FeelingLonely98 Posted October 22, 2009 Share Posted October 22, 2009 Title should read --> WOW!! The STBXW's son chooses to stay with me! not "...SRBXW..." oops OK - Those who have read my posts know that 54 days ago my STBXW dropped the D-bomb on me and said ILYBINILWY. The usual. I was a great H and would have always been loving and supportive and faithful to her. The 47 yr. old STBXW had a MLC and jumped ship and is now having an A with an 18 yr. old boy!!!!! UGH!! She was having an EA before she told me 54 days ago. Anyway, one of the "reasons" she gave was that I was not a good enogh Step-Father to her 19 yr old son. I wasn't perfect but never treated him bad but it is true I didn't treat him like my own two teenage biological sons. (I admit was wrong for this.) I made amends the day after D-day and told him I was wrong and I would like to start over with him. I always loved him and that's why it was easy for me to do this. We have been perfect and super cool ever since. 36 days ago STBXW left our house to live with her Mom and so she could freely date and sleep with the "boy" - her excuse was that she "gives up" on trying to see if the M could work. My step-son has stayed with me since because STBXW's Mom did not have room and he was comfortable here. STBXW always said that when she had money she would get a 2 BR apt. for her and her BF and her son. Well guess what? My step-son asked me today if he could stay here indefinitely - even if his Mom got her own apt. Of course I told him "YES"! He had many reasons he wanted to live with me (GF, job, school, comfort, disgust with what Mom is doing, ... <-- OK, the last part he didn't say but he is EXTREMELY uncomfortable with his Mom's actions and said he would feel uncomfortable living with his almost 50 yr old Mom and her 18 yr old BF) I told him he could stay with me forever as far as I'm concerned. WOW!!! When he tells Mom - she will freak. In a small way I feel vindicated and will be laughing :lmao: my a$$ off - inside. But in another way I feel SOOOO sorry for the STBXW if her own son doesn't want to live with her. BTW, the poor step-father excuse is total BS. If it wasn't that she would invented another "Reason" to blame me and justify her actions to make her feel less guilty. LS friends - whadya think?? G'nite!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted October 22, 2009 Share Posted October 22, 2009 :lmao::lmao: :cool::cool: It never ceases to amaze me how some women will "down-grade" to get out of a relationship. My ex? She was planning to leave me for a Lance Corporal. Of course he didn't have the responsibilities and obligations of a Gunnery Sergeant nor a family. He was committeed to a four year tour, I was in for life ~ a minimunn of twenty years! He was out for a POA ~ Duty Station @ss! He dumped her as soon as he got state-side "I got my HS GF pregenant ~ I've got to do right by her!" Get a clue! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted October 22, 2009 Share Posted October 22, 2009 I think that her son is humiliated by her actions. My friend who's mom took up with his best friend (later became his step-dad....same ages), he was totally humiliated. You could just see the pain in his eyes that his mother and 18 year old best friend had taken up together. A "so-called friend" steals your girlfriend....not your mom! Link to post Share on other sites
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted October 22, 2009 Author Share Posted October 22, 2009 I think that her son is humiliated by her actions. My friend who's mom took up with his best friend (later became his step-dad....same ages), he was totally humiliated. You could just see the pain in his eyes that his mother and 18 year old best friend had taken up together. A "so-called friend" steals your girlfriend....not your mom! The worst part is that my STBXW is old enough to be her new BF's grandmother, not just Mother. YIKES, Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted October 22, 2009 Share Posted October 22, 2009 I was aware of a similar situation in my senior year in HS. The OM taunted the son and rubbed his nose in it. Later somebody threw the OM a blanket party, they never did find the suspects, the father and son were off fishing miles away with friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted October 22, 2009 Author Share Posted October 22, 2009 I was aware of a similar situation in my senior year in HS. The OM taunted the son and rubbed his nose in it. Later somebody threw the OM a blanket party, they never did find the suspects, the father and son were off fishing miles away with friends. Is this true 250? Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 FL98 This was back in the 60's, things were different then. Looking back I almost feel sorry for the guy, though he was warned to back off, but I now realize that he was just a kid and didn't understand that he was walking into a battle field. Also his dad had this "That's my boy" attitude until he found out that he was resposible for the medical bills. Shortly thereafter the kid was sent out of state to live with relatives. He got off lucky Link to post Share on other sites
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted October 23, 2009 Author Share Posted October 23, 2009 I am surprised more have not commented on this thread. It is such vindication - in a way. My step-son asked me if he could live with me after his Mom (STBXW) gets her own apt. (She's still looking and waiting to gather enough money) He had many reasons he wanted to live with me (GF, job, school, comfort, ...) He's EXTREMELY uncomfortable with his Mom's actions (almost 50 yr old Mom having $ex with a new 18 yr old BF just days after leaving me) I told him he could stay with me forever as far as I'm concerned. Does any1 see the irony or vindication in this? Know that I do not wish the STBXW any ill-will. It just sort of feels good. BTW, her son is breaking this decision to his Mom tonigh when she meets him for dinner. She will be crushed I'm sure. I'll let you all know tomorrow... PEACE! Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 I think it speaks very highly for you as a man and father-figure, and also for your stepson for not being willing to tolerate this nonsense. This is going to be a serious bucket of cold water for the stbxw. It'll be interesting to find out. You're doing well considering it's been less than two months since d-day. Hang in there, brother. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted October 23, 2009 Author Share Posted October 23, 2009 I think it speaks very highly for you as a man and father-figure, and also for your stepson for not being willing to tolerate this nonsense. This is going to be a serious bucket of cold water for the stbxw. It'll be interesting to find out. You're doing well considering it's been less than two months since d-day. Hang in there, brother. TY very much GT. Many have told me that many a man would have told the STBXW that your kid has to go with you. Why punish him? He's a great kid, I love him, and it will be nice to not live alone. Not the STBXW will be living alone after the 18 yr old BF dumps her. Tables turned ... Link to post Share on other sites
Logik Posted October 23, 2009 Share Posted October 23, 2009 I think it's an awesome turn of events. Just shows you who's doing the right thing. One thing about the world. It turns. Everything on it has no choice but to turn with it. Keep posting on how things go down. I think it'll be quite interesting. Good to see you feeling better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted October 23, 2009 Author Share Posted October 23, 2009 I think it speaks very highly for you as a man and father-figure, and also for your stepson for not being willing to tolerate this nonsense. This is going to be a serious bucket of cold water for the stbxw. It'll be interesting to find out. TY very much GT. Many have told me that many a man in my situation would have told the STBXW that your kid has to go with you. Why punish him? He's a great kid, I love him, and it will be nice to not live alone. Not the STBXW will be living alone after the 18 yr old BF dumps her. Tables turned ... You're doing well considering it's been less than two months since d-day. Hang in there, brother. Believe me, for the 1st thirty days or so since D-day I was about as big a mess as any LSer. It just hit me - I 180'd -got my sh*t together - And I'm moving forward. Doesn't mean I don't care about her or even that I have no love left for her - but I can not live like I was the 1st 30 days. I am still so disappointed and it still feels like a nightmare that the love of my life overnight stopped caring and loving and just left. But I have to move forward. PEACE! Link to post Share on other sites
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted October 23, 2009 Author Share Posted October 23, 2009 I think it's an awesome turn of events. Just shows you who's doing the right thing. One thing about the world. It turns. Everything on it has no choice but to turn with it. Keep posting on how things go down. I think it'll be quite interesting. Good to see you feeling better. TURN, TURN, TURN, ... that's me ... Thanks Logik! Link to post Share on other sites
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