When you got back together?

[dlb311]

I would like to hear peoples story about getting back together with the one they love. After you broke their heart or your heart was broken?

 

I know every relationship is different they all don't work out the same. I was just wondering if some of you could help me out with curiousity!

 

How long where you broken up how long was the relationship and how long have you been back did it last, and was it worth the chance to try again? Where you in a serious relationship? Was it nothing and then realized it was after the breakup?

 

I want my ex back and its been almost 4 months. It may seem not very long or a long time to be away from the one you love. But I feel both I feel like its been so long. And I feel like it hasn't been that long we still need more time. Just wanted peoples stories. Thanks!!!!

[Patty]

I would like to hear peoples story about getting back together with the one they love. After you broke their heart or your heart was broken?

 

I know every relationship is different they all don't work out the same. I was just wondering if some of you could help me out with curiousity!

 

How long where you broken up how long was the relationship and how long have you been back did it last, and was it worth the chance to try again? Where you in a serious relationship? Was it nothing and then realized it was after the breakup?

 

I want my ex back and its been almost 4 months. It may seem not very long or a long time to be away from the one you love. But I feel both I feel like its been so long. And I feel like it hasn't been that long we still need more time. Just wanted peoples stories. Thanks!!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

I will try to explain.One time me and my boyfriend broke up cause of an incident that happened at his house.Ok here's what happened.He called me up that day and asked me if I wanted to go to his house.My mother told me I could only go if his mother was home.So he told me on the phone his mother was home and I went to his house.When I got there,his mother wasnt there.Then that Saturday,well he worked at McDonalds with me back then,and he came up to me and said,"I have to dump you" sorry".I was in a shock and was crying all day at work cause,I couldnt even function.But this break up was cause he was afraid to face my mother that day.Cause he knew his mother wasnt home.At the time,I felt so down and thought we would not get back together.Then the next week,we got back together again.He did this to me twice though,cause he was going through a difficult time and wasnt himself cause he wasnt taking his medicine.Our break ups lasted only a week.When he was himself he got back together again and we were back together again.

 

I think if your both made for one another,I think yes,the relationship,is worth trying it again.But it really depends on the situation of the break up.My bf however,was going through phases back then.But he seems ok now.And if he tells me he likes another girl,like he did before,I know its just friendship cause he always tells me hes devoted to me.

 

I know its hard when theres a break up,been there many times and Im sorry your still hurting.Just try to stay busy,get together with friends.When you least expect it,someone will walk in to your life,and a break up isnt the end of the world,cause when that other special person walks in to your life,you will be happy again.

 

Here are 2 books,that I recommend and they are great books.They explain everything you need to know.Ive read them myself and they have helped.

 

"Lifemates" "The Love Fitness Program For A Lasting Relationship" - Harold Bloomfield. M.D.

And Sirah Vettese.Ph.D. With Robert Kory

 

"Healing the Codependency in all of us" "One-Way Relationships" "When You Love Them More Than They Love You" - Alfred Ells

 

Good luck!

 

Patty

[Arabess]

I'm glad you posted those words Patty! I always figured with millions of people in the world....how could there be only the ONE PERSON who makes you happy and in love? It may take awhile till you run into the next one...but I do believe it does happen if someone gives it a chance.

[dlb311]

I will look into the books thanks Patty. I have been readying alot of relationship books lately because I have had two relationships in my life and both very serious. The first I was just way to young and made the mistake of hurting the ex after we broke up and that made it so that when we got back together something you just can't forget if you get my drift. Anyway this time I didn't want to do that. So I have been on my best behavior and to tell you the truth I am alot older and wise and don't want to be hurtful or mean. I love him the last thing I want to do is hurt him its bad enough I am in pain.

 

I do know that you can meet someone else. I am living proof I thought life would never be the same or be good after my first break up the pain was so bad I just wanted to die at times. But I got through it. We probably would have worked out if we were so immature but everything happens for a reason. And I am glad because I met my current ex who I could adore more. I am hurt by the situation but sometimes people need to lose something to know what they have. I hope he realizes one day. But I am open to new people and fun. I do not lay around and cry or mope. I like to go out and do fun stuff with family and friends still.

 

I am know it depends on the situation of the breakup if its worth getting back together. But this break up wasn't because we fought or just needed to move on. I think we got lost in life. Stress, work, school, bills, and that kinds of stuff.

 

Anyway no matter what life do goes on and you will meet someone new just make sure you don't settle.

[Patty]

I do not lay around and cry or mope. I like to go out and do fun stuff with family and friends still.

 

Thats great that you do things with family friends,keeping busy helps you heal faster.If you feel like crying dont hold it in.Getting it out helps you feel better.I cry at least every week and afterwards,I, feel so much better.

 

 

I'm glad you posted those words Patty! I always figured with millions of people in the world....how could there be only the ONE PERSON who makes you happy and in love? It may take awhile till you run into the next one...but I do believe it does happen if someone gives it a chance.

 

Thanks Arabess.I love helping people.

 

Patty

[KitWalker]

Thats great for those people who have broken up and moved on and found someone else....

 

but what about those who have broken up and gotten back with their EX? Any of those stories?

[lost_in_chgo]

Here's one:

http://enotalone.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=15884&highlight=contact

[cafemcyc]

Hello,

 

I have lurked around these forums for a few months and have relied heavily on other peoples experiences to help get me through my situation.

 

Me and my ex GF are both thirty, we were together for 2 years and were engaged for a week before we split. We never fought the first year and a half until suddenly are communication ended. She just didn't talk to me about anything anymore. She had a lot of stress in her life and problems from childhood.

 

We tried a few times to work things out but it never worked out right, she would panic again and run away. Finally she hit a breaking point and called me and I took here to a depression center for an evaluation about 4 months ago. I helped her through a tough situation and went on with my life.

 

Don't get me wrong at first I made all the mistakes, begging, pleading, guilt trips. I think truthfully these things I did hurt me worse than they did her.

 

Finally enough time let me figure out myself and I went with the no contact, and asked her not to contact me unless it was important or about something from storage, etc. We did not talk for a few months and finally out of the blue she called and we talked, really talked. She has been and is still seeing a doctor and is on medication.

 

She burnt a lot of bridges with her family in this situation and finally was working on the repairs, (I checked to be sure I wasn't being played with)

 

We realized we loved each other very much, She had dated someone for a few months I had done a few casual dates when I had finally felt ready. We had been split up for 7 months.

 

I guess my point is most of the advice is right on here. you have to give space to your ex, one for them to give you time to heal and another for each of you to figure out what is important to you. Time does heal. No one is going to take back a wreck, they may take back the person they loved before, but not a broken shell.

 

And talk, talk about the important things, figure out what went wrong, know that some topics may be hot points and that you understand that one of you may get hot and angry, but theyhave to be discussed.

 

And as I've read you have to understand when you are split up people are going to rebound, they are going to date, they are going to go on. Its just that they may come back when the time is right or at least you may get closure.

 

So keep faith, but also go on with your life, be happy.

 

I know alot of people need to hear there are successes.

 

I didn't think I would be one and now we are stonger than we were before, now we are different and stronger people. Love never dies, but it may change. People do change.

 

Thank-you all for all your post and replies that have helped me through my situation, if anyone wants more info please feel free and I will fill in as able.

 

Thank-you all.

[lost_in_chgo]

hmmm, what a coincidence

[cafemcyc]

What do you mean by that?

[cafemcyc]

Didn't realize that link you posted lost in chicago was to mine on enotalone. Thanks for reading it. I copied it and posted it here. Thought it might help. I have used both fiorums for advice and help, evidently the same as you.