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How Do I Get Past Seeming Like A Stalker?


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Ok...so I see this guy on a dating website. Really like his profile, he's hot and he lives locally. I messaged him a couple of months ago and never got a reply. The site tells you when a person last logged on and, for him, it was a couple of days before I sent the message. So no problem there.

 

Then. One of his pictures has him in his football uniform (I told you he was hot). And his last name is on the back of his shirt. It's not hidden or anything and it's a fairly close up shot. He also uses his first name and the first initial of his last name on the site.

 

So, facebook! I look up everyone on facenook so why should he be any different? Huh? And there he is in all his gorgeousness. LOL.

 

He has over 200 friends so I just sent him a friend request without saying anything because I didn't know what to say.

 

Now I'm thinking I should have sent a message with it. "Hey I stalked you from xxxxxx.com the dating website. Now do you want me to find out where you live?" Or something less truthful?

 

I would never add someone I don't know. Especially if they don't introduce themselves. In fact I have a strict rule that if I don't know you I won't add you. I use facebook mainly to keep in touch with family and friends back home. It's definitely not somewhere I go to make friends. Maybe he is the same.

 

So...how do I send him a message explaining who I am without sounding creepy?

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Find out if he still plays football, or if this is an old pic from high school. If he is still playing, say "I saw you at a game last week, and thought you looked fun. How long have you been playing?"

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Find out if he still plays football, or if this is an old pic from high school. If he is still playing, say "I saw you at a game last week, and thought you looked fun. How long have you been playing?"

 

LOLOL! More stalking required then!

 

But it could backfire if/when he finally sees my message on the dating website.

 

Messaging, facebooking and then turning up at his games! LOL.

 

ps It's a recent pic..he has his HS ones and the one with his name is recent.

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justforfun, if he hasn't responded to you on the dating site, this should be enough of a negative social cue to let things drop.

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Maybe you should go through his 200 friends and find one of them that looks like an easy target and try to date that person in order to get closer to him. Maybe even close enough to steal an article of his clothing or swipe a lock of his hair!

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Maybe you should go through his 200 friends and find one of them that looks like an easy target and try to date that person in order to get closer to him. Maybe even close enough to steal an article of his clothing or swipe a lock of his hair!

 

I think you just quit while you're ahead. He'll respond if he's interested.

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Maybe you should go through his 200 friends and find one of them that looks like an easy target and try to date that person in order to get closer to him. Maybe even close enough to steal an article of his clothing or swipe a lock of his hair!

 

I'm liking this one. It would take up an inordinate amount of my time and be satisfyingly creepy.

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I think you just quit while you're ahead. He'll respond if he's interested.

 

Blah! Boring. Blah!

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Doh...he hasn't been on the site since a couple of days before I messaged him.

 

justforfun, if he hasn't responded to you on the dating site, this should be enough of a negative social cue to let things drop.
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Blah! Boring. Blah!

 

You are such a brat! Why don't you send him a topless picture and your phone number as a message.

 

How's that? :p

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You are such a brat! Why don't you send him a topless picture and your phone number as a message.

 

How's that? :p

 

To his house! Love it!

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Doh...he hasn't been on the site since a couple of days before I messaged him.
Many online sites send emails to recipients when someone messages them. He may already have read your message. Does this dating site offer the same capabilities, for subscribing and even unsubscribing members?

 

Also, if someone isn't frequenting an online dating site for months, isn't it likely that they've found someone?

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To his house! Love it!

 

You may want to post it here first for aproval by the male LSers...you know...just to be sure.

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Many online sites send emails to recipients when someone messages them. He may already have read your message. Does this dating site offer the same capabilities, for subscribing and even unsubscribing members?

 

I believe you are correct! Ahhh...the stinging pain of rejection.

 

But as the world of internet dating goes...NEXT!

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Blah! Boring. Blah!

 

I like your style. Don't half-ass it. Get a job delivering pizza. When I was in college we lived on that stuff. You can find out where he lives and that will really give you the opportunity to crank up the creepy. You can make a grilled cheese with his likeness on it and deliver it to him. You could even have a jersey made, identical to his, put it on a manaquin and then dance with it in his front yard and act like you are making out with it and stuff! Yeah, that would do the trick...

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Many online sites send emails to recipients when someone messages them. He may already have read your message. Does this dating site offer the same capabilities, for subscribing and even unsubscribing members?

 

I believe you are correct! Ahhh...the stinging pain of rejection.

 

But as the world of internet dating goes...NEXT!

 

EDIT: But halt! This site only emails you that someone has messaged you. It doesn't give you anything else until you log back in. OMGosh...this is even worse. He's not checking his email. That means he could be hurt...he could even be lying somewhere now bleeding...not able to get to his email account. What id he dies before we ever meet?

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You may want to post it here first for aproval by the male LSers...you know...just to be sure.

 

If you've just come here to perv then get lost.

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I think I may have something although it does require actually leaving the house. I prefer to do my stalking online..especially in winter.

 

Print up lost dog posters at night in his neighborhood with my telephone # and a cute picture of me and my dog

Take my dog with me and throw him over the fence of his back yard

Rush home wait for him to call

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Def check all the local hospitals, jails, and insane assylums. He could be somewhere where he can't get away from you. That could be the perfect opportunity for you :D

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I like your style. Don't half-ass it. Get a job delivering pizza. When I was in college we lived on that stuff. You can find out where he lives and that will really give you the opportunity to crank up the creepy. You can make a grilled cheese with his likeness on it and deliver it to him. You could even have a jersey made, identical to his, put it on a manaquin and then dance with it in his front yard and act like you are making out with it and stuff! Yeah, that would do the trick...

 

If you were stalking me I'd be totally weirded out by you and your mannequin.

 

But I do like the pizza delivery idea. I could get all sorts of costumes...mail delivery...pizza delivery...deliver campaign leaflets...he'd have to recognize me eventually.

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I think I may have something although it does require actually leaving the house. I prefer to do my stalking online..especially in winter.

 

Print up lost dog posters at night in his neighborhood with my telephone # and a cute picture of me and my dog

Take my dog with me and throw him over the fence of his back yard

Rush home wait for him to call

 

OMG...this is brilliant!!!!! DO IT! :lmao: and since he "saved" your dog (kinda) you and he will forever be "tied"... it's how it works!

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Def check all the local hospitals, jails, and insane assylums. He could be somewhere where he can't get away from you. That could be the perfect opportunity for you :D

 

Genius! Now your creative juices are just flowing. This is so exciting.

 

Come, come, what to do next? I've got it covered up until about the middle of next. I can't stop there.

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I think I may have something although it does require actually leaving the house. I prefer to do my stalking online..especially in winter.

 

Print up lost dog posters at night in his neighborhood with my telephone # and a cute picture of me and my dog

Take my dog with me and throw him over the fence of his back yard

Rush home wait for him to call

 

I also really like this one. I think you've got something here. But go one step further and maybe dognap HIS dog and tell him that the only way he gets the dog back is if he tells you he loves you (like he means it) or makes out with you are something.

 

You should also go ahead and pre-emptively change your last name to his and tell him you did it for him.

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If you've just come here to perv then get lost.

 

It's just some humor JFF...man. :laugh:

 

BTW...I gave my true advice the first time...stop while you're ahead.

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