Guys: What are your thoughts on dating a "nympho"

[aerogurl87]

Ok so I'm wondering what guys think of a girl who has an incredibly high sex drive (I mean way above average). Do you find it sexy, sometimes a turn off? Would you want to be in a LTR with her or just something short term, like a little fling?

[Blackfrost]

Ok so I'm wondering what guys think of a girl who has an incredibly high sex drive (I mean way above average). Do you find it sexy, sometimes a turn off? Would you want to be in a LTR with her or just something short term, like a little fling?

 

A fling would be enough, I got work to do to.

[BookerT]

Short term perfect.

 

Long term if the guy has a high sex drive too then that's cool.

 

If the guy doesn't have the same sex drive, got to wonder if she's going to cheat.

[BCCA]

I like sex, dont get me wrong. But Im not one of those '3 times a day, everyday' kind of people. I honestly dont think most guys are.

 

Short term, it would be great to have someone that was 'ready to go' whenever you felt the urge.

 

Long term, as Booker pointed out, Id be awefully concerned that I wasnt going to be able to satisfy her needs day in and day out, and she would stray. At 28 I could probably keep up, but what about when we get older?

[Enema]

Would prefer someone who's into a lot of different sexual things, rather than someone who's into lots of sex.

[Yamaha]

Wouldn't be interested because there would be to much pressuse to keep her happy or she'll look elsewhere.

[aerogurl87]

Hmm interesting... and what's wrong with 3 times a day? lol

[Skump]

Ok so I'm wondering what guys think of a girl who has an incredibly high sex drive (I mean way above average). Do you find it sexy, sometimes a turn off? Would you want to be in a LTR with her or just something short term, like a little fling?

 

I'm perfectly fine with it so long as the girl is intelligent and committed to relationship fidelity. If I detect even a hint of sexual irresponsibility or discover a history of unfaithfulness, though, it's "see ya."

 

Of course, the latter condition would hold for any girl. So bring on the succubus with a heart of gold.

[aerogurl87]

I'm perfectly fine with it so long as the girl is intelligent and committed to relationship fidelity. If I detect even a hint of sexual irresponsibility or discover a history of unfaithfulness, though, it's "see ya."

 

Of course, the latter condition would hold for any girl. So bring on the succubus with a heart of gold.

 

Haha a succubus with a heart of gold. I just find it interesting that most of these guys said they wouldn't want a LTR with a girl who likes alot of sex. So she can't be asexual, but she can't have too high a sex drive either because she may cheat? Hmm... very interesting.

[boogieboy]

Cant be bothered, Im not that horny.

[BG1985]

Never been in a relationship with a girl who has as high a sex drive as I do. Aerogurl, you had another thread similar to this earlier today. You must be really bothered by your boyfriend's flu/cold/stress.

[Tiz]

That's great if she wants a lot of sex, but what I'm more interested in as one poster put it is the quality as in what she's "into" and her actual attitude in the bedroom. That's a huge turn on for me.

 

I also completely separate sex and dating. I don't let sex blur the lines of her other actions in the relationship.

 

 

By the way aerogurl thanks for giving me my idea for an avatar.

[aerogurl87]

Never been in a relationship with a girl who has as high a sex drive as I do. Aerogurl, you had another thread similar to this earlier today. You must be really bothered by your boyfriend's flu/cold/stress.

 

Lol, I'm not extremely bothered by it, but it is different being with him. My last two boyfriends had extremely high sex drives, and I could barely keep up with my most recent ex, lol. But I mean his isn't bad or anything, but it's also not as high as what I'm used to. He still makes me happy in other ways and like they say "a relationship isn't all about sex", so ironically that makes me happier. Because with him I don't feel like a sex object as I did in my last two relationships.

[BCCA]

and what's wrong with 3 times a day? lol

 

As boogieboy put it...

 

Cant be bothered, Im not that horny.

 

Some guys might be, but I'd much rather have some awesome sex 4-5 times a week, instead of making it a chore 3 times a day. Dont get me wrong, there WILL be days when we do it 3+ times, but there might also be a week or so where it doesnt happen for whatever reason, and Im ok with that.

 

Its the fact that youll be expected to keep up a daily routine of sexual intimacy that bothers me. Seems like it would get boring, and eventually, youd get bored with each other and look elsewhere.

 

Like Im saying, I love sex as much as the next guy, but Im about quality over quatity. I dont consider myself a nympho, and as such, wouldnt date one seriously.

[BG1985]

Yeah I'd like a girl who considers sex to be something more than just lying on her back and then letting me do the work. I'd like a little more active participation on her part, not that I don't enjoy getting into it myself.

[aerogurl87]

By the way aerogurl thanks for giving me my idea for an avatar.

 

Haha, how did I do that?

[BG1985]

To add to boogieboy and bcca, I don't want to be a mere dildo for a girl. I prefer quality sessions that last a while and leave us both feeling worn out rather than quickies. I actually am not quick at all.

[bbf]

So she can't be asexual, but she can't have too high a sex drive either because she may cheat? Hmm... very interesting.

 

Ideally she would have the same sex drive as me. For me, it's a compatibility issue, not a trust issue. Just because a girl is a nympho doesn't mean I can't trust her, but the reality is if she wants it that much more than I do there's going to be problems in the relationship.

 

I dunno if you've been to the marriage forums, but they're filled people having a really hard time due to incompatible sex drives. One person feels pressured and one person feels rejected. There really doesn't seem to be any good solution, especially if you're married and have kids. After reading some of these stories, I consider sexual compatibility very very important.

[BG1985]

The kicker about the sexual compatibility is that, even though there may be a match during the dating phase, it often changes after marriage.

[aerogurl87]

To add to boogieboy and bcca, I don't want to be a mere dildo for a girl. I prefer quality sessions that last a while and leave us both feeling worn out rather than quickies. I actually am not quick at all.

 

I gotta agree with you there. Quickies are not my thing, and hmm maybe that's another reason why I love my boyfriend. He takes his time and actually makes love to me opposed to a "hit it and quit it" kind of quick f**k.

 

Keep the thoughts coming.

[bbf]

The kicker about the sexual compatibility is that, even though there may be a match during the dating phase, it often changes after marriage.

 

Yeah that's true. It's something that definitely worries me. Another reason why I'll probably never get married or have kids.

[BG1985]

I really hate the fact that this web site exists, but reading nomarriage.com really scares the hell out of me. I imagine that it's probably primarily full of worst-case scenarios, but it still gets me thinking. I fear for some of my friends who either are just getting married or who are most likely with the girl/guy that they plan on getting married to. I am in no hurry myself to commit to anyone at this moment.

[BG1985]

I gotta agree with you there. Quickies are not my thing, and hmm maybe that's another reason why I love my boyfriend. He takes his time and actually makes love to me opposed to a "hit it and quit it" kind of quick f**k.

 

Keep the thoughts coming.

 

Oh I'm not "making love." I tend to be rather aggressive, maybe a little too rough. I like to make this into a workout. My last girlfriend thought I sweated too much. It's her fault that her fan didn't work and her room was too hot in my opinion. I was only her second sexual partner, and she really doesn't come off as a sexual person. I had hoped to get her out of her shell.

[JohnP82]

I'll echo the other guys that said no thanks to a nympho for a LTR, but instead a woman with a healthy sex drive.

[boldjack]

I have a high sex-drive myself, so I wouldn't be too worried, but I agree with the poster , who said that" at the first hint", of straying, she would be kicked to the curb.