Lakeside_runner Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 I'm going out on a date tomorrow (second date) and since I don't have a car right now (long story...) we'll be meeting pretty much at the date location. She'll be driving back home then. I thought that if the date goes well I may give her some fancy little chocolates (a very small box - 3 pieces) at the very end after walking her to her car and tell her something like "In case you're stuck in traffic...". How would you ladies perceive that? Link to post Share on other sites
betamanlet Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 I'm going out on a date tomorrow (second date) and since I don't have a car right now (long story...) we'll be meeting pretty much at the date location. She'll be driving back home then. I thought that if the date goes well I may give her some fancy little chocolates (a very small box - 3 pieces) at the very end after walking her to her car and tell her something like "In case you're stuck in traffic...". How would you ladies perceive that? er. I would avoid giving gifts until you're officially a couple. Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 DO NOT DO THAT. You tryin to make her think that youre trying to "Cute" your way for her affection? Just keep being yourself, thats all you need. Dont give her anything until youre in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 I think it's thoughtful and cute. Link to post Share on other sites
betamanlet Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 I think it's thoughtful and cute. But what would you think if someone gave that to you on a second date? Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 I would think......yummy. Link to post Share on other sites
Awesome Username Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 Second date? I would LOVE it if a guy gave me chocolate! Chocolate rules! Link to post Share on other sites
conehead Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 Im a girl...if a guy did that, I'd probably fall right in love with him hehe. My favorite ex bf gave me a $300 bracelet after just 3 weeks of dating and before we were even official. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 I'm going out on a date tomorrow (second date) and since I don't have a car right now (long story...) we'll be meeting pretty much at the date location. She'll be driving back home then. I thought that if the date goes well I may give her some fancy little chocolates (a very small box - 3 pieces) at the very end after walking her to her car and tell her something like "In case you're stuck in traffic...". How would you ladies perceive that? Naahh... I wouldn't do it if I were you... it's a little bit too soon.. and too 'cutsy' IMO.. she might have the wrong impression ... Link to post Share on other sites
Peaceful Guy Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 is there a way you could casually give the chocolate at the begining of the date? sort of nonchalant maybe? but, you know what? this is you.. this is who you're going to hopefully date. is that your style? then, by all means, go for it, totally! Link to post Share on other sites
betamanlet Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 Im a girl...if a guy did that, I'd probably fall right in love with him hehe. My favorite ex bf gave me a $300 bracelet after just 3 weeks of dating and before we were even official. argh. you even knew how much it is worth..... I want a granola woman, basically a communist, despite me being a capitalist. Link to post Share on other sites
honeypear Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 I think that would be a sweet gesture. Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 If I got chocolates, the little box would be opened straight away and I'd share. It would bring a big smile to my face. Do it. How can it go wrong? Link to post Share on other sites
Peaceful Guy Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 How can it go wrong? well, it honestly reminded me of the sort of thing i would do in 8th grade before a girl would lose interest in me.. but then, like i said above, this is his life.. if she doesnt appreciate him doing a nice gesture, her loss.. so yeah, i guess actually it is win win! Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 I would think you are trying to compensate for not having a car/not driving me home. Man, I've gotten jaded. Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 If you're gonna give her some chocolate make sure it's either Lindt or Godiva chocolate (Godiva is more expensive and tastes better but Lindor truffles are pretty good too and cheaper) Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 Beyond having flowers delivered, I'd avoid gift giving until you're in an exclusive relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Cupcakes Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 (edited) No, flowers and present them right away when she picks you up. Edited October 29, 2009 by Pink Cupcakes Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lakeside_runner Posted October 30, 2009 Author Share Posted October 30, 2009 I don't get it... it's kinda okay to go for a kiss on second date but it's not okay to give chocolate?! Gee... I just don't get it... Link to post Share on other sites
Double Posted October 30, 2009 Share Posted October 30, 2009 Honestly, it depends on the girl and how the first date went. So it could go either way. You should just trust yourself to have read any signals and the girl correctly and then either do it or don't. I definitely don't think you should do it if it's just some random sweet thing you thought up in general to be nice or impress any girl. If it's something you thought of because your first date went really well, you're totally smitten with this girl, and genuinely want to do something sweet for her specifically, go for it! Link to post Share on other sites
Peaceful Guy Posted October 30, 2009 Share Posted October 30, 2009 I don't get it... it's kinda okay to go for a kiss on second date but it's not okay to give chocolate?! Gee... I just don't get it... its not logical.. you're doing something nice.. can someone help me/him out here? why is it that doing this could turn her off?? (and it could, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't do it, gotta take chances!) Link to post Share on other sites
Peaceful Guy Posted October 30, 2009 Share Posted October 30, 2009 ladies? someone who has experienced this perhaps??? Link to post Share on other sites
Double Posted October 30, 2009 Share Posted October 30, 2009 its not logical.. you're doing something nice.. can someone help me/him out here? why is it that doing this could turn her off?? (and it could, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't do it, gotta take chances!) ladies? someone who has experienced this perhaps??? I think the very obvious point being made is that a gift, even if it's a token, can be way too much for a second date. I think another, very obvious point, being made is that the depending on the things I first mentioned, and reiterated below, the OP could come across as needy or desperate or trying too hard or insincere or a number of unattractive qualities. But again, this depends on how long they've known each other, how the first date went, what signals the OP got from this girl, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Peaceful Guy Posted October 30, 2009 Share Posted October 30, 2009 How would you ladies perceive that? there you go man.. some would like it, and consider it sweet (pun, yah!), awesome, and would appreciate the gesture. others would think it was needy, desperate, or insecure. sooooo, if you're the kinda guy that likes to give gifts on the second date, then a good match for you is the kind of girl that would like to get a gift on the second date. only one way to find out.. also, i personally think it would be awesome for you do that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lakeside_runner Posted October 30, 2009 Author Share Posted October 30, 2009 Thanks for the input guys! I've to think about it now... but I see some valuable points made in this thread. Thanks again! Link to post Share on other sites
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