In search of ...in DC

[badz2801]

So Washington DC is supposed to have one of the highest single populations around with tons of "over achievers", meaning opportunity.

 

Question: Why is it so damn hard to find a date?

 

I'm 27 year old male, decent looking (work out 5 times a week, pretty serious into weight lifting), own a home, network engineer, computer science BS and masters in telecommunications, no debt (other than a mortgage), well paid and have about 25 great friends from college in the area.

 

I work on average 10 hour days and that's when work isn't calling me. For all those who do not know, network operations is a 24 hour deal. Calls at 3-4am are not unusual and international issues occur daily.

 

Answer: B/C everyone in this area works way too much and connecting with someone your own age is difficult.

 

So my question to anyone reading this:

 

If you are looking for a normal, stable individual with goals; what after work activities would you check on? Basically its getting to the point were I just hope the other person has a job. My old man met my mother via a ski organization (lawyer for 30 years in the same area). It seems like in this area I might have to join several organizations to meet up with people.

 

What I know I am doing wrong: Simply I just don't know where the young single people hang out. It isn't like college where it was easy to pin point. I have been to plenty of bars (old town, George town, luckies, etc) and honestly people are spread out around here.

 

This isn't a new problem I have grown up in the area and it has always been tough to find relationships. Honestly I will try anything...P.S. if you have a kid and are looking for someone go to Cox farms in Chantilly VA on the weekend...10 million single parents everywhere.

 

So where would you look?

Edited October 24, 2009 by badz2801

[TheLoneSock]

Bars are not going to be your best bet for finding relationship material. You said you stay pretty physically active. Why not connect with women at your gym? If all your working out is done at home, try joining one.

 

Also, D.C. is not a really large area. There are lots of outlying cities clustered there around you on the east coast, expanding your horizons might not be a bad idea. It would be worth an hour-ish drive for a girl that you mesh with well.

 

Your old man is onto something as well, find new hobbies and activities that will get you into new social circles. I know you have 25 college friends in the area, but obviously that hasn't helped you much if none of them have been able to hook you up yet.

 

There's also an organization that is centered around activities for adults. It's like e-harmony, but less to do with finding your 'soul mate'. It's just about creating atmospheres where lots of single adults meet for the day, and see what happens from there. They do sports, sporting events, outdoors activities, weekend getaways. You have to pay for it but it might be worth it- and they set everything up for you, you just show up and pay your monthly due- it's like a club for singles. You'll have to find the name of it yourself though, it's not coming to mind.

[betamanlet]

I've lived in DC my entire life, I am one of the few natives. The kind of people DC attracts is problematic, because they are transients who tend to believe they were too important for where they were from... They tend to treat people poorly and be self absorbed, you know, like politicians are.. So despite the claims that DC is great for dating, unless you have a personality disorder, you're going to have pretty bad luck here.. Plus people here are generally not friendly at all. I'd leave, but this is my home.

[betamanlet]

Also try the meetups for the area. There are lots of groups, be it kayaking, hiking, rockclimbing, bowling, pretty much everything. I'd go, but I'm too chicken.. There are also volunteer organizations here, some even for singles, such as www.singlevolunteers.org look for the DC chapter. They tend to have weekly events, though I haven't done that in a while... The people tend to be a bit older. I was 30-31 ,and you don't have many women that age or younger doing volunteering, but people who volunteer tend to be nice. I'm also into cats/dogs, so I've been considering volunteering at animal shelters. However, I would recommend that you do volunteering for the cause, rather than for trying to meet people.