WHAT SHOULD I DO?

[SHUNTAE]

I am 19 years old and I have a child by this boy who thinks that just because we have a child together we should automatically be sleeping together, but the catch is he is supposed to be involved with this other girl and they have a baby also. But I really don't know how to react to this because I am kind of still in love with him and I want to be with him but thers is this barrier .

 

PLEASE CAN SOME ONE HELP !!!

[DH]

What should you do? You are only 19 and apparently this "BOY" needs some growing up to do. How old is he? being that he has 2 children aleady. The last thing on your mind should be weather or not you should give him some. I think you should take care of your responsiblity and raise your child, continue your education ( if that is what you are doing) and not worry about getting in on, because that is what has you in this position in the first place. I hope this BOY is going to be somewhat of a man and take care of his children. If he is one of those fathers that comes and goes when he pleases then you already know the answer to your own questions, and you dont need help from anyone here. Good Luck and please be wise. DH

I am 19 years old and I have a child by this boy who thinks that just because we have a child together we should automatically be sleeping together, but the catch is he is supposed to be involved with this other girl and they have a baby also. But I really don't know how to react to this because I am kind of still in love with him and I want to be with him but thers is this barrier . PLEASE CAN SOME ONE HELP !!!

[Tony T]

When the expenses of raising this child become overwhelming, you will be competing with another woman for the limited funds of this BOY you are seeing. As you get older, you will realize how expensive it is to raise a child.

 

It seems he is pressing you for sex...is this so he can further change your life with yet another child.

 

So you love this guy...let me tell you what he has already done to you.

 

1. By not allowing you to put off child rearing, he has robbed you of important time you could have spent getting a better education and learning job skills so you don't need slimebags like him.

 

2. He has gotten you pregnant and wants to do it again so your youth will be robbed and you will now have to devote that youth to raising still another youth.

 

3. By getting another woman pregnant, he has robbed your child of a full time father, if your BOY ever becomes man enough to be a father.

 

4. Statistically, women with children have a more difficult time finding a man who will accept a ready made family and tolerate the necessity of you devoting the best of your time to the child and not to him. Should you have a second child, your difficulties will worsen.

 

5. Single women with children are among the nation's most impoverished group.

 

You both were responsible for this pregnancy. But if you don't start taking some serious responsiblity for your life and your future, you are going to screw it up ALL BY YOURSELF!!!

 

You better get this guy to court real fast. After the love is gone, the cash will come in mighty handy!!! Love will not by food, school clothes, medicines, toys, etc. for your child.