RATED-RKOFRANKLIN Posted October 24, 2009 Share Posted October 24, 2009 Who is more shallow men or women? There are many people who say men are shallow, and they force physical standards to be met. There are others who believe women are just as shallow. This is just from my own experience. I have seen some of my male friends who are considered attractive by girls, go out with girls who are not every attractive. None of my female friends have dated an ugly guy. Link to post Share on other sites
JohnP82 Posted October 24, 2009 Share Posted October 24, 2009 I think men are much more willing to look past perceived faults, whether that be looks, job, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 24, 2009 Share Posted October 24, 2009 Shallowness comes in all sorts of different colours, races and it isn't gender specific. But, with that said, I DO believe as people grow up, learn from their experiences, they change their ways so someone who was once shallow, may not be later in life. Link to post Share on other sites
627 Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 I know many guys who never dated before or had any serious relationships I don't know a single woman who has not had, at least, 3 boyfriend changed per year(ok a bit exagerating here) some women are not even good looking, yet I find them going into a relationship just 3 month after breaking up with their last they can be too tall too short, a bit fat overall not good looking, does't matter, they get dates as for guys, if a guy is too short or fat, forget it I think women are more shallow most of the girs I know(well 3 out of 5 girls that are really friends with me ) have been chasing guys who repeated the ninth grade 3 times, at the same time these guys are treating them like dirt, while these girls are going to the university and when they have medical students chasing them(no offense to other majors(including mine because I am not in med school) but you can't find smarter people than those who need to maintain a 90/100 average just to pass) besides this love being totaly unrationnal, it also shows that intelligence is not really a factor that influences a woman's view of a guy all these guys were pretty boys I'll admit that Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 Generally speaking, as a gender, women will always be more shallow regarding relationships simply because they have more choices and more power. Just the fact that they will never experience daily blue balls gives them a perspective that a man will never have and, simultaneously, a power over men that ensures their shallowness if they have even one iota of ego. A universally attractive male is the closest thing one can find to a woman when it comes to relationship shallowness. This is a male whom most women want to be with; a man on the level of, in my generation, JFK, who had many women during his marriage to Jackie prior to his assassination. He could use totally arbitrary and shallow criteria for a woman and select amongst the fitting candidates which were presented to him. Interestingly, I even see this phenomena in my age bracket, where women's subjective beauty is declining and the traditional draws for male sexual attention are waning. Women are as or more 'picky' and shallow than when I was in my 20's. Hey, good on 'em. I did my stint in that military. Glad to be out now. Civilian life agrees with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 Its primarily in how the person is raised. Gender rarely has anything to do with it.But common sense tells me the following may happen: Men will bash Ladies, Ladies will bash men, or the post will fade away because really, does it matter which gender is perceived as shallow? Doesnt change anything. Link to post Share on other sites
627 Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 women also have more options because of the biological 105 rule have you heard of this? the ratio at birth is 105 males to 100 females in the united states that's like 7 million males without a female equivalence (the population in the US is near 300 million right?) women are scarce men are abundant Link to post Share on other sites
Awesome Username Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 Men are more shallow about which girls they talk to in the first place. Women are more shallow about who they'll date. Men are more shallow about sex. Women are more shallow about money. Men are more shallow about tits and ass. Women are more shallow about height. We're both shallow, but for different reasons! Amen human race. Link to post Share on other sites
boldjack Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 I'm really shallow when it comes to girls like AU. Link to post Share on other sites
Awesome Username Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 i'm really shallow when it comes to girls like au. blush!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
TheLoneSock Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 I think guys and gals are equally shallow for the most part. It more comes down to who has more options available to them. A great looking girl is going to have a lot to choose from, same with a great looking or well educated guy. They are going to have their pick of the best cuts of meat so to speak. It is the unreasonably shallow people that are annoying, like the overweight single mom that wants a man way out of her league, or the guy that spends all his time in the gym and none hitting the books but expects a trophy wife. Link to post Share on other sites
Jaytb Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 vampires are more shallow. They only want a good suck then they're done with you. It's a shame really, because I offer so much more to vampires than just my type B+ blood. Link to post Share on other sites
MissJoness Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 Men are more shallow. Much more shallow than women IMO. I see it everyday. Guys won't even talk to a girl if they don't think she is pretty enough for them. I wouldn't always be exercising, dieting, wearing makeup, and obsessed about my apperance if it weren't for the shallowness of men. Link to post Share on other sites
RedDevil66 Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 I was always proud that I was not shallow, until I went on a date years ago and the guy showed up driving one of those girly beetle cars, with the flowers. Ick! I never called him again. My BF said if were overweight, he would not have dated me. Humans are shallow unless you've reached nervana like Ghandi :-) Link to post Share on other sites
Jaytb Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 Men are more shallow. Much more shallow than women IMO. I see it everyday. Guys won't even talk to a girl if they don't think she is pretty enough for them. I wouldn't always be exercising, dieting, wearing makeup, and obsessed about my apperance if it weren't for the shallowness of men. and yet you won't date short guys and consider short guys to be like "little kids". Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 An interesting inquiry, relevant to shallowness, would be what would women do if there were no men as assign shallow behaviors to. Who would they dress up for then? Link to post Share on other sites
MissJoness Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 and yet you won't date short guys and consider short guys to be like "little kids". That's only height. That's one preference I have. Men have many; hair, skin color, tits, ass, etc etc, and the more attractive you are to them the more social and responsive they are to you. Link to post Share on other sites
MissJoness Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 An interesting inquiry, relevant to shallowness, would be what would women do if there were no men as assign shallow behaviors to. Who would they dress up for then? I wouldn't do anything. I would eat all I wanted, got fat, not do my hair or wear any makeup. I'd be a lot happier and have less stress and anxiety Link to post Share on other sites
Jaytb Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 I wouldn't do anything. I would eat all I wanted, got fat, not do my hair or wear any makeup. I'd be a lot happier and have less stress and anxiety why don't you just do that anyways? do you HAVE to look good for guys that badly? These posts make it evident that that's where pretty much all your validation comes from. Link to post Share on other sites
Jaytb Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 I still vote vampires. I tried dating one once, she only wanted my blood and nothing else. Talk about an empty relationship. We were perfect for each other, but every day she would act sweet to me to get at my neck, then after she got her fill, BAM! out the door faster than you can say "B positive" and out chasing other guys. It hurt physically, but much more emotionally Link to post Share on other sites
MissJoness Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 (edited) why don't you just do that anyways? do you HAVE to look good for guys that badly? These posts make it evident that that's where pretty much all your validation comes from. Yes, I do. I feel like the quality of life I have will be better. If I just let myself go, then I'll be ignored by men totally and i'd feel so empty. and when you look your best people tend to gravitate towards you a lot more. right now i'm working on myself to have amore universal beauty so i can appeal to all races of men Edited October 25, 2009 by MissJoness Link to post Share on other sites
Jaytb Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 Yes, I do. I feel like the quality of life I have will be better. If I just let myself go, then I'll be ignored by men totally and i'd feel so empty. and when you look your best people tend to gravitate towards you a lot more. right now i'm working on myself to have amore universal beauty so i can appeal to all races of men so your validation only comes from what men think of you right? that is an unhealthy way to live (and the reason you're so obsessive about your looks). I think any psychiatrist would find this to be a problem so you might want to talk to one. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 Yes, I do. I feel like the quality of life I have will be better. If I just let myself go, then I'll be ignored by men totally and i'd feel so empty. and when you look your best people tend to gravitate towards you a lot more. right now i'm working on myself to have amore universal beauty so i can appeal to all races of menThere's no one in the world who's universally attractive. And even if there are women who can attract masses of men, with nothing inside to back them up, they're going to get dumped post haste, unless the woman is just an object to the man. IMO, while I can only encourage women to improve themselves for themselves in every way, a greater focus on internals should be the priority. As for who's more shallow, there are shallow people in both genders. If primary focus is on externals, run like the wind! Link to post Share on other sites
MissJoness Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 so your validation only comes from what men think of you right? that is an unhealthy way to live (and the reason you're so obsessive about your looks). I think any psychiatrist would find this to be a problem so you might want to talk to one. Yeah but you have to realize in my culture i have to try a lot harder especially since lighter is considered better in my culture added with black men are looking and wanting to date outside their race. i have to do everything i can to keep up.. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 25, 2009 Share Posted October 25, 2009 I wouldn't do anything. I would eat all I wanted, got fat, not do my hair or wear any makeup. I'd be a lot happier and have less stress and anxiety Well, if what you're currently doing isn't working, try something else. A stress-free, relaxed woman can be attractive. Beauty comes in many forms Link to post Share on other sites
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