Fallen1 Posted October 30, 2009 Share Posted October 30, 2009 Hello all, I am new to this...so be patient with me! I have been with a man for 14 months now. He has been building his business throughout this time, and our time together is limited by the business. He is trying to make more time for me. At the moment we see each other on 2 nights during the week ( he comes to me as I have small children)and one night/ half day each weekend. I feel that I connect with him like no one I have before He has talked about marriage and buying a place in the future earlier in our relationship. He says he wants us to be together and for us to have a future. I am in no hurry but I alsodon't want to waste my time. Recently his mother offered to help him buy a house so that he can have more space for his daughter to come and stay. Whilst I am in no hurry, and want to buy a place of my own to be secure, the fact he just said 'no' without discussing it with me ( he calls me his partner and gets miffed when I say 'dating') has made me angry... if I am a 'partner' don't I get a say too? He says he loves me, yet our time together always gets eaten into first, he says he wants us to be together in the future, but he wont consider moving the relationship on. He says it works (for him) and he doesnt want to ruin it by rushing things like he has in the past. I feel so confused and its getting me down. I don't feel he values me at all. When I challenge him about my needs he tells me I don't understand him and its all about growing the business and taking the longterm view. Each time we argue, he says that because I have argued with him he is not sure whether we will last (prior to the arguement he was apparently sure of this). I am getting to the point where the light at the end of the tunnel is dimming. I have told him I don't think he has time for a proper relationship. I feel like telling him to leave me alone. Link to post Share on other sites
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