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Originally posted by moimeme

So tell me, do you find that a lot of people say one thing about themselves but do otherwise?

 

ALL the time!! I really try remember the saying, "Actions speak louder than words" when dealing with people. Talk is the cheapest thing around.

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There are still some honest people out there I believe. :D Yet, so many times I have been hurt/let down/shocked because people do not treat me they way I treat them! I am always honest and open, and in the past I simply assumed others were too. How naive and trusting I was. Then people started to show their true colours. Now I too have baggage and a whole range of trust issues (being played out in my current relationship, via insecurity and the good ol' worrying about the his past/the ex etc).

 

I think though moimeme, we have to keep on being trusting and expect the best of people, and just simply balance that with SOME amount of caution and tough objectivity. Otherwise we would all be bitter cynics. My bf was cheated on in his marriage and he is a lot more cynical about the concept of marriage etc now, than he was, and finds it harder to trust. I have had to deal with his baggage , just as he is dealing with mine! :) How nice it would be if we could all drop at least some of the old wounds, and be a little more fresh faced again. I mean some amount of self preservation is good...but don't become too cautious.

 

And to reference your initial question about why people act how they act- I think people sometimes have the best of intentions and actually BELIEVE the things they say about themselves, or say they will do. But then their human flaws dominate, and they don't come through with the goods.

 

I know I have done that myself. Promised my bf I would change...stop nagging him about the past etc...turn over a new leaf and REALLY MEAN IT! Then the next day, I am doing the same thing, or making the same mistakes, or else accusing someone else of doing something wrong, when I am doing the exact same thing wrong myself!

 

Don't lose too much faith in people though. There are still honest people like us out there. My lovely boyfriend is one of them- he has never lied or played any games with me at all. What I see, is what I get.

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MERCY ME Moimeme....... I thought I was fairly progressive (and even love ZZ top).....STILL....I had no idea!

 

I thought a pearl necklace was the opposite of a dicklay....somehow signifying a relationship more costly and special.....now I see it's only more STICKY!

 

 

She was gettin' bombed ,

And I was gettin' blown away ,

And she took it in her hand ,

And this is what she had to say:

A pearl necklace .

ZZ Top

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