I am so confused!

[Michelle]

Needless to say ... I AM SO CONFUSED! I have been talking to this guy for about a week now, and I still don't know what he wants or what he is thinking. Now I know this latter is probably inevitable, but we have shared some special moments. I really like spending time with him, and he says certain things tha lead me to think that he feels the same. So, now it is a Saurday night, and we went out and ended up sleeping together on Friday. I am not worried that he will call tonight -- if not, no big deal. But do I call him tomorrow (Sunday)? I want to, but will I sound clingy and whiny? He needs to put forth effort also, and I kinda want to know if he feels enough to call. I am a strong person, but this is the first time I have felt this way about someone. It is so frustrating and weird, waiting by the phone, you know? I just need advice on how to go about handling this situation. He knows that I am interested, and I am about 90% positive that he wants something, also. It is just that little 10% that is really chapping my hide. So, if anyone would like to help a poor girl out, write me back and I would be forever grateful! Thanks.

 

Michelle

[JON]

Needless to say ... I AM SO

CONFUSED! I have been talking to this guy for about a week now, and I still don't know what he wants or what he is thinking. Now I know this latter is probably inevitable, but we have shared some special moments. I really like spending time with him, and he says certain things tha lead me to think that he feels the same. So, now it is a Saurday night, and we went out and ended up sleeping together on Friday. I am not worried that he will call tonight -- if not, no big deal. But do I call him tomorrow (Sunday)? I want to, but will I sound clingy and whiny? He needs to put forth effort also, and I kinda want to know if he feels enough to call. I am a strong person, but this is the first time I have felt this way about someone. It is so frustrating and weird, waiting by the phone, you know? I just need advice on how to go about handling this situation. He knows that I am interested, and I am about 90% positive that he wants something, also. It is just that little 10% that is really chapping my hide. So, if anyone would like to help a poor girl out, write me back and I would be forever grateful! Thanks. Michelle ask him if he likes you

[Ryan]

Sex after a week of just talking? It sounds like you are trying to create what you want to find and it's not exactly there.

 

You seem so very passive about this whole situation, as if you can't take control of it. If this guy wants to have physical intimacy with you, DEMAND that he creates that emotional connection! You feel that this was a profoundly emotional interaction and that it means a lot...but that is not necessarily the case for him. This is one major difference between the genders, men can easily separate emotion from sexuality. That's not to say all of them do, but it is quite common. If you are the strong person you claim to be, then you should be making him step up and be a responsible MAN in this relationship. Otherwise you are just going to get used.