so alone... all so alone...

[flyswatter04]

my girlfriend just broke up with me. im so down about it. i cant get over her. when she did break up with me she just gave me the "lets be friends" speech. so what im trying to say is that, how can i get over her? please help....

[Reckless]

Well Fly,

 

There is no easy way but maybe realizing that there are more fish in the sea will help -- you will love again. Eventually.

 

R.

[Fancy]

I'm sorry you're hurting so much now. You're going through a loss and that's going to take time to heal. You can't just "get over it." It's not that simple. Give yourself time to grieve. It's okay to cry and to remember. You need to do that to heal.

 

That being said, don't sit there and drown in your sorrow either. Call up some friends, go visit some family, go to the gym, or whatever interests you. You need to be around people right now. Find a trusted friend you can talk to and cry on his/her shoulder for a while.

 

What you're feeling now is horrible, but please remember that you won't feel this way forever. Time and space will heal you. Whatever you do, though, don't call her. She's given you the "let's be friends" speech so that tells me she's through. Don't set yourself back by contacting her.

 

I hope you feel better soon. Post here as much as you need to. We've all been right where you are.

[Leikela]

In your other post, you mentioned that you were interested in another girl. How about you give yourself time to grieve over the loss of your ex-gf? How long were you two together? Trying to move on to another person so quickly is not a good idea. It's called rebounding and doesn't heal the hurt you have now. It just maskes it for the time being. Grieve and then when you're healed seek someone new.