Red flag??

[jerbear]

Your phone not receiving texts and then all of a sudden getting 4 texts is not a bad thing, needy or being crazy. Just miscommunication.

 

The good morning text on the other hand is strange, it is not like he stayed the night, left, and then send the text.

 

The dating references is just odd and needy on his part.

 

I still suggest carhill's idea of thanking him for the interests but you are not interested. Delete his texts and move on.

[EricaH329]

It's a shame even when you told him that it wasn't working for you, he still did the thing that made you run. Silly men.

 

I wonder if its because he thinks its what women want, but if he continues to do this, he's gonna be single for a long time. It's one thing sending a couple of texts in a day to check if you recieved it, entirely another to send 10.

 

He should check into counselling, he's too needy, perhaps he's insecure.

 

Good on you, I would run for the hills and keep running from a guy like that. I'm sure he's lovely, but don't feel bad about it, you can't date a guy who does something which is a red flag for you, it's about getting what you want from it, finding someone on your level.

 

I've wondered those same things myself. Whether he has always treated girls like that, or if he's just inexperienced. I know for a fact that he's very insecure, the majority of the text messages had at least one reference to how he thinks he isn't good looking.

 

When he asked me why I thought that we were incompatible, I told him that I like to have my space, and considering the 10 text messages I recieved the day before yesterday (without reply) was telling me that he was on a different page than I was.

 

You know what he said? "I like my space too! I just wasn't hearing anything from you, so I wanted to know what was going on." That's just as worse! If, say, i'm out one day and I don't immediatly respond to his messages, i'm going to get a full inbox by the time i'm able to even look at my phone again. Too much!

 

The "good morning" text after you hadn't replied to 3 the night before would creep me out....

 

I tried giving him the benefit of the doubt at first, but looking back at it now, it's very creepy.

[EricaH329]

Your phone not receiving texts and then all of a sudden getting 4 texts is not a bad thing, needy or being crazy. Just miscommunication.

 

When I finally recieved those texts, I was able to see what time they were sent. They were all within an hour. I find that a little needy, don't you? I mean, I literally talked to this guy for maybe 15 minutes the night I met him.

 

The good morning text on the other hand is strange, it is not like he stayed the night, left, and then send the text.

 

The dating references is just odd and needy on his part.

 

I still suggest carhill's idea of thanking him for the interests but you are not interested. Delete his texts and move on.

 

I've already deleted his texts. I began doing that after I realized he wasn't going to leave me alone about why I don't think we are compatible.

 

Good news though, no 'good morning' text today! First day since i've met him that I haven't recieved one! I'm thinking that's a good sign!

 

From now on, when I meet a guy, i'm interviewing him before I give or recieve any phone numbers!

[harmfulsweetz]

That's a good plan-you should bring like a survey thing-needy or not needy? tick. etc.

 

Ten texts when you aren't responding is OTT, he wants space? Yeah right. It's one thing sending ten texts in a day if you are responding to them, another if you aren't. He needs to learn some basic dating etiquette-stalking isn't one of them.

[EricaH329]

That's a good plan-you should bring like a survey thing-needy or not needy? tick. etc.

 

Exactly!! Can you imagine what a guy would think if I actually did that?! Too funny!!

 

Ten texts when you aren't responding is OTT, he wants space? Yeah right. It's one thing sending ten texts in a day if you are responding to them, another if you aren't. He needs to learn some basic dating etiquette-stalking isn't one of them.

 

I know right!! And to make things worse, most women his age would not put up with that sort of thing. He is going to have to go much younger than me to find any naive girl that doesn't know any better.

 

Then again, i'm sure there are women out there (like my co-worker) who enjoys that sort of thing.

[AliveAndKicking]

Wow, I think you are really over analyzing this. To conclude someone is needy based on a series of text messages is ridiculous. It depends more on the content. Is he harrasing you?

 

Quit playing games. He is just interested.

 

No s%$&! Take a deep breath, chill, and enjoy the fact that this guy is man enough to let you know he is definitely interested rather than being ambigous or waiting for you to make a move. Rest asured that IF he is needy or otherwise "defective" it will make itself clear to you once you know him a bit better.

 

Sheesh! This kind of stuff is really making my self-chosen downtime from dating this winter look more and more attractive ll the time!

 

 

It's simple: He wants to get to know you. Stop thinking and start living!

[jerbear]

When I finally recieved those texts, I was able to see what time they were sent. They were all within an hour. I find that a little needy, don't you? I mean, I literally talked to this guy for maybe 15 minutes the night I met him.

 

 

 

I've already deleted his texts. I began doing that after I realized he wasn't going to leave me alone about why I don't think we are compatible.

 

Good news though, no 'good morning' text today! First day since i've met him that I haven't recieved one! I'm thinking that's a good sign!

 

From now on, when I meet a guy, i'm interviewing him before I give or recieve any phone numbers!

 

Sounds like you've made an good impression! 15 minutes of chatting and he is saying good morning!

 

Anyway, glad things have improved and you're interviewing people before giving out any phone numbers.

 

I'll suggest adding finger prints, letters of credit, doing a credit check, polygraph tests, and a physican's report! :lmao:

[EricaH329]

No s%$&! Take a deep breath, chill, and enjoy the fact that this guy is man enough to let you know he is definitely interested rather than being ambigous or waiting for you to make a move. Rest asured that IF he is needy or otherwise "defective" it will make itself clear to you once you know him a bit better.

 

Sheesh! This kind of stuff is really making my self-chosen downtime from dating this winter look more and more attractive ll the time!

 

 

It's simple: He wants to get to know you. Stop thinking and start living!

 

Did you read any of the other posts? Give them a look through and let me know if you still feel the same way after everything that's happened up until this point.

 

Sounds like you've made an good impression! 15 minutes of chatting and he is saying good morning!

 

Anyway, glad things have improved and you're interviewing people before giving out any phone numbers.

 

I'll suggest adding finger prints, letters of credit, doing a credit check, polygraph tests, and a physican's report! :lmao:

 

 

Or I could just drag them to a psychiatrists office, give it about an hour or so, then make my decision based on the results.

 

I think that's the best idea i've had yet!!

[justforfun]

I am amazed at the time an effort you have put into this thread. IMO you could have let it die after you spoke to him. Seems like the debate was over at that point. Although I don't get why it was started to begin with.

 

If you spend so much time on someone you are not interested in then I'm not surprised that you don't like the 'dating scene'. You must be exhausted by it.