tornalone Posted November 2, 2009 Share Posted November 2, 2009 My husband and I have 2 young children, which he doesn't really know too well since he's been deployed most of their lives. He's been home for almost a year now and still things are tough. It's like he left and a different person came back. We are constantly fighting but I don't really know what about, he has a really short temper lately. Sometimes its like I don't even exist, he's just in his own world. We never have sex cuz he never wants to. Recently we met up with an old friend, who we've been hanging out alot with. Back before my husband and I were married I had a big crush on this guy, but was never able to do anything about it. My husband just went to the field and me and my friend have been hanging out. He recently got divorced because his wife was in love with somebody else. He is so great with the kids, which kinda makes me like him even more. The other day he kissed me, which I stopped him even though I didnt want to. We then just sat and cuddled, which I guess is what I needed because now I can't stop thinking about this guy. He is so nice to me and makes me feel attractive. I know it is wrong to think about somebody else when I am married so I'm trying to figure out what to do. I feel like a horrible person for liking somebody else, even though my husband has cheated on me in the past and still flirts with girls that he works with. Sometimes I don't know why I stay with him, but I really do love him, I just don't know how to fix what is wrong with us. I don't want to be with anybody else, I just want to feel loved?? Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted November 3, 2009 Share Posted November 3, 2009 There are two things happening. Your Emotional Needs are not being met and you are being unfaithful. Stop part two - resolve part one. Read the articles at Marriage Builders. Dr Harley resolved a very similar problem using his Plan A and plan B method. Google it. Its free. Link to post Share on other sites
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