I deserve better and that my husband is a piece of s*** but I really did screw up horribly! I treated him horribly and I will never ever forgive myself for that...NEVER!! He made his own choice but I truly believe that had I not treated him that way, we'd still be happily married! He said today, "I still have feelings for you" Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 Broken, do you have any idea how many times I have read your threads? I keep having to go back looking for these terrible, awful, brutal things you did to him in order to deserve what hes put you through. Still haven't found anything. Did you cheat, beat him, please tell me what? All I see is a good woman being taken advantage of and abused! A woman who has had her heart toyed with time and time again! Link to post Share on other sites
Author broken hearted Posted November 28, 2009 Author Share Posted November 28, 2009 Yes, one time we had an argument. I went into the bathroom and locked the door to cool down. He tried to come in to see if I was ok and I wouldn't open the door so...he ripped the door and the trim off of the wall and grabbed my arms and pulled me out of the bathroom. I swung at him and connected...his actions left no marks, I left a black eye! Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 Yes, one time we had an argument. I went into the bathroom and locked the door to cool down. He tried to come in to see if I was ok and I wouldn't open the door so...he ripped the door and the trim off of the wall and grabbed my arms and pulled me out of the bathroom. I swung at him and connected...his actions left no marks, I left a black eye! Good!! Thats not the act of someone wanting to know if your alright. Thats Abusive behavior! That was a threat and him being controlling towards you (something you have accused yourself of) you defended yourself and set the boundry that his behavior was unacceptable. In my eyes anytime a man lays hands on a woman in a threatening way, all bets are off! Physicly abusive relationships grow from accepting actions lie his as your fault. Nobody deserves that! NOBODY! Link to post Share on other sites
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