DonTomaso Posted December 8, 2003 Share Posted December 8, 2003 I have a general question for everyone out there... What do you do when you run into an ex? I am going home over the holidays and I will undoubtedly run into her. When it finally ended I still wanted to be friends but she did not want to talk to me which hurt... any opinions on this subject? Link to post Share on other sites
Regulus Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 Most people need their space after something ends so her not wanting to talk to you is quite reasonable. People need time to heal and reflect, so a friendship is also not a good idea right now. Smile, say hello (and that's it!), and keep on walking. Pretty universal. whatever you do, DO NOT start a "I need closure" conversation. Make sure your not subconciously trying to run into her also. Link to post Share on other sites
Caddy Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 I agree, casually smile and say hello. If she doesn't initiate a conversation, then just be the better person and walk away from it. Think of it this way, if she doesn't want to talk with you about whatever, then you are better off without her! You will find that special someone that deserves to be with you and wants nothing but 110% of your time! The search may not come easy, but you can do it! Think of the Waterboy guy - YOU KIN DO EET!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
mewbomb Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 regulus, i agree with what you said about not subconsciously running into her and about the space thing. Probably best to leave it at hello. Even though it will be really hard!! I can definetly see it being difficult. what does everyone think about the type of places and things your accustomed to doing are similar? Am i supposed to think that im not subconsciously trying to run into her? as much as the dumpee would prob be the one to WANT to run into the other half... is their a difference... I personally don't really want to see her if she doesn't want to see me... There is no real way to tell that... hmm..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author DonTomaso Posted December 9, 2003 Author Share Posted December 9, 2003 I see what you mean about subconciously trying to run into her. I was home over Thanksgiving and I sort of hoped I would run into her, but I guess it's a good thing that I didn't... If I do run into her over Christmas, it will be hard not to strike up a friendly conversation since her friendship was always so important to me. I will try to take your advice though. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 Don, I would think the appripriate response to seeing your ex would depend on how and why you broke up. Generally, I always remain friendly with someone I had a relationship with in any capacity.....then there is the ONE....who would do best to avoid me at all cost. If you broke up on good terms, then there is no reason why you shouldn't greet her as a special friend. I think in most cases....even a hug is acceptable. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DonTomaso Posted December 9, 2003 Author Share Posted December 9, 2003 Arabess... Why would the ONE do his best to avoid you? Was he the ONE for you or were you the ONE for him? Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 Originally posted by DonTomaso Arabess... Why would the ONE do his best to avoid you? Was he the ONE for you or were you the ONE for him? 1. Because my response to him would decidedly be worse than the dangers he faces deployed in the war. 2. A real relationship requires both to be true and the ending hurt both of us equally. I can honestly say....the ending was painful enough that I would just as soon gnaw off my arm than return to it in ANY capacity. My heart doesn't do "re-takes". Link to post Share on other sites
Author DonTomaso Posted December 9, 2003 Author Share Posted December 9, 2003 Well said!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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