lovinarms Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 I have been going out with this girl for one and a half years now. Its a different kind of relationship, that being a long distance relationship. Recently she broke up with me and I have been so emotional and depressed the last few days. I tried talking with this person abou things. The reason's I received from her about the breakup are easily rectifiable and are simply communication flaws between us, which I know is a common thing in long distance relationships. I have tried about everything, maybe even sounding a little bit desperate to get her to give the relationship a real chance. I am four months away from completing my computer science degree and when i graduate i would be more flexible with my distance for the most part. That seems to be another issue however. The girl has brought it up and said things such as "what if you come here and things dont work out?" and stuff like that. I already said screw the what if's , you will never know unless you try. I love this girl with all of my heart, she is my world and I really wanna try and rectify our situation. She was and still is my first love, I am just so confused and heartbroken and I am running out of idea's on what I can do to get that one real chance. When she came into my life, i was pretty depressed individual and she changed my outlook on life, and my current outlook still has her in my future even if she doesn't see me in hers. She still say's she loves me and loves when we are together, but its something she has to do. Please give me some advice on possibilities of making things better, I am 22 years old as well so you dont think its a kid thing Broken and Lonely Link to post Share on other sites
lostforwords Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 Long DIstance relationships are killers....... my heart goes out you..... maybe you 2 can try to remain friends at least for 4 months and see what happens in 4 months time just then perhaps you 2 will be able to see more clearly what the future holds for you2. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
dewy96 Posted December 13, 2003 Share Posted December 13, 2003 I think you need to ask yourself just exactley what love is, and ask her. Write down a list of how you could possibly explain it, feeling words, emotions. after writing this draw your own conclusions on what you have written, love is something diffrent for everyone, hell, i live in England, you should see the things which go on over here. I gave my heart away 2 years ago to a girl, I`m with a diffrent one know but`s it not the same. I`d drop anything to have her back, so in finalization, don`t do a me ( it sucks ). Good luck , K. Link to post Share on other sites
mr_roggger Posted December 13, 2003 Share Posted December 13, 2003 what did you do? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovinarms Posted December 16, 2003 Author Share Posted December 16, 2003 Well I talked to her and I tried to get her reasonings for wanting to split. All the reasonings given were pretty much based on "what if's", which sucks. I dont know i wrote something out called her and let her know how i was feeling and everything and wanted to try and work at the relationship, but i told her i did not nor wanted an answer right now. I believe maybe we do need some time apart (weird considering we are in a LD relationship lol) and think everything over. She is going back home to hawaii for christmas so I dont expect an answer until the New Year. I just hope everything works itself out. From the last time we talked also it also kinda sounded like she was at the point in her life where she is ready to 'settle' down, she being 27 me being 22....but I am not 100% sure on this, and if it were the case I dont know what to do hehe. Link to post Share on other sites
Morticia2k1 Posted December 16, 2003 Share Posted December 16, 2003 Hi Have just read your message... You say your girlfriends reasons for splitting up are "what ifs". I then read your last response where you say your girl is ready to "settle down" but you are not sure if this is what you want? No wonder she has what ifs, seems she knows you better than you think! LD relationships are tough, people have to make life changing decisions if the relationship is to progress. No one can be blamed for taking time to think about it seriously. Your girlfriend is no more sure of your commitment and certainty than you are.... Wise move to put things on hold for a while, lets you have the time/space to be sure of what you want. Would be cruel to her and you to move things on when you are unsure as to what you really want. I know you are not a kid but maybe you are a bit young or as yet unready to "settle down" Good luck Morticia Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovinarms Posted December 17, 2003 Author Share Posted December 17, 2003 when i say that its just because im still in school and my first and number 1 priority is to finish. and another reason is cause i dont know if that is exactly what she wants, i dont want to just ask her that (cause if its not wow wouldnt that put a strain on things hehe) Link to post Share on other sites
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