Endearing names

[pinkroses]

I've been with someone for about six months now. We had a bit of a backing off period about a month ago, but it was mostly emotional. Instead of taking the space he thought he wanted, he has continued to call and see me as much as ever. I backed off too with my feelings, and now we're kind of coasting along, just seeing where this takes us. One little thing that bothers me is that he used to call me "honey" sometimes and I don't hear it anymore. Nothing has changed as far as how we are affectionately, physically, etc. but I'm not hearing this endearing name that I love to hear so much.

 

I'm wondering if he's not using the name as much because it implies a deeper intimacy than he's wanting to convey now, or what. I really miss it. And how can I tell him...it's hard to ask someone to be endearing. I never have called him any endearing names, it just didn't feel right, felt too soon or something. He knows how much I like to hear it because when he was saying it I told him a time or two, how much I liked hearing it.

 

Any ideas on how to get him to say this again? If we had backed off physically and emotionally from each other and had gone back to just being friends again, that would be different. But we are still doing all the things we've always done. I'm not complaining, there are worse things than not hearing "honey." But this little word, or any other sweet names like "baby" or "sweetheart" mean a lot to me.

[Arabess]

I totally understand. In my last relationship, we had "pet" names too. Sometimes I think I miss hearing the words we spoke to each other...more than I even miss him.

 

Yes, we still speak. We both avoid the "pet" names though. You are right....it conveys an intimacy. If the intimacy changes.....using the name seems wierd and irrelevant.