little wing Posted December 5, 2003 Share Posted December 5, 2003 I might know better, but here goes anyway. I have two friends who are married to others. They are in business together and spend alot of time together at meetings, lunches and have gone away on long business trips without their families. They have a very close friendship and seem to put their partnership in business ABOVE their marriages...for example when they are together and either spouse calls, they blow off the call. I am an independent contractor and they use me as a consultant from time to time so I am aware of their business needs etc. and I have watched them interact alot almost on a daily basis for over 6 months and have yet to see either one of them take the time out to return a spouses call in each others' presence. They belong to the same country clubs, drive the same vehicle and they drive to every sales meeting ever scheduled together. Now.. My female friend seems to be defending their partnership/friendship alot to me lately and brings up the animosity his wife has towards her occasionally. Ok so what..Well I can't shake this feeling that they are more than just friends...Yeah it is none of my business but if my gf is trying to pull the wool over my eyes then I need to rethink the level of my friendship with her...and pehaps i am paranoid, but can their dishonesty, if there is any, spill over into our business relationship too? Is this any of my business? And when is smoke really not fire, just fog...Why am I ignoring my weird feelings about this? Link to post Share on other sites
GirlsView Posted December 5, 2003 Share Posted December 5, 2003 Why don't you try talking w/ your "friend", try and get in out of her in a way that isn't accusatory. You don't want to offend her if there is nothing going on. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted December 5, 2003 Share Posted December 5, 2003 I don't think it is your business. From what you have said, they have not really exposed any improper relationship to you. Everything you have said is based on your interpretation. Although I have litle doubt that your intuition is close to the mark, still, they are keeping things professional in front of you. Thus, it is best if you assume nothing more than a professional relationship there. If you catch them in flagrante delicto, then perhaps you have a more difficult problem. Even there, I would only speak to one of the people involved and ask them to "keep it strictly professional in the office". The less said, the better. It is virtually impossible to do anything or say anything to anyone that improves this situation, but it's easy to take it downhill. Bottom line: if I were you, I would do my utmost to develop selective vision, selective memory, and inability to connect the dots with respect to this situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted December 6, 2003 Share Posted December 6, 2003 Originally posted by SoleMate I don't think it is your business. Bottom line: if I were you, I would do my utmost to develop selective vision, selective memory, and inability to connect the dots with respect to this situation. I certainly can't give any better advice than that!!!! I don't kiss and tell.....and I don't tell if others kiss! Link to post Share on other sites
xdor Posted December 6, 2003 Share Posted December 6, 2003 You said it. It is not of your bussiness. Now, if the husband or the wife ever ask you, then it would be kind of your bussiness and you would have a difficult decision. Not now. Link to post Share on other sites
MeiMei Posted December 17, 2003 Share Posted December 17, 2003 Once my friend Linda and I walked into a restaurant and saw one of our friends' husband was with his O/W, passionately kissing...Lisa and I were so shocked and fled as fast as 2 little rats!! After we found another restaurant and sit down, I was angry, I asked Lisa: why should we escape as if we were the guilty parties??? we should sit right next to them and see how he would respond...but Linda said we'd better pretend that we didn't see it and say nothing to our friend.. But another friend of us also saw them hand-in-hand in a supermarket(not a romantic place at all, but probably revealed more intimated relationship) and called the wife. A year later, they got divorced. The wife said the marriage was never a happy one and she always knew he had O/W, but she just never got a chance to confront him until our friend called. and it helped her to make her mind and leave.. Link to post Share on other sites
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