How Do I Convince my Girl, That she has Talent and Worth??

[bicylejunk]

My Girl, I love her dearly. She's a great person, she's 23, she's beautiful, she's been good to be the past 3 years we've been together. she knows I Love her and would do anything for her.

 

 

My Concern is that.... she lacks self-confidence and self-esteem. She's been struggling lately with what it is she wants to do for her career choice. Ocassionally she gets depressed or cries about it. She's not a whiny baby, but she just lets it get her down. She never wants to talk about. she'll say: "I don't want to talk about it, because I'll just get depressed."

 

She thinks that she has no talent in anything and has Gone and dropped out and gone and dropped out of Junior College. Personally, she has a knack for drawing, art and painting and even majored in art for an AA credit, But she dropped out. She just lost her focus, thought she wasn't good enough.

She has a good job, a great best friend, me... but I think she's just afraid she'll end up not doing anything in her life. She's afraid she's going to end up like her mom, as she says : "sitting on the Couch, working odd jobs the rest of her life...no goals,, no accomplishments"

 

She gets ideas in her head like: "I'll be a massge therapist or I'll go to beauty school or I'll do Interior design!" she'll be high on one career idea for a week but then lose interest. She's a good person, she's got a great imagination and is full or talent, I know it. Sometimes I feel she gets a little jealous of me because i have a good job in the music industry that's going somewhere....I really want to help her but I don't know how to. How can I convince her that she has Talent and help her pick out a good career choice???? Or is it even My Place to? Should I just leave her alone??

[yes]

you can't really do this for her, it's in her hands. what i think would be good is to convince her to go to a career counsellor. also, letting her know you believe in her is certainly of help as well. and not bragging about your job - just be tactful about it. when she's excited about an idea, support it, when she loses interest, try to get her to formulate why she lost interest.

 

if she's talented and all that, she'll find her path eventually, - some searching is normal, i believe. however, if she's been "searching" for too long (don't ask what's too long!) - perhaps she should talk to a counsellor. there could be various issues related to fear of success, etc.

 

also, you may want to advise her to ask her professors/teachers for advice - they may give her the approval and guidance she needs!

 

good luck,

-yes

[Arabess]

OF COURSE it's your place if you really care about her. Everyone needs someone like you in their life.

 

I've seem people, and have been guilty of it myself when I was younger, who for some reason "sabotage their own life". They go in one direction....then never finish the race. I'm SURE it's self esteem or a lack of motivation. In any event....maybe some counseling would be a good choice. Either Career Counseling, as per Yes' advice....or personal counseling.

 

What she doesn't do NOW....she will regret later. Please continue to encourage her!!!!