What should I have done instead?

[Iwantyou]

I was sitting at the dining hall alone eating and this very attractive girl walk up to me and ask if she could sit down, and I say "yes". She left to get some food and I look around me and there are lot of empty seat. I was thinking maybe she is attracted to me but I was not 100% sure. Needless to say I only talk to her as a friend and wasn't completely honest with her that I would love to be with her. I was thinking of way to flirt with her but in the end I did nothing to make her feel attracted to me. Even when she left, I even fail to ask for her number. Now asking someone for their number is very easy for me and yet here is this girl sitting across from me and I didn't ask for her number. This is not the first time it happen but it doesn't happen often, maybe once a year.

 

I can't say for sure if I'm decent or good looking but I never really care about that aspect much. The few time that a girl approach me are the type I would love to date and be in a relationship with. I guess I should be thankful that these event happen but I end up feeling worst than if a girl never approach me because I seem to **** up every chance I get. I am confidence I would think because I am not shy of these girls yet I don't know how to make them want to be with me. They lose interested in me after a minute of talking to me.

 

So my question to all you girls is what should I have said after she came up to me ask to seat down and said "hi I'm Emily, nice to meet you".

 

What should I have said after that? I said my name is "Chris" and I don't remember what I said after.

 

I really want to be in a relationship and know that if I was only a lot more honest and have a better personality I would be in a relationship by now.

 

Please help me

[Island Girl]

The best thing you can do when you don't know what to say to a new person is ask questions about them.

 

You can easily keep the conversation going by asking them where they are from, what they like to do, etc. Think of some basics that require more than one word answers.

 

As they respond ask follow up questions where you can.

 

Share your own answers when they ask something about you and try very hard to say more than just a couple of words.

 

Yes confidence goes a long way -- but fake it till you make it. You can act confident even if you don't feel it.

[brown leo]

Just be yourself, act natural and always remember that if you are really interested in something...go for it! I'm assuming that you'll probably see her again right? If so, just try talking to her and like Island girl said "The best thing you can do when you don't know what to say to a new person is ask questions about them", this works, not only are they given an opportunity to talk about themselves, but you are given the opportunity to know them better.