zaphodb2002 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I'm 5'4", and about 225lbs, not really fat but pretty stocky. I really don't check here all that often, but it certainly seems that every time I do, one of the top threads is some poor guy worried women will never date him because he's short. Since I was 15 years old (23 now), I've consistantly had girlfriends, both long term and short flings, and not once has my height been an issue. I've dated mostly girls shorter or the same height as I am, but I did date one girl who was 5'10" (kissing her was awkward, lol) and my current girlfriend, whom I've been dating for almost a year, is an inch taller than me. All of them were attractive, fit, and intelligent girls. There is no shortage of petite girls, and if you can make them laugh and are a decent guy, it really doesn't matter. I may be far from a "perfect specimen" when it comes to looks, but I've cultivated my awesome and it seems to work out pretty well for me. It's all about attitude. I suppose it just makes me a little sad to see guys so down about something they have so little control over.
aerogurl87 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I'm 5'4", and about 225lbs, not really fat but pretty stocky. I really don't check here all that often, but it certainly seems that every time I do, one of the top threads is some poor guy worried women will never date him because he's short. Since I was 15 years old (23 now), I've consistantly had girlfriends, both long term and short flings, and not once has my height been an issue. I've dated mostly girls shorter or the same height as I am, but I did date one girl who was 5'10" (kissing her was awkward, lol) and my current girlfriend, whom I've been dating for almost a year, is an inch taller than me. All of them were attractive, fit, and intelligent girls. There is no shortage of petite girls, and if you can make them laugh and are a decent guy, it really doesn't matter. I may be far from a "perfect specimen" when it comes to looks, but I've cultivated my awesome and it seems to work out pretty well for me. It's all about attitude. I suppose it just makes me a little sad to see guys so down about something they have so little control over. Haha that does seem to be a reoccurring theme around here.
CaliGuy Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 You can preach this all day. Shorter men will have a hard time believing it whcih is sad because until they believe in themselves, no one else will.
Author zaphodb2002 Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 You can preach this all day. Shorter men will have a hard time believing it whcih is sad because until they believe in themselves, no one else will. Well that's certainly true. Seems like such a trivial thing to let stand in your way. "Making a mountain out of a molehill" is such a humourously applicable metaphor. =)
Awesome Username Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Don't let it getcha down. We all have our preferences, but sometimes those preferences change when certain people make our hearts flutter, breaking the mold of what we thought to be ideal.
Lostgurl Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I've seen it here alot lately as well. Is anyone sure that it's the same poster with a different name? Because I find it odd that so many people (or should i say men) would worry so much about height. I'm 5'10" and i've has relationships with guys who were an inch or two shorter than me. Height is not a problem. An ******* is, but height definitley isn't for me anyway I'm sure that the majority of women think the same thing, let's just leave it at that
Pyro Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Definitely a recurring theme around here lately. So many other things more important to worry about, IMO.
AD1980 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I think its just frustrating when u see people say things like they wont date guys near their height in 5 inch heels Height of men seems to be the bgigest physical dealbreaker in the dating world
Johnny M Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I'm 5'4", and about 225lbs, not really fat but pretty stocky. I stopped reading after the first sentence. You're 5'4 and 225 lbs and "not really fat"? Hahaha...according to the body mass index, you are morbidly obese. Clearly, this is a troll post. P.S. Incidentally, I agree that many short men overestimate the negative consequences of their vertical deficiency. There is no shortage (not put intended) of short women out there. And while it's true that nearly every short woman wants a tall man, tall men generally prefer tall women, so many of these short women end up having to settle for short men. In the end, things balance themselves out.
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I stopped reading after the first sentence. You're 5'4 and 225 lbs and "not really fat"? Hahaha...according to the body mass index, you are morbidly obese. Clearly, this is a troll post. P.S. Incidentally, I agree that many short men overestimate the negative consequences of their vertical deficiency. There is no shortage (not put intended) of short women out there. And while it's true that nearly every short woman wants a tall man, tall men generally prefer tall women, so many of these short women end up having to settle for short men. In the end, things balance themselves out. I constantly see 6'4 guys with 5' women. I think the women like it because it gets more stares/attention with the big disparity in height.
Johnny M Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I constantly see 6'4 guys with 5' women. I think the women like it because it gets more stares/attention with the big disparity in height. I find that kind of difficult to believe (I mean, I'm sure there are couples like that, but they're certainly not very common, at least where I live). I'm 6'2, so for me, a woman of ideal height would be somewhere in the 5'6 - 5'10 range. I can't imagine myself dating a girl who's shorter than 5'4...it would just be too awkward. I'd feel like I'm be accompanied by a midget or something.
Author zaphodb2002 Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 I stopped reading after the first sentence. You're 5'4 and 225 lbs and "not really fat"? Hahaha...according to the body mass index, you are morbidly obese. Clearly, this is a troll post. P.S. Incidentally, I agree that many short men overestimate the negative consequences of their vertical deficiency. There is no shortage (not put intended) of short women out there. And while it's true that nearly every short woman wants a tall man, tall men generally prefer tall women, so many of these short women end up having to settle for short men. In the end, things balance themselves out. Troll post? Really? I didn't say I wasn't fat, I'll be the first one to tell you I am. Just not REALLY fat. I'm a martial artist and get a pretty good amount of exercise. I'm not a tub of lard but I'm certainly not in perfect shape. Not sure how having a decent self-image makes me a troll. Also, don't trolls typically try to annoy people? I'm just tryin to be positive!
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I find that kind of difficult to believe (I mean, I'm sure there are couples like that, but they're certainly not very common, at least where I live). I'm 6'2, so for me, a woman of ideal height would be somewhere in the 5'6 - 5'10 range. I can't imagine myself dating a girl who's shorter than 5'4...it would just be too awkward. I'd feel like I'm be accompanied by a midget or something. Every day I see couples with huge height disparities, and the disparity is ALWAYS the guy is much taller than she is. I have NEVER, not once seen a much taller woman with a a shorter guy. I very rarely see any couple where the woman is taller. Anyone see thos pics of French President Sarkozy standing on his tippy toes when he has a picture taken of him? He's the freaking PRESIDENT of acountry that has nuclear weapons, and even his height bothers him.
CaliGuy Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 I constantly see 6'4 guys with 5' women. I think the women like it because it gets more stares/attention with the big disparity in height. Nope, and I explained the reason for this is another thread, but I'll do it again. 1. Women do not judge men based on their height as compared to them. They base men on their height as compared to OTHER men. 2. Shorter women tend to have some insecurities about their height, therefore they tend to pick much taller than average men. Men they feel can defend them (height has no bearing on which dog wins the fight, but women still seem to think that. Maybe height is intimidating to some degree). 3. Taller women are usually more secure in their height so they place less emphasis on the height of her man because she feels less of a need to be "defended". The above three statements are my THEORY (and I didn't come up with them all) on why you will see very short women with very tall men. It also explains why a 5'7" woman will date a 5'6" guy. Remember, I am only 5'10" and have dated women as tall as 6'2" (without heels). It was only the shorter women I dated <5'3" who had a problem or issue with my height. Last girlfriend was 5'7" and exactly my height in 3" heels. Men need to stop worrying about the things they can not control (their height) and control the things they can (their attitude, confidence, etc). Cheers.
CaliGuy Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Every day I see couples with huge height disparities, and the disparity is ALWAYS the guy is much taller than she is. I have NEVER, not once seen a much taller woman with a a shorter guy. I very rarely see any couple where the woman is taller. Anyone see thos pics of French President Sarkozy standing on his tippy toes when he has a picture taken of him? He's the freaking PRESIDENT of acountry that has nuclear weapons, and even his height bothers him. Sarkozky (sp?) is also the President of France. If he was that concerned about his height, he would never have the confidence to run for office. He also has a smoking hot wife too, but that's not important. As for your first statement, I provided the answer why in my previous post in this thread.
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Sarkozky (sp?) is also the President of France. If he was that concerned about his height, he would never have the confidence to run for office. He also has a smoking hot wife too, but that's not important. As for your first statement, I provided the answer why in my previous post in this thread. http://images.huffingtonpost.com/gen/75986/original.jpg Sorry, Sarkozy also sets up pictures so that nobody is taller than he is. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/worldnews/article-1211630/Sarkozy-height-folly-Ordering-20-short-people-stand-make-look-statuesque.html
northstar1 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 true, but methinks that half the thread starters about height are just trolling
tanbark813 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 true, but methinks that half the thread starters about height are just trolling Agreed. And not all the short dudes on here are worried about their height.
CaliGuy Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Agreed. And not all the short dudes on here are worried about their height. Truer words have not been spoken. How's it going, Tankbark?
tanbark813 Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 How's it going, Tankbark? Not too shabby. Just checkin' email before work.
paperchase Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Every day I see couples with huge height disparities, and the disparity is ALWAYS the guy is much taller than she is. I have NEVER, not once seen a much taller woman with a a shorter guy. I very rarely see any couple where the woman is taller. Anyone see thos pics of French President Sarkozy standing on his tippy toes when he has a picture taken of him? He's the freaking PRESIDENT of acountry that has nuclear weapons, and even his height bothers him. I'm 5'7.75" exactly, thin athletic type w/ calvin klein abs and am said to be very handsome. My ex wife was 5'10.5" flat footed and could have been a model. We made a stunning couple, and she often wore heels. In fact, I encouraged it. Our divorce had nothing to do with height issues. I can remember as far back as the 4th grade, taller girls having crushes on me. I never understood it but never had an issue with a woman's height. I've dated girls as short as 4'11" and as tall as 6'0". I find that most of the women I date are 5'3"-5'7" but I really have no preference, although I know that some women do. So of course I have heard women say in conversation they would never date a man shorter than X or that wasn't taller than them when they wore heels. To me, that's right up there with I want a house with a picket white fence. They also say things like I'd never date a man with kids or someone divorced...that is until they fall in love with someone who doesn't fit their ideal. The height in heels thing is funny because it shows a real preoccupation with how others view you. It's only an issue for public consumption when you go out on dates and are seen. Insecurity at it's finest. Now if you are just attracted to a certain type: muscular, dark, exotic, bald, long hair, etc. that's different because you know what you like and you don't care what others think. I see nothing wrong with preferences that aren't based in insecurity but I'm very weary about the other kind. If I was tall and found out a short girl wanted me because she was insecure about her own height or wanted tall babies, that would turn me off. I'm a person of color but of mixed decent and I always get concerned when women talk about how our children would look because of certain features I have or the texture of my hair. Although I admit I do think about a woman's innate intelligence when considering offspring. I'm also attracted to athleticism as a former college athlete but it's not a deal breaker.
dreamergrl Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Just for the record... when I date a guy, if he's taller it's not for attention. That is one of the silliest things I have ever heard. I've dated guys a foot taller then me... and honestly, I don't recall getting attention for it.
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 Just for the record... when I date a guy, if he's taller it's not for attention. That is one of the silliest things I have ever heard. I've dated guys a foot taller then me... and honestly, I don't recall getting attention for it. Do you care what others think? Would you be embarrased to be seen with a guy shorter than you? If so, that's called insecurity, and you have it. That's not the same as attention, but it's still a problem, like attention seeking people have.
Leia Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 3 of my EXes are shorter than me. Never had a problem. I thought it was cute that they were shorter.
betamanlet Posted October 28, 2009 Posted October 28, 2009 3 of my EXes are shorter than me. Never had a problem. I thought it was cute that they were shorter. Cute is not equal to attractive or sexy. Kittens are cute. You do not want to sex kittens though. Let me take it, they guy you stuck it out with is taller than you, right?
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