sean001 Posted December 7, 2003 Share Posted December 7, 2003 I've had a crazy few months with my relationship... she broke up with me, I wanted her back, and she then rejected me.... well, I finally got over the situation and moved on when *poof* she came back about a month ago wanting to "try things" again. I half-heartedly agreed, thinking that maybe, given some time, I would start to feel better about having her in my life. I was completely up front that I had my reservations but told her I would try to work things out. The bottom line is that I'm not happy, and haven't been the entire time. I don't feel any better -- I'm really just not "feeling it" at all. I've been trying to do new and exciting things, like going out to some nice restaurants, planning on some shows, etc., -- all in the hopes of sparking some chemistry. But it feels so "forced" and nothing is really changing. While I can think of many reasons why this could be, there's not one particular thing I can point to. I need some help with how to go about telling her how I feel. How do you tell someone you're just not "feeling it?" I'm not sure if I'm ready to throw in the towel, but I don't even know how to find a solution to this problem, and I'm not sure how to ask her for help in finding it. I mean -- it's really not something that I think she has an answer for, but I know I need to tell her how I feel just the same. Any ideas on how to go about this? Link to post Share on other sites
midori Posted December 7, 2003 Share Posted December 7, 2003 Originally posted by sean001 I need some help with how to go about telling her how I feel. How do you tell someone you're just not "feeling it?" How about "I just haven't been feeling it since we got back together. I don't know why exactly but I've been uneasy and less than happy." You probably ought to put some thought into what it is that is making you unhappy. As a place to start, here's a guess: your ex has been calling the shots in the relationship: she broke up with you, she rejected you, then she wanted you back. Everything seemed abrupt and even capricious on her part. I would imagine that you'd feel rather on pins and needles: who knows if you two will be together this time next week -- or even this time tomorrow? You have no say in what's going on, and she doesn't seem to have explained what's been going on with her very well. You have no security in the relationship. I wouldn't be suprised if you also feel like one misstep on your part will send everything crashing down again. Except you're not even sure what a "misstep" would be. Link to post Share on other sites
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